Fat Girl For The Win

30 years old. Must love dogs, champers, and a good laugh.

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Book Review: My Life On the Road by Gloria Steinem

My book club and I read this book two months ago. It is recommended reading for feminists who are new to feminism, into grassroots movements, and are interested in the life of a woman on the road.

I’ve always been interested in Gloria Steinem, but never really understood her, and I am not saying that I have figured out all the secrets and intricacies of Gloria, but this book is very involved. You span the time of Gloria’s entire life. From her childhood with her vagabond father, to living with her mother, to overcoming a fear of speaking in public...

Making connections is a huge part of this book. Gloria and her belief in equal rights for women connected so many people. Being a feminist transcends boundaries and connects you to an entire world that some people may never even know exists. 

I dare you not to cry when you read about her friendship with Wilma Mankiller. I double-dog dare you.

This book is good for those interested in: a brief history of feminism, Gloria Steinem, grassroots campaigning, and overcoming odds. 

[fatgirlforthewin]

Fat and phat are just adjectives

Words only have weight if you let them.

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Dear Modcloth,

Just because you took away your plus sized clickable tab and added an extended sizes button to each clothing type option doesn’t mean you are progressive. 

I mean I like your stuff, but why on earth is it so hard to believe that a size 16 wants to wear the same circle skirt as a size 4?

I can’t wait for all bodies to be treated equal.

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It's been really hard for me to take control of my own life, but I'm finally getting there and I'm just real proud of myself. I can't wait to see what's gonna happen next!

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Watch: As Blythe’s poem ends, it’s clear what we must do in the face of rape culture and “pocket feminism.”

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Oof that last gif.

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The surprising reason we have a 40-hour work week (and why we should re-think it) - Crew Blog

‘As long as you get your eight hours in.’ I used to hear this phrase a lot. The thinking is that as long as you put in a set amount of time working (usually at least eight hours or more) …

I have been very unhappy at my job the past couple of months. I am trying to decide if it would be better for me to just quit and work a side job until something better comes along, or tough it out and hope that things change. 

I am dedicated to the mission of the non-profit where I work, but the way myself and my co-worker are treated is disgusting. I have been advocating for myself to my board (the powers that be who make all the decisions without stepping through the door), but it is falling on deaf ears. 

I’m not really GREAT at anything, like I don’t really have a talent. I am extremely organized, friendly, and able to get people excited about what we do at my organization. I need to find a way to channel these strengths into an organization that actually cares about my well-being as a human.

All this to say, I am going to try this method of working and see if my work life improves...at least long enough until I can find another job. 

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I had a pretty eventful weekend guys. I worked doubles Friday and Saturday which is the norm for me. Day shift at my office job and night shift at the restaurant. It was Valentine’s Day weekend so of course it was busy as hell. 

On Sunday, the boy and I went to brunch together and then treated ourselves to Whole Foods for dinner purchases. We do not go out to eat on amateur night holidays: NYE, Valentine’s Day, Mothers Day, Fathers Day...you get the gist. Instead we cooked dinner together: Mixed green salad with almonds, tomatoes and ginger dressing. Chilean Sea Bass with a ginger soy glaze, broccoli, snap peas and basmati rice. I also made a gluten free three layer strawberry cream cake. We devoured this meal and watched The Walking Dead. Pretty good night! 

Monday was a busy day as I went for a 7-mile run with my running partner, had dinner with some friends and then read lots on my book, My Life on the Road by Gloria Steinem. 

Today is Tuesday. I observe President’s Day on this day so I was off work again. ALL HAIL THE THREE DAY WEEKEND. Honestly, I haven’t done much today, BUT I did go and early vote for the Presidential nominee. 

I’m am still trying to figure out this blogging/journal thing, but I think I am getting better at it! I plan on taking wayyyy more pictures so you all can see what I am up too! 

I have to go now and get dinner ready and read on my book...

I hope everyone has a great week! Will update more!

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19 Plus-Size Valentine’s Day Dresses For $100 Or Less

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Subtle body-shaming in the workplace.

My second job, as a waitress and bartender, keeps me moving and shaking. I am good at my job. I am extremely personable, efficient, and smiley. My weight doesn’t affect my ability to do my job, but it apparently does give people the right to subtley slip a business  card for weight-loss products next to my tip. 

I know that a lot of customers may prefer my skinny cohorts on a book cover basis, but I also know that my work ethic far outweighs my body size. On more than one occasion I have provided amazing service to a table, and been proud of the tip I have received to then see a Plexus business card slide out, or a microderm abrasion card, or have someone joke that they think I REALLY like something on the menu that is high fat, or act legitimately shocked that I am training for my 3rd half marathon. 

As someone that has struggled with their weight for most of their life you would think that I was immune to this sort of behavior. Unfortunately for me, these things still bother me. After realizing what the business card was advertising, my stomach sank, and my cheeks turned bright red. My co-workers told me not to worry about it, that it wasn’t meant as offensive, but I can’t help but disagree with them. I was angry.

I was even angrier that this card came from a woman.

The whole idea of Plexus, Beachbody, Arbonne, Advocare or any of those pyramid schemes that make women feel worthless and ugly just pisses me off. 

GET WITH THE PROGRAM LADIES: YOU’RE BEING HAD! 

At the top of that pyramid is a scheming someone that has tricked you into hating your body so much that you are now making other people do the same. We have to stop this. We cannot let large “healthy living” corporations pit women against each other. 

LET’S ALL GET ALONG, OKAY?

Let’s make the world we live in a body positive one. I know that it is hard, I struggle with it everyday, but it’s doable. 

Tell yourself you love YOU right now. 

And tell that lady with the business card advertising weight loss that you love her too. 

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(via https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-rAs6lKGems)

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This is me. With Freddie Fox. He is a dick at the dog park.

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This weekend was AH-MAZING! For some reason, the weather decided to be 70 degrees and beautiful despite the fact that it is JANUARY, and last weekend we had 6-inches of snow. My weekends aren’t typical as I work a crazy schedule having two jobs: non-profit fundraiser by day and server/bartender by night. So, my weekends are Sunday and Monday. 

Sunday is my scheduled long run day, as I am training for the Little Rock Half-Marathon with my great friend Genevieve. We knocked out 8-miles and then scarfed down pizza and salad. As the weather was so great, we took all THREE of my dogs to the dog park and walked them down the Arkansas River bank to let the pups swim. 

There is this AMAZING authentic Thai restaurant in an old house in Little Rock, kBird. The owner was gone to Thailand for the month of January and I was seriously having withdraws from his Coconut-Chicken soup. I slept in this morning and at 11:01 was walking through the doors of his place to get my fix. I spent the rest of today running errands, doing laundry, and having a crazy hard workout with Gen. 

In terms of the weekend, I am definitely winning! 

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This is what a normal day looks like in my life as a staff member at an animal rescue. Everyday is casual Friday and filled with puppies.

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Frugal February

I am trying super hard to save money. The first 1/2 of my 30th year of life was spent totally treating myself. I travelled to neat places (Puerto Vallarta, Nashville, New Orleans, and Kansas City). I ate all the things (blue crab beignets, squid ink risotto, ramen, and bbq). I bought whatever I wanted (clothes, makeup, a new rescue dog, fancy pants rug, and a new phone). 

Now it is time for me to pay the piper. In the second 1/2 of my 30th year of life I want to learn to better budget my money in the hopes of one day having only 1 job, but still being able to do fun things and shop on a whim. To get a better look at my budget Frugal February is a must. I picked February because it is the shortest month in the year, then I realized 2016 is a leap year so it doesn’t even matter, luck me! 

My goals for Frugal February are to only spend money on things I need. Not things I want. Therefore I shouldn’t checking my saved basket on ASOS.com to see if anything has went down, purchasing new primer from Sephora, having French 75′s reverse happy hours on Friday nights, or popping into my local coffee shop for a honey latte on my way to work. I am going to pay bills, buy groceries and work super hard. 

My goal is to save enough money to pay off a small credit card I have been meaning to take care of...

Lucky me it isn’t February yet. ASOS is having a sale on winter coats. Yes, I splurged. I mean, come one, it was 50% off. :) 

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Motto. 

I wish I could remember who drew this. If anyone knows please let me know so I can attribute appropriately.

[fatgirlforthewin]

Hi :) i dont know if you remember me, but we've written before here on tumblr and it put a smile on my face seeing you appear again on my screen until i saw what you write. I hope you're happy sweety. I remember what you wrote about earlier, love-thinge, diet-things etc. anyway, just wanted to say hi again and wish you a lovely day from switzerland :) <3

I do remember! Thank you so much for reaching out to me! I am here to stay this time...Promise. Thank you so much for the kind words! I look forward to visiting and writing more!! <3