ok, now - iām usually more of a hot pics/stories (re)blogger, butā¦
iāve noticed a proliferation ofĀ āworthless faggotā posts/tumblrs amongst our dearly beloved bdsm community. and itās starting to really worry me.
so hereās my two penniesā worth of thoughts about this trend:
- iām not worthless, a piece of shit, a pathetic loser, a disgrace - and neither are the boys anyone plays with.
- iām not an object, a soulless hole, ā¦. iām a f*cking human being with a life, a job, friends, feelings, a history, a dick, and a very active libido. if you canāt deal with that, run away and play with your right hand.
- am i a submissive gay boy? abso-friggin-lutely.
- do i like a partner to take control in the bedroom/playroom? hells yes.
- do i want to expand this to outside the bedroom? sure, with the right dom in the right kind of setting, if i feel confident enough with him. that requires communication, trust and collaboration, though - i.e. treating this sub as a full-on human being and the relationship as a real one.
- i like to serve. i wonāt and donāt want to serve absolutely every man, everywhere, nor do i lust after every cock-bearing human being i see. i mean, i take the subway every day -Ā ānuff said.
- i have no intention of mixing domination and money. thatās just crazy. getting into my ass doesnāt mean you get into my bank account.
- i have no self-esteem issues to live out through some extreme bdsm. if you do, which is far from unusual, see a therapist, not a rapist.
- yes, itās old news that some gay men like to be beaten for being gay. but itās the 21st century, for goodnessā sake - no-one really cares who you like to fuck in most of the tumblr readersā world today, so stop beating yourself up through others.
- sub boys/men are not girls by default. for me, i love being a man and feel no less manly because i like to obey my domās orders and serve him faithfully.
(some men are aroused when they are āfeminisedā, which is a completely different thing; but think of what it says about your views on women if that makes you feel ādegradedā. just sayinā.)
- iām worried i would have been scared away for good if iād bumped into this stuff, back when i was a not-exactly-innocent, sweet, kink-curious 16yo. and i worry about the kink education the very curious youth of today will have received by the time theyāre 18 and come to play with some of us. (or worse, what theyāll do to each other in the meantime)
- bullying is not bdsm. never was, never will be. thatās why itās called bullying.
- i donāt want the bdsm scene to become a āsuperhuman virile male vs. pathetic faggot objectā world. because then iāll leave too, for good.
- good doms love and deeply respect their subs. they may train them well, be stern when needed, but everything is always done with safety, love and respect in mind. anyone who doesnāt offer you this should be ignored and/or reported.
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