Sara Benincasa brought this to my attention.
For context, HERE is the portion of Ari Shaffir’s special that Damienne Merlina is responding to.
I have a lot of thoughts about this. In no particular order they are as follows.
I don’t know Damienne Merlina, but I think this was a fair, brave, and totally appropriate response.
I don’t know Ari Shaffir, but I would guess even he understands at this point that it is monstrously unethical and simply gross to name check a person on stage and on television in a bit that trashes their body and personhood.
I don’t believe in a lot of comedy rules. About punching up vs. punching down. What’s off limits and what’s fair game. Whether “getting laughs” doesn’t “count” as “making jokes.” Whether a comic is “just saying what EVERYONE is secretly thinking” or whether a comic is just secretly thinking awful things and hoping the audience validates his or her awfulness.
“Real standup” is usually a term used by insecure comics to disqualify performers who aren’t doing the exact same thing they are.
Instead I think everyone has the right to do what he/she thinks is funny and bear the consequences, good or bad.
(Just as everyone has the right to like what they like and dislike what they don’t.)
Which is to say, it’s absolutely Ari Shaffir’s right to include what seems to me (to me!) as a formless personal rant about a colleague—something that one might say among friends over drinks after a show—as part of his professional stage show and the hour that he wants to show to the world.
And I guess it’s even his right to use Damienne Merlina’s real name if he wants to, and take whatever heat that results. I’m sure he’s feeling it now.
I wouldn’t do it, and I don’t like it. But plenty of people don’t like my work, and I don’t bear Ari Shaffir any ill will. We have mutual friends, and this is just one part of one hour of a whole career.
But as a sometime employee of Comedy Central, it bothers me that this went to air. I don’t get why—if only from a legal perspective—they didn’t take Ari Shaffir aside and say, “hey, you don’t want to really do this, do you? Let’s maybe bleep out this person’s actual name.”
If Comedy Central finds this bit worthy of being part an hour special, that’s their choice. But why wouldn’t they protect Damienne, themselves, and even Ari from what I think we can all agree is just a grossly dumb and damaging and hurtful decision?