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[alwayscold-dizzy-numb]

Me on my wedding day: you still like me right

[babylia444]

[stuckinapril]

This this this this!!!

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[aetas-aurea]

One of the most useful realizations I have come to about people and relationships generally is this: when someone reveals an ugly part of themselves in response to something you said or did, the temptation is to make yourself the subject of that sentence. If I hadn’t said that. If I hadn’t done that. If I had just been different in that specific moment then none of this would have happened and they would still be here and everything would be fine.

No. What you actually did was hand them a situation that required them to show you who they are, and they did. The insult, the retaliation, the disappearing act, the ghosting, the cruelty, the punishment, whatever form it took. That was already inside them fully formed and patient, waiting for a moment of sufficient pressure to make itself known. People are not driven to their worst behavior by the specific trigger. If it wasn’t this it would have been something else, a different day, a different disagreement, a different version of you doing a slightly different thing, and the outcome would have looked essentially the same because the outcome was always going to be determined by their character and not by your conduct.

[luvsixk444]

i only fw ppl who fw themselves first

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[enspiro]

Charles Zana décoration

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[aetas-aurea]

So many women have internalized the idea that being difficult makes people think less of them, when in my experience the opposite is almost always true. Every single time I have spoken up, voiced what I actually need and refused to shrink the moment in order to be more comfortable for everyone else in the room, I have been approached afterward by people who wanted to know me better. There is no reward waiting for you on the other side of making yourself smaller. People do not love you more for taking up less space, they simply get used to you taking up less space and adjust their expectations accordingly. Every time I have been exactly as audacious as the moment required, it has opened doors rather than closed them and I have made real connections directly because of it rather than in spite of it.

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[snappydoodle-deactivated2022051]

Sometimes you gotta make yourself drink water and sit in direct sunlight, like some kind of wilted houseplant

[cutiepiesub]

I like clingy. I like attention. I like affection. I like double texts. I like random calls. I like paragraphs.

[thepuppymasc]

A non-sexual, intimate bond that only you two understand.

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