I think catraās touch aversion is very overlooked in a way. the abuse she faced was psychological but almost always paired with physical violence and threats. and while adora being repressed definitely plays a role itās catra who often initiates touch between them and to me itās reads that maybe they both subconsciously think catra needs to in order for it to be okay. catra is often on edge regarding physical touch and even with adora she has very blatantly rejected it numerous times and gotten into her own head, misconstruing adoraās intentions
that being said i think regarding intimacy that type of vulnerability would be very hard for her. i think people read catraās stubborn and independent attitude as just being ābrattyā/a secret want to be taken care of in the typical fandom fashion of silly sexual discussions but thereās deep seated trauma there in the same way adora struggles with allowing herself to want things or be taken care of. catra canāt be vulnerable because shes spent her entire life in a very vulnerable position and was abused at every turn into subservience. so i donāt think she just easily fits into a box of relinquishing control in the bedroom or receiving all the time
I mean I think some of the fandom seeing her as "bratty" is also to do with the specific ways she teases/taunts people, especially in fights. But even when she's getting along with people--hell, in the future vision/flash thing she hides behind Adora and sticks her tongue out at Glimmer. (Yes yes that's Adora's fantasy of her but still.)
But otherwise agreed!
And it's tricky, because as fans we mostly want them to be happy? Even in post-canon fics where they're struggling with their trauma, the sex/intimacy is usually good, or the hiccups are easily overcome. I think some of this is just the assumption that they know each other really well, as well as the sheer chemistry they have on-screen. (Once again linking this excellent essay about She-Ra's portrayal of desire.) But also: we just want to think about them having good sex! I know I find it difficult to write them struggling with sex/intimacy.
Anyway back to your main point, I actually talked about this on twitter just like a week ago
that is also true! i meant to add that she does enjoy riling people up so i dont think it just has zero basis but that rather sometimes her specific stubbornness etc is conflated with that personality trait.
and i understand people wanting them to be happy i haha i love a good post war fic where theyāre just being cute. i just thought it was interesting that thereās a lot of discussion around trauma responses for them naturally given the nature of their characters but less so with intimacy (not even inherently sexual at that) like we know catra lashes out and holds anger out of fear while adora self sacrifices so i thought it was interesting that catra being touch averse which goes hand in hand with that isnāt talked about as much. thank you for your input i very much agree with your thread!!
I think catraās touch aversion is very overlooked in a way. the abuse she faced was psychological but almost always paired with physical violence and threats. and while adora being repressed definitely plays a role itās catra who often initiates touch between them and to me itās reads that maybe they both subconsciously think catra needs to in order for it to be okay. catra is often on edge regarding physical touch and even with adora she has very blatantly rejected it numerous times and gotten into her own head, misconstruing adoraās intentions
that being said i think regarding intimacy that type of vulnerability would be very hard for her. i think people read catraās stubborn and independent attitude as just being ābrattyā/a secret want to be taken care of in the typical fandom fashion of silly sexual discussions but thereās deep seated trauma there in the same way adora struggles with allowing herself to want things or be taken care of. catra canāt be vulnerable because shes spent her entire life in a very vulnerable position and was abused at every turn into subservience. so i donāt think she just easily fits into a box of relinquishing control in the bedroom or receiving all the time
I think catraās touch aversion is very overlooked in a way. the abuse she faced was psychological but almost always paired with physical violence and threats. and while adora being repressed definitely plays a role itās catra who often initiates touch between them and to me itās reads that maybe they both subconsciously think catra needs to in order for it to be okay. catra is often on edge regarding physical touch and even with adora she has very blatantly rejected it numerous times and gotten into her own head, misconstruing adoraās intentions
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catradora black swan auā¦reminiscent of the film specifically because nina is what Iād imagine an adora thatās completely left to shadow weaverās devices would be like. and then catra as lily of course
people talk about adoraās ātypeā being big strong women and catra falling outside of that but Iād argue that despite catraās stature she fits adoraās type energy wise. exhibit a in shot in the dark where thereās a big concrete wall in their way and catra cuts and then kicks right through it to create a door. and then exhibit b being that catra doesnāt hesitate to take on anybody thatās like, three times her size. when they were enemies adora very much saw catra as a formidable threat strategically And physically
thinking about catradora from adoraās perspective is so tragicā¦like she spent 15 years or so with the catra we see in the first two episodes and the promise flashbacks no wonder she couldnāt let go. she saw catraās playfulness, her vulnerability, her capacity to be kind and good and couldnāt fully separate it from who she was becoming as she rose through horde ranks.
also while we see adora is also obviously silly especially with glimmer and bow I feel like people forget that with adora before they were enemies catra is always joking around with her etc and I might even go as far and say that catra was the more playful one and she brings it out of adora. i think the roles are reversed when they come back together as catra has only just stopped isolating herself from people and is severely depressed (adora is too but catra spent that time in the horde rather than a healthy environment) but yeah.
thinking about catradora from adoraās perspective is so tragicā¦like she spent 15 years or so with the catra we see in the first two episodes and the promise flashbacks no wonder she couldnāt let go. she saw catraās playfulness, her vulnerability, her capacity to be kind and good and couldnāt fully separate it from who she was becoming as she rose through horde ranks.
an interesting part of catradoraās enemy phase is that catra did want to hurt adora at one point (it just wasnāt fulfilling as we see in season 4) but itās not simply out of hatred itās because she loved adora so much. and itās not apologism for her actions but key to the remember episode where she says āyou always have to go and ruin it, donāt you?ā
catra loves adora and simply wants to be with her and thereās a (albeit fake) universe where they can have that without the abuse and being pit against one another. but it seems like adora is always flaking out because she has to āplay the heroā. we as the audience know this is just another way of shadow weaverās manipulation impacting catra but thatās catraās viewpoint. she loves adora but adora only cares about being recognized as being āweakā peopleās savior and itās an idea that taints her childhood memories of them too. so yeah catra did want to hurt adora, because she loved her and was willing to take on the brunt of physical abuse and suffering to be with her yet adora only ever cared to be the peopleās āfavoriteā, first with shadow weaverās and then the princesses. (āwhereās adora right now huh? off playing the hero? get used to it.ā)
adora finds some comfort in simple or more toned down femininity, setting aside the rigid soldier practicality her life has revolved around. meanwhile catra in an effort to become the best leader in the horde, takes on a more feminine look as a āweaponā. femininity as degradation of the psyche in her case while complete uniformity depicts adoraās lack of care for herself outside of her own productivity.
catradora outfits post war when they donāt have to dress practically are just like, catra wearing pants that have a ridiculous amount of holes in them and belts that do nothing for her (fashion purposes). and adora is almost in tears when someone buys her a sweatshirt or t-shirt with a horse on it
we talk about how catra would struggle with the physical trauma of shadow weaver, prime etc but i wonder what sheād struggle with in the mental regard post war. sheās someone whoās been denied autonomy, consistently verbally degraded and explicitly told that the only reason sheās allowed to be around is because of adoraās liking to her. and even then sheās told that sheās a bad influence and essentially sullies adora and her future.
obviously this plays out with her rise to power and she āprovesā that sheās beyond capable. but i do wonder if/how sheād struggle with complete independence and love thatās not conflated with her ranking or proximity to adora
i also like how allegorical homophobia can come to play into this. shadow weaver says it more outright that catra distracts and confuses adora. and while itās not true, the idea is really as simple as that as to why catra is shadow weaverās other target.
very reflective of how people that are perceived as queer ā (usually nonconforming on top of the obvious feelings displayed) specifically as lesbians in this case ā are treated. obviously adora isnāt straight and loves catra as well but shadow weaver just canāt have that as she needs to harness adoraās power and nor does she get it as being this symbol of power is more important to her than anything else. and on top of that, adoraās power as she-ra was initially being used as a source of oppression by the first ones.
got a little off topic there but yeah. what do you do when youāre dating the girl youāve loved your entire life but you were also told was better than you in every way. and that youāre worthless and her relationship with you would ruin Her future. and that essentially your almost ādirtinessā negatively influences her and confuses her. if adora is the repression side catra is just abuse turning into internalized homophobia personified
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