eternal mystery

"i may not be able to see you and there may be a hundred miles between us but i'll always be looking your way. i'll be watching over you, i promise." hello nakama!! we're always willing to listen to you and share some advice!

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Hi there. I just... I have no presence. Nobody listens to me when I talk, and my friends are all paired up whilst I'm always alone. Nobody sits with me in the cafeteria, I'm almost always the last one to get a partner for project work. The problem is, I don't know why! I try to speak up but it's hard when people just ignore you... I'm just tired of being lonely, I guess. Thanks.

Hey, hey! C'mon now! Everyone has a presence!! 

The social struggle is a really tough one because there are so many things that can contribute to different feelings and situations. From my point of view it just seems that your friends are rude, and thats not cool at all. Real friends acknowledge each other! But I think a few things that may help ya out would be to maybe find some friends with similar interests to your own, or confront your friends about how you're feeling ignored. I'm sure you would be able to make some really good friends if you joined a club, or some kind of hobby to branch out to different social groups. Who knows you could find something you really enjoy and meet people that give you the respect you deserve!! 

I'm sorry I can't be of much help but I believe if you put yourself out there a bit you could really find something truly meaningful!! And you can always come talk to us if you need anymore help :) 

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Hello! I'm really self conscience about my height. Everyone picks on me because of my height, even my family, and they say I look like I'm twelve when really I'm going to be a senior in high school this year. I'm to shy to say anything to people to correct them so I just keep quiet and hope they'll leave me alone. Any advice? Thanks in advance!

Hey there friend!! It’s important to feel comfortable in your own skin, and height isn’t exactly something you can control either.

As a personally tall person myself, I have also had insecurities of my height. Feeling too tall and towering over people, made me feel uncomfortable. Luckily for me I made friends that were around my height so I felt more comfortable! I think it is also very important for you to voice your discomfort, thats definitely a large step that will help you.

In general, the main point I’m trying to get at is that your height is how it is, and that is a part of who you are! Something that may help is to write down advantages of your height, like maybe its easier to pick something off the ground? Or allows you to walk/run faster etc just give yourself as many positive boosts as you can and when someone comes about to hassle you, just lay down your facts and show them that you’re the boss and that battle will be your ultimate victory!! :) I hope I could have been some assistance for ya!!

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Sorry to bother you all, but my sister has just gone through a breakup with a guy she really, really loves and she keeps saying that its all her fault ( even though none of it is) and is starting to think that she's not good enough for anyone when she is. I'm out of ideas on what to tell her. What should I do to try and help her? Thanks in advance.

You’re no bother at all, anon-san! That’s really tough.. I’m sorry to hear about that! I think one of the best things you can do for her currently, is to just let her know that you’re there for her! Break ups are tough and it’s no surprise that she feels awful, especially if she loves the guy! I think it’s also important to let her know that yeah, okay, she might currently love the guy she was with but there are tons of other people in the world and well.. that guy might not be the right one for her, but someone else will be! Best of luck to you and your sister! 

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Hi! I feel like one of my friends has a crush on me, and I'm not sure what exactly to do. He gives me complements and such a lot and tries to make me laugh, but he could just be being nice. I'm not really sure if I should confront him about it or just see what happens in time. Any advice?

Hm.. It really depends on how he is around others I guess, anon-san! I think the easiest way to tell is if he compliments others in the same way he compliments you..! If he does, then chances are, he’s just being friendly! But hey, who knows, right? Your best bet would probably be to just confront him about it, I think! You don’t have anything to lose, anon-san! Good luck!

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Hello. Lately I've been thinking about getting back together with my ex, but one of his friends (who is also one of my best friends) told me today that he had to relay a message from when we broke up a little over a month ago. He said that my ex wants me to move on, that way I'll be happy. I'm not sure what to do because moving on isn't exactly the easiest, especially since he and I were together for a little over 3 years. Any advice on how to move on, or just simply deal with this?

Hm, you seem to be in a pretty tough situation, anon-san! If I’m honest.. It kinda sucks that your ex got one of his friends (or one of your mutual friends, really) to relay a message to you..Well, anyway! It’s never easy to move on from anyone! Or so I’d imagine at least..There’s really no rush for you to try and get over your ex boyfriend! It’s nice that your ex seems to be showing concern but hey! What’s to say you’re not happy now? And what’s to say that you’ll be happy when you’re over him? There’s really no guarantee. Three years is a long time, anon-san, it’s normal for it to take awhile for you to get over him! I think if there’s a reason you guys broke up, it’s important to remember it! And it’s important to remember that because this relationship didn’t work out, it means there’s going to be another one that will!There really is no easy way to just get over someone, anon-san, but I think you can do it if you really put your mind to it!You can do it, anon-san! There are plenty more people for you to meet in the world! If you’d really like some ways to get your mind off of your ex, I can give you some! 

Like I said earlier, if there was a reason you guys broke up, it’s important to remember it! That sounds kinda silly, huh? But it’s very important! 

Busy yourself with other things! Focus on things you like, hobbies you enjoy and people you enjoy being around! Friends are totally better than having boyfriends, anon-san! Friends will be there for you no matter what!

Throw yourself into something you’ve always wanted to try! So basically, try and find a new hobby! 

Keep going, anon-san! I’m sure if you look around on the internet a little, you’ll be able to find tons more things to help you keep your mind off your ex and I’m sure you’ll be able to find things to help you get over him, too! We all believe in you anon-san and we wish you the best of luck!

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I haven't been able to talk to my friend much since I've been busy with exams and other work. When I try to text her, she'll reply once then stop after that. I don't want her to be upset that I haven't put her as top priority, but its not that I'll never have time for her. I try hard to talk to her whenever I can, it's just that things are difficult right now. There's not enough hours in the day, and when there is she doesn't seem to care to talk at all :(

H-hey there, anon! Oh no, it seems you’re having a bit of nakama trouble, huh?

Aww man, this seems terrible! W-well, in my opinion, I think that your friend should understand that your time is very, very limited, and when you have the time to talk to her, you decide to text her! You do have time for her, I wonder why she can’t see it?

A-anon, I think that she has to understand your position. Try calling her, instead of texting her, and tell her that you want to talk to her in person! I don’t think that texts can get the right message across. When you have some free time, maybe after exams or if you can squeeze it in during, ask her to meet with you for lunch or something like that, and tell her how you’re feeling. It will also give you a chance to catch up together. Maybe there’s a side to her story that you’re missing. And maybe there isn’t, but, you never know until you try!

Please don’t feel discouraged, Anon-san, I believe that you can make this friendship right! Good luck!

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“Fear is not evil. It tells you what you weakness is. And once you know your weakness, you can become stronger as well as kinder.”

Gildarts Clive

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“I was once weak, I was always afraid, I hid in my tears, but I kept on going, I kept on believing, I followed my heart, I found my courage, and I realised if I hadn't believed in myself, then I wouldn't have become the person I am today”

Erza Scarlet

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Hey there friends! 

If you're missing someone right now just know that it is a very natural thing that I'm sure everyone feels! I know I definitely felt it when we thought Natsu-nii and the others were gone. But that didn't stop me from giving up, I held onto that love and eventually it worked out. Sometimes it doesn't work out but that doesn't mean that waiting was a mistake, it only means that you've learnt and grown from that experience. Chin up friend, not everything lasts forever just keep on keeping on and also keep looking.

You never know what you'll find when you stop waiting and start searching! ;)

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"Don't feel insecure just because you lost!! We are Fairy Tail! We're from the guild that doesn't know when to stop! We won't survive unless we keep running!"

Natsu Dragneel

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I like this girl, we've been friends for a few years and ive learned she has a thing for me. I want to ask her on a date at Disney Land. How do I go about this?

Heh…

Seems like you’ve fought valiantly so far my friend. Glad to hear of your endeavors! Seeing as the feeling is reciprocated I think your best move would be to approach her and tell her straight up. If she has a thing for you then all you can do is be yourself, just take a big breath and walk on up to her and explain things simply. If you can get her on her own then its a lot less pressure for you and it always makes the gesture a lot more intimate and personal. Tell her that you enjoy her company and that you’d like to take her out to Disney Land to spend some more time with her. It’s your decision when/where you want to tell her how you feel but it wouldn’t be bad to mention it as you’re asking her out on a date!

I’m sure you’ll do excellently, just have faith in yourself and let your feelings guide you my bro! 

I believe in you buddy! Go out and get her tiger haHA!

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There's this guy I used to b friends with. I cut all means of communication with him because he lied to me everyday and he dated lots of my friends. My friend says he's changed, that I should talk to him. Im not ready at all to accept it, is that ok?

B-boy trouble? Oo.. ok, well I will try to help you as much as I can, anon! Let's see...

What he did sounds quite mean! No girl should be put through that! Boys can be quite confusing, can't they? Hmm... I see what your friend means when they say that he's changed but...

I would be veeery careful when trying to wade in those waters. Sometimes, people can say things just to ellicit and certain response or to get certain things. I don't want you, my dear anon, to be put through anymore pain that this boy has caused you! And I definitely don't want to see you go through that again. 

That's why, personally, I think it's perfectly fine that you're not ready to accept it. Sometimes, moving on is the best thing you can do! I know it's hard, but from what you've told me, I think there are plenty more fish in the sea that can't wait to be at your side! If you don't feel comfortable talking to him at all, don't push yourself. If you've ended it, then you can just leave it at that.

Anyway you approach the issue, I wish you the best of luck, anon!

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Thank you so much for giving me advice to help stop self harm. I've taken your advice and became a part of the butterfly project. My friends have even named a few of the butterflies (one was named Erza and the other Gray). So, thank you so much for being able to help me.

A-ah, wow anon-san.. I’m speechless! I don’t know what to say.. It’s just, when I became part of this blog, I wasn’t really expecting to actually be able to help people out.. and well, now that I know I actually can it’s really.. amazing!Anyway! I’m so glad you took my advice, it really means the world to me that you did and I’m so so glad I could help! I hope everything goes well with it, feel free to send us little updates telling us how you’re doing with it since we’d love to know! (That’s great! I think they’re brilliant names, hey, while you’re at it, why not add more? No pressure though, I just though it’d be cool to have more guild members because come on.. who doesn’t love the guild members?)Of course! Thank you for being so open minded and accepting my help. I’m so glad I could help you, anon-san, I’d love to help you again sometime if you ever needed it!

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Hello there! My bestie thinks of herself as lazy and stupid. Although she is truly lazy, she isn't an idiot. How can she become more studious and hardworking?

Hey there, anon! Hope you've had an awesome day! Well now, to be honest, I kind of relate to your friend... there are some days where I think I'm extra lazy and maybe I don't want to go on a job or check out what's happening at the guild, but if I didn't, I wouldn't be able to see my friends everyday!

See, even though it's kind of difficult to want to study and not be lazy, you have to think about what you can accomplish when you just try a little bit! It doesn't have to be much (I... uh, know that hanging out with your friends is a lot more fun than studying!) but it will still give you awesome results! Like, who doesn't love the outcome? The journey might be hard, but man, that outcome is so worth it.

So do just a little at a time. I mean, I'm still working to be an S-Class wizard and that task sure isn't a lazy one! But, why not try to ask your friend if she would like you to help her study a bit more? And then reward yourself afterwards with something really fun! Think about how awesome she'll feel when she realizes what she can accomplish! Good luck, anon!

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I have this guy in my group, and we have to make a music video with Spanish vocab. He said he would write the lyrics, but its been a month. He claims to have it done, leaves it at home, then says he "wants to tweak it a bit". Advice?

Hello, anon! Huh, it seems that you're in a bit of distress. It's wonderful to hear that you are making a music video - that sounds amazing! Now, let's see..

I can see why you would be a bit concerned, considering this is a group grade, and everyone should work together as a team and do it equally. I understand this isn't always the case. Luckily, I have some advice for you, my lovely anon!

You don't want to outright call him out by any means, but try being a bit more... up front, I suppose? Give him a deadline if he wants to tweak the lyrics, or ask if you could work with him on the lyrics. He may want to work alone, but this is a group project! Collaborating your ideas will be best, and he needs to understand that! You can also ask your teacher for help in this situation, and perhaps they could assist you. Tell them the issue your group is facing and they just might have the perfect solution!

I hope this helped you anon! Please, when your video is finished, bring it to the guild! I want to share your lovely work with everyone here! Good luck!

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Hello, guys!! Long time no talk, it seems like!

It's been a little while since any of the mods posted on here, and I just wanted to quickly update you guys and let you know that we are still active! All of us mods just got a lil bit busy in the past week or so, and we haven't been able to properly answer any questions or queue up any posts, unfortunately.

But don't worry!! New FT Positivity and FT Quotes posts will be coming your way, as well as, as always, advice from the guild! 

By the way, if you have any suggestions for how to improve this blog or any suggestions for new content to add to help you guys, please feel free to send us an ask! We would be happy to listen to any of your suggestions. :)

I suppose that's it! Have a nice day, everyone, and we will be back to normal soon!

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How do I handle social anxiety? I'm going to my cousins birthday and there are 2 other guys that will be there as well, I'm terrified right now and I would really like advice on how to handle this please!

A-ah, anon-san, I hope I’m not too late!Hm.. I’m not sure if there is really a straight forward answer that I can give you considering if I’m honest, everyone deals with things differently! I’ll try my best though!I think it’s important to remember that you’ll be with someone you know—personally, whenever I’m with someone I know, I don’t feel as nervous as I usually would! Hopefully, anon-san, those two other guys will be good people! I know it’s easy to be nervous and anxious around new people, but I’m sure you can do it! Just be yourself, I’m sure you’re completely wonderful! I’m not going to promise you that you won’t be nervous, because hey, you might! And that’s completely normal if you are! New people can be scary, anon-san, but you never know! One of those guys might end up becoming your friends!Although if your nerves really do get the better of you, please don’t make yourself sit through a situation you’re uncomfortable with! If you’re too nervous to be around those people, excuse yourself to the bathroom or something small and take a few minutes to calm down! Just remember that it’s going to be okay! I hope all goes well, anon-san! Feel free to let us know how things go, we’d love to hear!