To be called Eudaimon is to embrace the noble journey of living a fulfilling life, where we strive for genuine happiness and contentment.
It's an inspiration to seek knowledge, develop good character, and walk the path of righteousness.
A happy life is one lived according to reason, either by spending a life in contemplation of things that do not change or living a practical life of virtue.
It translates as "good spirit', and which is commonly misinterpreted as 'happiness' or 'welfare'. Happiness is usually understood in the Enlightenment sense as a series of repeated pleasures. Eudaimonia, on the other hand, is activity across a lifetime. Eudaimonia is the highest human good, whereas real happiness is a state of feeling in oneself. It's a feeling one has about life!
sฤz-e-ulfat chhiแธ rahฤ hai ฤรฑsuoรฑ ke saaz par
muskurฤ.e ham to un ko bad-gumฤnฤซ ho ga.ฤซ
Explain these as if you are in this situation.
Explanation
arz-e-ahvฤl ko gilฤ samjhe
kyฤ kahฤ maiรฑ ne aap kyฤ samjhe
Translation
You took my expression of my state as a complaint
What did I say, and what did you understand?
In this couplet, the poet is expressing a deep sense of frustration and bewilderment. The speaker is pouring out their heart, sharing their innermost feelings and state of being, only to be misunderstood. The listener, instead of empathizing, perceives it as a complaint. The poet sarcastically questions the listener's comprehension, highlighting the chasm between what was said and what was understood. This miscommunication adds a layer of emotional complexity, as the speaker feels both unheard and misinterpreted.
sฤz-e-ulfat chhiแธ rahฤ hai ฤรฑsuoรฑ ke saaz par
muskurฤ.e ham to un ko bad-gumฤnฤซ ho ga.ฤซ
Translation:
The melody of love is being played on the instrument of tears but,
When I smiled, they became suspicious of me.
This couplet beautifully captures the paradox of love and sorrow. The poet uses the metaphor of a musical instrument to describe how their tears are the notes in the melody of love. It's a poignant image, suggesting that love and pain are intertwined. The second line adds a touch of irony and sarcasm. When the poet tries to mask their sorrow with a smile, the beloved becomes suspicious, perhaps thinking the smile is insincere or hiding something. This reaction adds to the poet's anguish, as even their attempts to appear happy are met with doubt and mistrust.
Misinterpretation and misunderstanding act like a swift poison, capable of destroying even the strongest of bonds within minutes. Regardless of the depth of your honesty or the strength of your relationship, these miscommunications can erode trust and connection rapidly, leaving emotional devastation in their wake.
While these couplets are rich in emotion and metaphor, they also reveal a somewhat pessimistic view of communication and relationships.
The first couplet underscores the difficulty of being truly understood, suggesting that even heartfelt expressions can be misconstrued. This can be seen as a critique of human relationships, where genuine emotions are often lost in translation.
The second couplet, while romantic in its imagery, also highlights the inherent suspicion and mistrust that can plague relationships. The poet's tears are a testament to their deep feelings, yet their smileโa universal sign of happinessโis met with skepticism. This duality can be seen as a commentary on the fragile nature of trust in romantic relationships.
The emotions expressed resonate deeply, almost like a haunting melody that lingers long after the song has ended. Itโs truly heartbreaking how love often intertwines with sorrow, as if they were dance partners in a tragic ballet. Genuine attempts at communication can feel like navigating a minefield, where every heartfelt expression risks being misinterpreted. Confusion and frustration bubble up when sincere feelings are met with suspicion, leaving a sense of isolation that feels heavier than a thousand-pound weight.
Itโs almost comical how the simplest words can spiral into misunderstandings, turning a sweet confession into a dramatic courtroom scene. One canโt help but wonder if thereโs a secret manual on how to misread emotions, because it seems like everyone has a copy. Thereโs a longing for clearer communication and deeper understanding in relationships, as if searching for a rare gem in a sea of pebbles.
This highlights the fragility of human connections, where a single misstep can shatter what was once a beautiful bond. Thank you for sharing these poignant thoughts; they reflect the emotional turmoil many face, reminding us that love is not just a feeling but a complex puzzle that often leaves us scratching our heads in bewilderment
Some examples
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dil hi to hai na sang-o-khisht dard se bhar na aaye kyun
roenge hum hazaar baar koi hamein sataye kyun
In this couplet, Ghalib emphasizes the vulnerability of the human heart. He questions why it shouldn't be filled with pain when it is not made of unfeeling materials. The poet also highlights the emotional complexity of enduring repeated torment, suggesting a deep sense of sorrow and resilience.
mujh se pehli si mohabbat mere mehboob na maang
maine samjha tha ke tu hai to darakhshaan hai hayaat
Translates:
Do not ask for the love I once gave you, my beloved
I had thought that if you were there, life would be radiant
The poet reflects on his past belief that the beloved's presence would make life bright and beautiful. This couplet captures the emotional complexity of lost love and the miscommunication of expectations.
raanjhฤ raaรฑjhฤ kardi ni maiรฑ ฤpe raaรฑjhฤ hoi
saddo ni meรฑu dhฤซdo raaรฑjhฤ, heer na ฤkhล koi
Faraz delves into the theme of identity and transformation through love. The poet suggests that by constantly invoking the name of the beloved, he has lost his own identity and become one with the beloved. This couplet explores the emotional complexity of losing oneself in love and the miscommunication of one's true self.
wo to khushbu hai hawaon mein bikhar jaayega
masla phool ka hai phool kidhar jaayega
Parveen Shakir uses the metaphor of fragrance and flower to explore the theme of separation and loss. The poet suggests that while the beloved's essence will remain in the air, the real issue lies with the one who is left behind. This couplet captures the emotional complexity of dealing with loss and the miscommunication of permanence.
ab nahi koi baat khatre ki
ab sabhi ko sabhi se khatra hai
Jaun Elia's couplet reflects a deep sense of mistrust and paranoia. The poet suggests that the world has become a place where everyone is suspicious of everyone else, highlighting the emotional complexity of living in such an environment. This couplet explores the theme of miscommunication and the breakdown of trust in relationships.
Rebuilding trust and repairing miscommunication with a blend of hope, introspection, and emotional depth is necessary.
As there are many ways poets do so few examples are mentioned below
hazฤroรฑ แธณhvฤhishแบฝ aisฤซ ki har แธณhvฤhish pe dam nikle
bahut nikle mire armaan lekin phir bhฤซ kam nikle
Translation:
Thousands of desires, each worth dying for
Many of my wishes were fulfilled, yet they were too few
Ghalib reflects on the multitude of desires and the fulfillment of some, yet he acknowledges that they are never enough. This couplet can be interpreted as a metaphor for the continuous effort required to rebuild trust and repair miscommunication. The poet suggests that despite achieving some level of understanding, the journey is ongoing and requires persistent effort.
dil na-umฤซd to nahฤซรฑ nฤkฤm hฤซ to hai
lambฤซ hai ฤกham kฤซ shaam magar shaam hฤซ to hai
Translation:
The heart is not hopeless, just unsuccessful
The evening of sorrow is long, but it is just an evening
Faiz offers a message of hope and resilience. He acknowledges the presence of sorrow and failure but emphasizes that these are temporary. This couplet encourages the idea that trust can be rebuilt and miscommunication can be repaired with patience and perseverance.
wo to khushbu hai hawฤoรฑ meรฑ bikhar jฤ.egฤ
masla phool kฤ hai phool kidhar jฤ.egฤ
Translation
He is like a fragrance that will spread in the air
The problem is with the flower, where will the flower go?
Parveen Shakir uses the metaphor of fragrance and flowers to convey the idea of enduring presence and the challenges of separation. She suggests that while the essence of a person (trust) can linger, the physical presence (relationship) needs nurturing and care to survive. This couplet emphasizes the importance of continuous effort in maintaining and rebuilding trust
ab ke hum bichhแธe to shฤyad kabhฤซ แธณhvฤboรฑ meรฑ mileรฑ
jis tarah sลซkhe hue phool kitฤboรฑ meรฑ mileรฑ
Translation
If we part now, perhaps we will meet in dreams
Like dried flowers found in books.
Jaun Elia poignantly reflects on the possibility of meeting again after separation. He uses the metaphor of dried flowers in books to suggest that memories and trust can be preserved and revisited. This couplet highlights the idea that even after miscommunication and separation, there is hope for reconciliation and rebuilding trust.
I hope you work towards your relationship. All the best
She, a small flower, trying to bloom amidst the cold, unfeeling concrete. A world that overlooked her, trampled her like an undesirable weed. But then, he appeared, the self-proclaimed savior, breaking through the barriers to save her fragile roots. Oh, how good! He replanted her in a field, a supposed haven where she could grow wild and free.
But let me ask you this: Can a mere change in scenery truly alter the course of one's existence? Can it erase the scars of neglect and indifference? Alas, my dear, the answer is a resounding no. For even in this so-called paradise of freedom, she remains a small flower, struggling to survive in a world that cares little for her delicate beauty.
Oh, the bitter irony of it all! The promise of liberation, of wild growth, only serves to mock her. It is as if life itself revels in playing cruel tricks on the unsuspecting souls who dare to hope for something more. The field, once seen as a sanctuary, becomes just another stage in life's tragicomedy, where disappointment takes center stage and the curtain never seems to fall.
So, my dear, let us not be fooled by the illusion of rescue and freedom. Let us not be swayed by the false promises of a better life. For in this world, where pessimism reigns and irony dances with every step, the small flower will continue to struggle, her roots searching for nourishment amidst the barren soil.
But perhaps, in her struggle, there lies a glimmer of resilience, a defiance against the odds. For even in the face of indifference and neglect, she persists, reaching for the sun, determined to bloom, even if it is in the most unlikely of places.
So let us raise a glass to the small flower, to her tenacity and her refusal to be defined by the concrete that surrounds her. May she find solace in her own existence, and may we, in turn, find solace in the beauty of her ironic and pessimistic journey.
In the depths of my emotional abyss, I grapple with the ache of longing. I'm desperately reaching for the faintest glimmer of your existence. The darkness that engulfs me feels suffocating, and I find myself yearning for a fleeting connectionโhoping that perhaps our souls have brushed against each other in the vast, churning ocean of life. It's a visceral ache, like an anchor weighing down my heart, dragging me deeper into a pit of despair. The thought that our paths might forever remain parallel, never to intertwine in a meaningful embrace, is a haunting presence that lingers in the recesses of my soul.
Yet, amidst this emotional turmoil, a delicate ember of longing ignites within me. It's a fragile flicker of hope, refusing to be extinguished by the shadows. This ember is fueled by the possibility that, against all odds, our souls might bridge the seemingly insurmountable gap between us. I hold on to this hope with a fervor that borders on desperation, clinging to the belief that fate may guide us to a shared shore where our connection can flourish and evolve. Your presence, even if distant, becomes a metaphorical lighthouseโcasting a feeble yet comforting glow amidst the stormy sea of solitude, promising a chance for our lives to intersect in a radiant and genuine embrace.
And now, the poignant irony of our circumstances weaves a complex tapestry of emotions. In this era of digital interconnectedness, we communicate and share our thoughts, yet the poignant ache of true closeness persists. We're caught in a paradox of our modern ageโsurrounded by screens that bridge distances, yet yearning for the tangible warmth of emotional intimacy. The irony lies in our ability to express ourselves through the digital realm, while the profound depths of our hearts' desires remain an enigmaโburied beneath the waves of the vast, virtual ocean. It's a dichotomy that tugs at the strings of our emotions, a bitter and sweet reminder of the complexities of human connection in this digital age.
"In the ocean of yearning, our souls may forever drift apart, lost in the shadows of missed connections and unfulfilled dreams."
Certainly! Life, as seen through the eyes of a writer, is a tapestry woven with threads of both optimism and pessimism. Itโs a canvas where the ordinary and the extraordinary coexist, each revealing a different facet of existence. In the quiet moments, we find solace. The flowing water becomes our teacher. The wind, too, has its lessonsโhow it blows with urgency, urging us to seize the present. We realize that time walks faster than our heartbeat; it slips through our fingers like sand. And then there are the hidden smilesโthe most beautiful creations that bear untold stories. Flowers bloom despite their thorns; rainbows emerge after storms. Children live their lives at full tilt, unburdened by the weight of adulthood. Their laughter echoes in playgrounds where they once played in their mothersโ laps. These moments are our jannatโthe paradise we seek.
Yet, reality casts its shadow. Dreams remain unfulfilled; dilkashi fades like an old photograph. We chase after silver tears when golden sunlight beckons. Society imposes its script upon usโexpectations of success, conformity, and conventionality. We wonder if weโve lost something along the wayโthe innocence of childhood or the courage to defy norms.
But perhaps thereโs a room beyond these wallsโa hidden chamber where authenticity resides. Ankhein aur zehen khula jaye toh ek kamra bhi jhaaan hai. In that room, we can rewrite our narrative. We can choose to live as others say or explore uncharted paths. Maybe therein lies the keyโto find our own symphony amid lifeโs cacophony.
The wind, too, has its lessonsโhow it blows with urgency, urging us to seize the present. We realize that time walks faster than our heartbeat; it slips through our fingers like sand.
And then there are the hidden smilesโthe most beautiful creations that bear untold stories. Flowers bloom despite their thorns; rainbows emerge after storms. Children live their lives at full tilt, unburdened by the weight of adulthood. Their laughter echoes in playgrounds where they once played in their mothersโ laps. These moments are our jannatโthe paradise we seek.Yet, reality casts its shadow. Dreams remain unfulfilled; dilkashi fades like an old photograph. We chase after silver tears when golden sunlight beckons. Society imposes its script upon usโexpectations of success, conformity, and conventionality. We wonder if weโve lost something along the wayโthe innocence of childhood or the courage to defy norms.
But perhaps thereโs a room beyond these wallsโa hidden chamber where authenticity resides. Ankhein aur zehen khula jaye toh ek kamra bhi jhaaan hai. In that room, we can rewrite our narrative. We can choose to live as others say or explore uncharted paths. Maybe therein lies the keyโto find our own symphony amid lifeโs cacophony.
Behtar tha ki mujhse door rehkar dushmani krlete yeh mujhe rehkar hi mujhe maar dene ka shauq bht khaufnaak tha
Isko thoda sa explain krein
It would have been better if you had stayed away from me and hated me.
Your desire to kill me while staying inside me was very terrifying.
You betrayed my trust and love, and hurt me deeply.
You did not care about my feelings or my life.
You only wanted to destroy me and make me suffer.
You were not a friend, but an enemy in disguise.
The pain of betrayal is unbearable. Someone who was supposed to love, care, and protect you has turned out to be your worst enemy. Someone who was supposed to be your partner in life has left you alone and shattered. Someone who was supposed to be your source of happiness has caused you nothing but misery. You have been cheated, lied to, and hurt by the person you trusted the most. You have been robbed of your dignity, your self-esteem, and your peace of mind. You have been thrown into a pit of despair, where there is no light, no hope, no escape.
> You might wonder why this happened to you. Why did you deserve this? What did you do wrong? How could you be so blind? How could you be so foolish? How could you be so unlucky? You might blame yourself for everything, for not seeing the signs, for not listening to your intuition, for not being enough. You might think that you are the problem, that you are the cause, that you are the curse. You might think that this is your fate, that this is your punishment.
>This wound will either fester or heal. This loss will either end your life or begin a new one. You canโt escape these thoughts, feelings and words. They haunt you, hurt you and label you. You are the problem, and they were the cause and the curse.You are a human being, who has been abused by another human being. You are a victim, who has been wounded by a perpetrator. You are a survivor, who has suffered a trauma. And as a survivor, you have no choice. And trust me this was the strongest slap that you will ever recieve in life because traumas make great people.This experience will either destroy you or change you.
> It won't be easy. It won't be quick. It won't be painless. But it will be worth it. Because you are worth it. Because you deserve better. Because you have more to offer. Because you have more to live for. Because you have more to love for. Don't give up on yourself. Don't give up on your dreams. Don't give up on your happiness. Don't give up on your future. Don't give up on your life.
> This is my message to you: **You are not alone**. There are many people who care about you, who support you, who believe in you. There are many people who have gone through what you have gone through, who have felt what you have felt, who have learned what you have learned. They are your allies, your mentors, your friends. They are here to help you, to guide you, to inspire you.
They are here to show you that **you are a warrior**.
You planted a seed of hate in my heart, and watered it with your lies. You hoped to see me wilt and die, but you only made me grow and thrive.You stabbed me in the heart with your words, and twisted the knife with your actions. You wished to see me bleed and cry, but you only made me heal and smile. โคโ๐ฉน
"If you want to destroy any nation without war,
make adultery or nudity common in the younger generation.
In the past, families in Western societies were considered relatively strong and stable. At that time, nudity was less prevalent in society and adultery was not a common practice among most people. However, things have changed significantly over the years.
Some argue that as nudity has become more accepted and visible in Western culture, it has led to a rise in adulterous behaviors. With adultery now much more widespread, divorce rates have increased dramatically. This has created instability in many households in Western civilizations.
As families have broken down, with more divorces and separated children, it has taken a huge mental and emotional toll on society. Many individuals are suffering from increased stress and mental health issues as a result. Relationships that were once stable seem to constantly fall apart.
It is suggested that this trend began as nudity and adultery became normalized parts of society. Without strong, intact family units, some say people have turned to pets like dogs and cats for companionship instead.
The dynamics of relationships and how younger generations connect through social media are complex issues influenced by many factors. For many youth today, social media plays a significant role in shaping behaviours and desires. Seeing peers and older acquaintances engage in unethical or casual relationships online can make similar conduct seem appealing.
From a scientific perspective, puberty brings biological changes as dopamine levels fluctuate during development. In particular, dopamine receptors demand greater stimulation for the same feelings of happiness and satisfaction as children mature.
In the past before widespread internet access, sources of dopamine were often real-world accomplishments. However, today there are abundant virtual dopamine triggers readily available through activities like scrolling feeds, binge watching, and showing off possessions or experiences online.
Chasing fleeting feelings of superiority by having something others lack can provide powerful instant gratification for developing minds. Meanwhile, meaningful achievements requiring sustained effort seem relatively difficult. When easy dopamine sources proliferate, it is natural for youth to pursue those avenues, including emulating peers' social behaviours.
Another common source of the dopamine rush many seek is intimate physical affection before marriage. In some circles today, publicly displaying such behaviour has become a way to gain status.
When discussing this topic, the concept of "gairat" or honour is relevant. In a climate where instant gratification is often prioritized over deeper virtues, some argue this diminishes the importance placed on principles of honour and conscience.
From a religious viewpoint, pre-marital intimacy is traditionally viewed as forbidden across faiths, with some modern interpretations being more permissive. However, upholding such standards requires sufficient guidance.
A major factor potentially contributing to the situation is inconsistent parenting due to societal pressures. As many parents dedicate extensive efforts to financial success for their children's sake, some suggest this can undermine providing strong moral upbringing or "tarbiyat."
With inadequate guidance regarding virtuous decision-making, the analysis presents that youth may be more vulnerable to sacrificing honour by indulging fleeting temptations instead of focusing on higher principles and long-term well-being. Overall, a multifaceted discussion is warranted on this nuanced topic.
Often, youth seek advice from older peers/seniors regarding romantic/sexual relationships and cultural practices, as they feel too shy or embarrassed to discuss such topics with parents. However, some seniors do not provide proper counsel to younger individuals.
Rather than discouraging casual or inappropriate behaviours, some seniors endorse and encourage such conduct. When youth approach seniors for guidance on cultural/religious values or relationships, seniors should take the time to discuss issues thoughtfully.
They could explain concepts like honour, modesty and virtue in a relatable manner, instead of simply condoning risky actions. Effectively steering youth towards strong principles requires patience and leading by positive personal example. Unfortunately, the lack of suitable direction from some seniors contributes to wider social issues seen today regarding relationships and cultural norms.
Guiding new generations necessitates that those in advising roles provide caring counsel focused on long-term well-being, not short-term indulgences or flexing status.
"When easy dopamine sources proliferate through casual displays of affection and a lack of modesty, it becomes difficult for youth to prioritize virtues of honour and character"
Now what is "GAIRAT"?
The term "gairat" refers to the concept of honour and self-respect. It involves safeguarding one's dignity and maintaining a sense of pride.
Gairat is closely tied to cultural norms, particularly in South Asian societies. It encompasses ideas of protecting one's reputation through modest behaviour and adherence to traditional values.
In Islamic teachings, developing gairat is encouraged as a way to promote virtue. It is viewed as an important part of a believer's character that demonstrates commitment to living according to Islamic principles.
Gairat reflects the importance placed on upholding standards of conduct to maintain honour. When gairat is diminished, it can result in actions that compromise one's dignity.
The article suggests that poor upbringing of children's religious and moral development, or "deen", is closely linked to weak development of their sense of gairat. Insufficient guidance regarding Islamic principles and values makes youth more vulnerable to behaviours that disrespect cultural norms of honour.
The concept of "gairat" in Islam is closely tied to another principle known as "geerah". Geerah involves protecting one's modesty and preventing private areas/attractions from being exposed or seen by strangers of the opposite sex.
Specifically, it is considered that a man should lower his gaze and avoid direct observation of unrelated women, while a woman should dress and present herself discreetly to avoid attracting unwanted attention from men.
Sometimes women may misunderstand a husband's reminders regarding proper Islamic dress code or interactions as overly restrictive or controlling. However, the article explains this is actually a display of "gheeraah" or protectiveness on his part.
As the man is more aware of inappropriate behaviours some men may exhibit, limiting unnecessary interactions or exposure of one's wife/sisters helps ensure their honour and safety from potential harassment or advances. Allowing close female relations to engage freely with strangers in a way that invites attention undermines the principles of geerah and modesty in public settings. In essence, only immediate male family members have a right to engage with a woman without boundaries.
When seniors condone acts that gairat cannot bear
And parents to money give all, values they don't share
With none to teach right from wrong at virtue they scoff
Young hearts then fall prey to desires that honor scar
Explanation:
The couplet explores how a lack of proper guidance from both peers and parents can weaken a sense of "gairat" or honor in youth.
The first line suggests that when older individuals endorse behavior contrary to principles of honor, it has negative influence.
The second line depicts parents who focus solely on financial success without imparting strong moral/religious upbringing.
With no one to instruct youth in distinguishing right from wrong, as mentioned in the third line, they come to dismiss virtue.
Lastly, without gairat to check them, young hearts then easily succumb to tempting desires that damage their honor, as the couplet's conclusion expresses.
The situation is that I'm trying to avoid thinking about my own situation.
~JAUN ELIA
Embrace your fate,
with courage and grace,
For within challenges,
wisdom finds its place."
Embracing Fate: The Path to Wisdom and Resilience
Life is a journey filled with ups and downs, triumphs and tribulations. It is during these challenging moments that we have the opportunity to grow, learn, and discover our true potential. In the words of an ancient proverb, "Embrace thy fate, with courage and grace, for within challenges, wisdom finds its place." This profound statement encapsulates the essence of embracing our fate and the transformative power it holds. In this article, we will delve deeper into the significance of embracing our fate, the role of courage and grace, and how challenges can lead to wisdom.
Embracing fate means accepting the circumstances and events that unfold in our lives, whether they are favorable or unfavorable. By embracing our fate, we shift our focus from resistance to acceptance, allowing us to navigate through life's challenges with a sense of purpose and resilience.
Courage empowers us to face adversity head-on, to confront our fears, and to take risks. It is the fuel that propels us forward, even in the face of uncertainty. Grace, on the other hand, is the ability to maintain composure and dignity amidst difficult circumstances. It is the art of finding inner peace and tranquility, regardless of the external chaos.
Challenges are not obstacles to be avoided but opportunities for growth and self-discovery. They serve as catalysts for personal development, pushing us beyond our comfort zones and expanding our horizons. When we embrace challenges with an open mind and a willingness to learn, we unlock a wealth of wisdom that would otherwise remain hidden. Each challenge presents a unique set of lessons and insights, allowing us to gain a deeper understanding of ourselves and the world around us.
Wisdom is the culmination of knowledge, experience, and introspection. It is the ability to discern what truly matters and make informed decisions. When we embrace our fate and navigate through challenges with courage and grace, we open ourselves up to the wisdom that lies within. Through reflection and self-examination, we gain valuable insights into our strengths, weaknesses, and values. This wisdom guides us in making choices that align with our authentic selves and leads us towards a more fulfilling and purposeful life.
May we embrace our fate wholeheartedly, and may wisdom be our constant companion on this remarkable journey called life.
The question included watching a best friend leave and not being able to stop them
The answer:
hey no one stays forever. Losing a friend doesnโt mean losing the memories you shared with them. You can cherish the positive aspects of your friendship and celebrate the impact they had on your life.Be with people who understand your grief. Sometimes, people may not appreciate the scale of your loss or the impact it has on you. They may say things like โItโs just a friendโ or โYouโll make new onesโ. Accept your feelings. Itโs normal and healthy to grieve for a lost friendship. Donโt try to suppress or deny your emotions, as this can make them worse.
โThere is such terrible vacancy in my thoughts lately. It is not a lack of feeling. It is something darker, it is something else. There is pure vacancy in there, do you understand? It is pure. And I am scared.โ
โ Anne Sexton, from โA Self-Portrait In Letters.โ
Navigating the Sea of Uncertainty: A Journey to Self-Discovery
In the vast landscape of human existence, numerous questions and uncertainties arise. One such inquiry that has perplexed countless individuals is the notion of "pure vacancy." This term conveys a sense of unease, fear, and even dread, as it portrays a vacuum devoid of meaning or purpose.
The genesis of this vacancy often connects from feelings of disorientation and uncertainty about one's role in the grand paranoidity of life. Such existentialย puzzlement have captivated thinkers for ages.
Yet, the pursuit of self-reflection and wisdom holds the potential to alleviate the anxiety that arises from this vacuity. By delving into one's own mind and engaging in contemplation, individuals may unravel the enigmas that haunt them. The philosopher Heraclitus once posited, "Character is destiny," implying that through the development of virtuous traits and ethical conduct, we may discover a sense of purpose and fulfillment.
During periods of uncertainty, dialogue with others is essential, as it is through the sharing of ideas that we may illuminate our own inner turmoil. The pursuit of wisdom and self-knowledge is a lofty endeavor that demands our utmost commitment.
Therefore, remember that even in the face of uncertainty, the pursuit of wisdom and self-knowledge is a lofty endeavor that deserves our utmost dedication.
Who has learned only from words, everyone needs a calamity. This quote is attributed to Jaun elia
The quote implies that life is not a smooth journey, but a series of trials and tribulations that test our character and resilience. Words can only convey so much, and often they fall short of capturing the reality and complexity of the situations we face. Therefore, we need to go through some calamities or difficulties that force us to confront our fears, doubts, weaknesses, and mistakes. These calamities can be personal, such as losing a loved one, failing an exam, or breaking up with a partner; or they can be collective, such as facing a natural disaster, a pandemic, or a war. Whatever the nature of the calamity, it serves as a catalyst for learning and growth. It makes us realize our strengths and potentials, as well as our limitations and flaws. It teaches us valuable lessons about ourselves, others, and the world. It helps us develop empathy, compassion, humility, courage, and wisdom. It also makes us appreciate the things we often take for granted, such as health, happiness, freedom, and peace. In short, the quote suggests that calamities are not merely obstacles or misfortunes, but opportunities for transformation and enlightenment. They are necessary for us to learn from life, rather than just from words.
But.. .
Who has learned only from calamities, everyone needs words of comfortโ. This is a counter-argument to the original quote, which suggests that calamities are not the only or the best way to learn from life. It acknowledges that calamities can cause pain, trauma, and suffering, and that sometimes we need words of comfort and support to heal and cope. Words can be powerful and effective, and they can convey love, kindness, hope, and encouragement. Therefore, we need to listen to and speak words that uplift our spirits, inspire our minds, and soothe our hearts. Words can also help us express our emotions, share our experiences, and learn from others. They can connect us with people who understand us, empathize with us, and guide us. They can also expose us to different perspectives, cultures, and knowledge. In short, this opposite thought approach implies that words are not merely superficial or inadequate, but essential and beneficial. They are necessary for us to comfort and learn from each other, rather than just from calamities.
โCalamities are the teachers of life, but words are the interpreters of wisdom.โ
The couplet that has been written can be translated as:
I agree that this lonely moment is very tough But my heart, stay calm, it is just one moment Be brave, you still have a lifetime to live.
You say that this lonely one moment is very tough But my heart, donโt lie, it is not just one moment It is an endless cycle of pain and grief You have no courage, you have no hope to live. This is your purpose in the world. You are here to endure all this and this is real. It won't get any better, my dear self, but you will get braver to face it. Fight for the emotions that are always ignored by the mind. You, my heart, are meant to suffer and this is not the only trial you to face. There are more challenges ahead, so be prepared.
You are not the only one who feels this way. There are many others who understand your pain. They are here to support you and lend a hand They are your friends, your family, your fellow humans
You have a choice to make every day You can let the darkness consume you or find a ray of light You can dwell on the past or look forward to the future You can give in to despair or fight for your dreams
You have a voice that can be heard by many.You can use it to inspire and uplift others.You can share your story and your wisdom.You can make a difference and a positive impact.
You have a heart that is strong and brave. You can love yourself and others unconditionally. You can heal from your wounds and grow from your mistakes.You can be happy and at peace with yourself.
In the tapestry of life, the memories we shared with our loved ones are like precious gems, woven into the fabric of our existence. Each memory holds a unique story, a moment frozen in time, forever etched in our hearts.
The beauty of life lies in the connections we make and the memories we create. We learn to appreciate the laughter we shared through the pain of loss, and we find the strength to heal from the emptiness in our hearts.
Life is indeed a mysterious journey, and our paths may cross again in ways we cannot yet comprehend. In death, as in life, we find a connection that transcends the limitations of mere existence. We were denied the chance to truly live, to experience the joys and sorrows side by side. It is through our actions and the impact we have on others that we leave a lasting legacy.
In the memories we hold, the universal emotions of love, loss, and remembrance unite us all.
Though our journey together was cut short, I find solace in the knowledge that our souls are forever intertwined. In the realm beyond, where Allah guides us, we shall find each other once more.
The foundation of connection lies in trust, respect, and the understanding of mutual exclusivity. Should you choose to engage in flirtatious or physical interactions with another person, it would constitute a breach of the boundaries we have established. Such actions would signify a lack of loyalty and disregard for the commitment.
In the event of such a situation, it would be necessary to easily pull yourself out from the connection, as it would indicate a fundamental breakdown of trust and a violation of the expectations we have mutually set. It is of utmost importance for both parties to prioritize open and honest communication, faithfulness, and the honoring of the commitments we have made in order to foster a healthy and fulfilling relationship.
One person can positively change your perspective on life, bringing immense joy and happiness. Choosing someone who genuinely makes you happy is important, even if it goes against societal expectations. It's about finding someone who appreciates and supports you. Remembering the positive impact they have had on your life brings happiness and gratitude.
But...
Realizing how one person can drastically alter your outlook on life and steal your happiness. Feeling the desire to break free from haunting dreams and questioning the satisfaction gained from hurting someone's belief in love for social media validation. Accepting that moving on was the right decision. Recognizing that the person doesn't deserve a detailed explanation of their behavior. Deserving someone who is consistently present and genuinely cares about your well-being.
In many cases, it's disheartening to realize that you are often misunderstood by the people around you. They may try to exert control over you, disguising their actions as acts of love and concern. However, upon closer examination, their true intentions become clear.
Some individuals may manipulate your emotions, using guilt or emotional blackmail to keep you under their control. They may claim to have your best interests at heart, but their actions reveal a selfish desire for power and dominance.
It should empower you to grow and thrive, rather than drain your mental health and manipulate your emotions.
Remember, you deserve love that is genuine, compassionate, and reciprocated.
