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7 Tips For Sinners Looking For a Church

Whether you’re a Christian who was kicked out of church and is looking to return, an unchurched person looking for a place to worship, someone who is burned out on church and is looking for a “different kind of place,” a fallen church leader, or just a new Christian with a rough past who wants a place of fellowship, I’d like to offer this – 7 tips for sinners looking for a church:

Tip One: Don’t…

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#church #membership #sinners

Inside the Mind of a Fallen Pastor

When a pastor falls from ministry, it wasn’t a decision he made overnight. The sin of adultery takes root some time before a fall and if not addressed, sinks its teeth in and grapples the heart fully and without letting go. It’s a difficult thing to understand the twisted mind of a fallen pastor.

If you’ve ever approached a fallen pastor soon after his fall and tried reasoning with him, it was…

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#adultery #fallen #pastors #restoration

Who Did The Fallen Pastor Sin Against?

I’m the kind of guy who takes things very personally. If someone looks at me sideways, I start to wonder, “What did I do to offend that person?” Some people are just wired that way. I like to act like things just roll off my back but I’m fairly sensitive.

I’ve gotten better since I started blogging about not taking things personally, which is a good thing for all of us to learn. Today, I want to…

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#adultery #pastors #sin

What Makes Pastors Cheat?

This site is discovered because of all types of searches. But one of the most common search phrases is “What makes pastors cheat?”

I did. Six years ago. I wasn’t looking to commit adultery – and I don’t believe most pastors who cross the line are looking for it. I wrote a book about my falland the stories of eleven other men who fell. I learned a lot about the circumstances that can make a pastor…

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#adultery #cheating #ministers #pastors #sin

Book Review: The Self-Aware Leader

The Self-Aware Leader, by Terry Linhart

IVP, 2017

Ministers are constantly serving others and in the process of making sure others are taking care of. That is why the process of self-examination is so important. Linhart’s “The Self-Aware Leader” is a practical journey to that end.

IVP provided me a review copy of this book and I was hooked as soon as I opened it. I deal with many broken ministers…

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#book review #leaders

Pastors Can Be Jerks

I used to know this pastor who was really nice to his congregation on Sundays. The rest of the week? He was the most impatient person you ever met. While he was pastoring and in seminary, he had some attitude problems that caused him problems. If he was at a business and felt like they were shortchanging him, he would act like a fool. The seminary he was attending was in a large enough town that…

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#jerks #ministry #pastors #stress

The Heartbreaking Fallen Pastor Crisis

I had the pleasure of being at the Southern Baptist Theological Seminary with my friend, Brandon Watkins this week. Brandon is a good friend and proof that men who fall can be restored. He spoke to a seminary class about his testimony and then we did a Q & A afterwards.

One of the questions we received was along the lines of, “why do you think this keeps happening?”

Why is there a fallen pastor…

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#crisis #fallen #fallen pastors #pastors

Should One Sin Define Us?

Living in a small town can be great. It can also have its challenging moments. For instance, if you see someone you don’t know and ask a friend about them you might hear, “Oh, that guy. That’s so-and-so,”

You still look cluelessly into your friends eyes.

He shakes his head. “Don’t you remember he was the one who got drunk and rode his lawnmower into the police station last year?”

You reply, “Oh,…

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#forgiveness #public #reconciliation #sin

Contact/Email Problems

I just realized that my “contact” page hasn’t been functioning properly for at least two weeks. I just got a deluge of 50 unread emails.

I apologize if you’ve been trying to reach me. I’m going to be spending the next few hours sorting these emails out. God bless.

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Could Facebook Ruin Your Marriage?

A few headlines caught my eye recently regarding Facebook and its role in marriage problems. The first article defined the problem of “phubbing.” This is where couples neglect one another for social media. According to the article, 46% of people complained that their significant other snubbed them for social media or their phone.

The second was an article by Samantha Yule in The Mirror: “Facebook…

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#facebook #marriage #relationships #social media

How a Church Should Respond to Ministry Failure

I wanted to be able to write something to help churches and leaders have a guide for when their pastor falls. The problem is that no two situations are quite alike. And yet, all situations are very similar. I would like to give some basic advice that comes from my experience and from the things I’ve read in the past few years of ministry as to how a church should respond to ministry failure. For…

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#failure #gossip #leaders #ministry #pastors

What Causes Ministry Failure?

When a rocket explodes on the launch pad, it costs millions of dollars. Recently, the SpaceX Falcon 9, an unmanned rocket exploded on liftoff. Much time and research was spent in discovering the reason for failure. Scientists, physicists and engineers pore over all kinds of data to discover the issue.

When a pastor fails morally, it is a devastating event. When it happens, people want to know, “W…

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#failure #ministry #pastors

6 Ways to Run Off Your Pastor

Fallenpastor.com does not recommend this approach to removing a pastor from a church.

Want to get rid of your pastor? Maybe not, but there could be people unwittingly doing things within your church who are sending messages to your preacher that they want him gone. Yesterday.

During my six-year ministry to fallen pastors, I talk to former ministers, active ministers, retired pastors, directors of…

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#church #conflict #pastors

Five Songs That Got Me Through 2016

I wanted to end 2016 on a lighter note than usual. Music means a lot to everyone in my home and it’s been a revolutionary year for me. My daughters have a soul for really good music and have introduced me to some of theirs while I’ve been able to gift them some of mine.

Their music has found its way into my playlist and into my life. We even went to a couple of concerts together this year to see…

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#2016 #music #youtube

Fallen Pastor: What I've Learned

Fallen Pastor: What I’ve Learned

It’s been five years since my book, “Fallen Pastor: Finding Restoration in a Broken World” was released. It is the foundation of my ministry. It contains stories of pastors who have fallen, reasons ministers fall and help for those around them. Years later, I still get emails from people who find help from it.

Today, I want to take the time to add five things I’ve learned since writing the book.

F…

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#fallen pastor #ministry #pastors

I'm a Pastor Who Cheated. Now What?

I’m a Pastor Who Cheated. Now What?

The typical email reads like this: “I’m a pastor who cheated. I’ve never done anything like this before. No one knows except me and the woman I’m with. If my church finds out, I’ll lose everything. If my wife finds out, I’ll lose my family. What do I do?”

I get emails like this several times a month. To most people, the answer is fairly simple. But when you’re a fallen pastor who has been bending…

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#adultery #fallenness #pastors #restoration

What About the "Other Woman"?

What About the “Other Woman”?

When a pastor falls, he leaves a wake of destruction behind. He hurts his church, his wife and family, and many others. When I blog, I often hear from many people who have been hurt, but I get a surprising number of emails from the women who were involved with the pastor – they often call themselves, “the other woman.” You know, the mistress. So, what about the “other woman”?

I’ve never liked any…

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#adultery #affair #other woman

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