find your voice

ezra. | he/him. | stealth ftm transguy. these are my anonymous thoughts.

[lionfloss]

one thing about me is I’m gonna go home

[psychoticallytrans]

I think that the reason that the concept of "passing privilege" keeps emerging in various ways in various communities is that we keep acting like stranger or surface interaction is the primary metric of privilege. How you're treated at the grocery store, with people you've never met before and will never meet again, is only one metric of many.

There's how your family treats you. What you inherit from them- genetically, emotionally, financially. There's how you're treated medically. There's how the dominant culture interacts with your culture. There's how you're treated by the government and its systems. There's how you're treated educationally. There's how you're treated in the workplace. There's how cities, towns, and individual buildings are designed, and who they are designed for. There's media and how it treats you.

If oppression is systemic, then we need to stop measuring privilege by individual perception, and start measuring by how the systems perceive us.

[guerrillatech]

[vanquishedvaliant]

This is definitely a plausible Hank moment, but only after a long episode of him misunderstanding and getting it ignorantly (but not maliciously) wrong at first, being distressed and confused about how he’s out of touch with the kids and gender ain’t simple like it used to be

right up until some rude asshole does this in his face and he needs to stand up for his friends / family and suddenly Understands the emotional crux of the issue

[cerayanay]

“And you have all these so called whistleblowers claiming the government is putting chemicals in vaccines and food to make you one of them transgenders or homosexuals. But I’ve never seen a transgender support the government or one of those so-called “gay frogs”, so it makes you wonder what THEYRE really putting in this stuff. All I’m saying is that Chelsea Manning went to prison and Mr. Rogan is a millionaire, and you always gotta follow the money”

[acomedytothosewhothink]

“Tell you what man, talkin’ ‘bout dang ‘ol critical gender theory man, ‘s all a construct, talkin’ ‘bout man’s man and real woman but I tell you what man, talkin’ ‘bout when the lights are off we all just dang ‘ol people man”

[saathiray]

God this feels good to read

[ezrauntamed]

I'm a stealth transmasc and man...people don't realize how hard and alienating it can be. I have to be stealth for survival and pretend like I'm not queer everyday just to appease the cishet world. It sucks but I'd rather that then risk my life.

good on you for keeping yourself safe! it’s totally valid to be stealth for survival, but also even if you just want to be. i see you & your full queer identity. you deserve to feel safe enough to not just survive.

but i understand. and i’ve been there. witnessing blatant transphobia as a stealth transguy has really been getting to me lately. i say something every time (and i’m sure some people are like why does this cis guy even care so much about trans people lol) but it’s so heavy. i don’t really wish to be more visible but sometimes it is incredibly isolating being stealth.

[betrachtung]

my god, there is never any time to recover from the world

[uyesurana]

Melting…

Photo by Dominika Brudny

[ezrauntamed]

where are my stealth trans folks at?

thinking about collecting stories from stealth trans folks and posting them anonymously as a way for us to all sort of share and feel part of the community without compromising our stealthness. if anyone is interested, my asks/submissions are open if you want to share or chat about it.

[ezrauntamed]

i’m afraid of ending up with someone who is merely in love with the outpouring of validation i give them and not in love with my soul.

[lucielovekj]

Ppl will be like “end the stigma around mental illness uwu” but still judge you if you’re unemployed or single or not completely self-sufficient or healthy or perfectly groomed or still live with parents and don’t see the hypocrisy in that whatsoever

[ezrauntamed]

so this is my first post on this new blog. i’m not really sure what this is going to be yet, but i’m excited to share for the first time. 

i’ll make an introductory post in a bit, but for now i’m just going to fiddle around with this new account. take care xx