Disclaimer: This post is in no way a drag or pettiness to SBs who utilize the term however they like. Especially Adriana is one of my favorite babes out there winning the game big time and giving slay advice.
I haven’t written a #tip post in forever and I think this is a very overlooked part of the game. While I appreciate all the advice on looking expensive out there, I thought I’d add my 2 cents and just leave it here for whoever would like to benefit from it.
Most SDs are practical people due to being businessmen. They’re result oriented and they’d like seeing their employees adding value to their business in tangible ways rather than hearing them rave about what a valuable asset they’ll be to the company. That’s also why your CV should be full of facts, accomplishments rather than promises. Any promises you include should be based on the facts you list.
How does it apply to SBs? I see many girls saying they have expensive taste so I want to tell you how to demonstrate it rather than saying it without having to break your bank account on designer items because imho designer items lack to act as a demonstrating factor alone.
The reason for that is, designer items, luxury lifestyle, gourmet dining, beautiful interiors are desirable to everyone. Any jane doe would love to drape their body in Chanel rather than H&M, live in a beautiful condo and dine at Zuma. It’s a no brainier. It doesn’t make us special or unique. It gets boring when a SD hears it for the umpteenth time.
Work on this before rushing to the mall. It holds the utmost importance. First, reflect it on your wording. Start at square one and get rid of two words: “Expensive” and “Cheap”
Swap them with “Exquisite”, “High value”, “Good value”. There’re so many ways to say something without actually saying it. Just like you should replace “Rich” with “Successful”, “Well off” etc.
When you’re asking for an expensive item be smart about it and say it’s “High value” and mention the cost per use. And that you’d like to keep your treasured gifts for a long time. Remember, you’re not rich enough to buy cheap stuff. I will talk more about that but by hitting these notes you’re already winning and demonstrating that you’re making an educated decision and not lusting over a handbag just because it’s expensive or your friend Sally has it as well.
Follow all the advice on how to dress classy without breaking your bank account. There’re amazing advice out there. I won’t repeat them.
We all know that you can buy a dress/bag/pair of shoes from anywhere at any price but the “high end” items has a certain je ne sais quoi to them that sets them apart from high street items. Like you know it when you see it and feel it under your hands, right?
Figure out what gives these items that value and talk about that instead of how irresistible they are.
“I love the calf skin/couture stitches/mastermind design/unique color about that bag. It’s almost a work of art, don’t you think?”
Educate yourself about that stuff. It’s easy. Ask salesperson what makes that bag special, what material they used, what was the inspiration.
Talk to your shoe repair guy and learn about the tidbit information.
Also spin this on him. While complimenting on his watch/car/wine collection give him specifics of what you like about it with facts. Because everyone will appreciate the audemars he’s sporting. Know exactly what is there to appreciate about it.
This way you’ll be able to tell him what he’s paying for while buying that item for you. Have you seen the sentence on SA “I don’t want to fulfill your materialistic whims of Hermes and LV.” I did. Plus you’ll know when you’re paying for quality or name of the house. If it’s the latter, drop that item off your list.
Never ever pay for the logos or wear them. Aristocratic approach to it is very stern: Wearing other’s logo/stamp is for the footman. I’m sorry if this comes off as classist, this is not my personal view but just a reflection of how these people think.
No. Rave about the restaurants chef and how the philosophy of his cooking. How he combines spices like nobody else does or what a unique dining experience he offers. Trust me, he’ll be racing to the phone to make a reservation. Because you know your thing and he’ll get to enable someone with such vision and passion to experience her exquisite endeavors. He’ll know it’s not all about the thrill of eating at an upscale restaurant and that you’ll appreciate being there more than Molly.
While ordering a bottle of expensive wine or champagne have an idea about what makes it that pricey and why do you want to try it. Is it harvesting or rare grapes or the eloquent process? “I can almost smell the Canaiolo in this delicious Chianti.”
Drop a hint about cruelty-free foie gras. You’re the queen. You don’t go for things for the sake of the hype about them without having the first idea.
“I love how that yellow sofa is reflecting the sun drenched yellow period of Van Gogh while he lived in Arles… It will bring the wheat fields and sunflowers to my living room and brigten up my day every morning.”
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