14 things I learned after a toxic relationship:
1. Sometimes you just need to be alone no matter how lonely you get..
2. When you look back you’ll remember that it wasn’t all bad, and this will fuck you up. You have to remember everything that was bad too, the bad is just as important as the good. Do not get confused.
3. Your heart will ache and break. You will miss them. Do not call. Do not message them. Leave them blocked, trust me.
4. Delete all of your pictures. EVERY. SINGLE. ONE. It will be hard, and you will hesitate, you may even cry, but delete them. They’re just empty memories.
5. Once a liar, always a liar.
6. Take care of yourself first. Be selfish. Surround yourself with everything that makes you happy- friends, books, naps. It doesn’t matter. You need to love yourself and be the happiest you can be first.
7. Don’t message their friends asking how they are. Remember, they probably don’t care how you’re doing. It’ll just leave you with a bigger pit in your stomach.
8. DO NOT FIND A REBOUND. Let yourself be broken for a while. Reconstruct yourself. You need it. Do not get under someone to get over someone else.
9. If you have any of their things at this point, burn them. Seriously, it’s worth it. (And it feels great!!)
10. Let go. This is the most important. You have to be strong enough to move on and live your life and let go. Don’t reminisce on what could’ve been or should’ve been. Don’t think back and blame yourself for their mistakes. Let it go, it’s their loss.
11. Spread your curtains open and crack your window- nature is the best antidepressant.
12. Wash. Your. Sheets. Get rid of every energy, negative or positive that belonged to your relationship. Get rid of their touch and their scent, you don’t need it anymore.
13. Open up. Don’t let your thoughts and emotions bottle up. Write them down, talk to a friend, scream it at the top of a mountain, but never let it sink so far inside you that you’re too scared to speak.
14. Remind yourself that your happiness is coming. You will find the one, even if you think there is no hope. Just wait. Be patient.