Fat Selfie(steem)

This blog is dedicated to fatties who want a place to submit their "selfies". A safe space to post the photo you are unsure about, or don't really like. Sometimes you just need a place where you don't feel like you are "bothering" your followers with selfies. Taking a photo, being okay with it, loving it and sharing it helps acceptance of your body. We are allowed to be visible!! DISCLAIMER: IF AT ANYTIME YOU WANT A IMAGE REMOVED FROM THIS SITE PLEASE SEND A ASK AND IT WILL BE PROMPTLY REMOVED. We give options on submissions for tags you can use for your image.

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Post a selfie of you!!

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My tummy is hiding and I am adorable.

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A photo Connor took while we had a late lunch at Penn Station subs.

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Tonight I wanted to talk a little more about this candid shot of me that my loving boyfriend baskinginthenoondaysun took of me while out to a late lunch. I wanted to talk about this simple candid photo for several reasons; fat girl visibility, control, comfort and struggle.

Selfies are all empowering because giving girls a outlet to add to fat visibility and that representation can save lives. On the other hand having a photo taken of a fat person in a artistic or in my case a loving way is powerful too. Often times fat people are represented in diet ads and photographed as a joke or mean spirited commentary by STRANGERS! We need more photo sets of fat people being happy and empowered (shown here I’m eating in public and happy about it, HOW DARE I!?).

I have worked endlessly on my self-image control issues. For the longest time I only took the traditional “neck up” fat girl photos and made sure the angle was just right and I was sticking my neck out to minimize my double chin and full cheeks. Letting someone else take a photo of you is hard. Once someone feels comfortable enough to share even a tiny bit of themselves the idea of giving up that control to someone else who doesn’t know your angles and may just have a shitty eye for photography is scary. You are faced with looking at a image of yourself that you don’t like and that can be very triggering (it has always been a big trigger for me). Let someone you trust take photos of you, look at them. Look at yourself. Look at yourself. Look at yourself.

I love this photo of me not because I think I look particularly good but because I felt good, I felt happy. I also love this photo because I grew up avoiding cameras, I grew up avoiding my appearance. The combination of refusing pictures frequently and people just always assuming the fat girl doesn’t want her picture taken left me feeling unworthy of documentation. I was always taking photos but never in them. I felt guilty asking for someone to take my photo or almost embarrassed because why should I, a fat girl, WANT to document what I look like? Finding tumblr and finding visual representation of fat girls being fat and happy and visible was so, so important! Start off slow and be comfortable in wanting to be visible and wanting to be a part of the photo and feeling worthy of little things like being photographed and hopefully build up to feeling worthy of a lot more.

I struggle constantly with self-image, but putting in the work (having photos taken and looking at them over and over and thinking about what is it that you really hate or love about said photos) is so worth it. Take all the selfies and try to let people you trust and who understand you document you. You’re worthy of it. I never knew just how much I needed this in my life until I fell in love with my boyfriend and began to trust him with all my scary parts. I never knew just how much I craved this until one day he asked how the camera on his new iphone worked and said “smile” and that he wanted me to be the first photo he took. Sometimes even those struggling don’t know just how much they’ve been struggling until something that “normal” and “simple“ shocks them.

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Today has been a really hard self confidence day. I’ve been having these a lot more frequently and this one is pretty awful. I feel physically sick from the thoughts and feelings. The mirror is my sworn enemy today, I fight back the tears just at a glance. This has been a ongoing struggle for years and I’ve found comfort, love and self confidence I never knew I could after finding tumblr but just like all things in life this is a consistent fight. I have to force myself somedays to be okay and today I lost the battle but not the war. I count on all of you beautiful, uplifting and inspiring people to encourage and root for me. Send me some positive vibes I could sure use all the extra love today.

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Forever a side/belly sleeper. It’s been humid lately so that means layer upon layer is getting removed for comfortable slumber.

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Fancy pants kinda day.

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Body Positivity

I've been seeing an increase in stories regarding body positivity on my dash lately and well that is awesome and great, what I haven't been seeing is representation of girls past a size 20-24. I want to fill this space with all bodies, bodies like mine and like other girls I see being left out. Post a selfie and make your body visible as well! I know I will be!

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It is 70 today!!! Granted we have a snow storm coming but I’m LOVING it!

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This is all I’ve accomplished today.

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My fat is not a trigger. You don't get to be offended by my body or my use of the term fat to describe myself. I'm generally sorry that you have issues with the word fat but I will NOT stop using it.

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I am totally on board with the whole "fat love" thing. All bodies are beautiful. However, the fact that you go onto other people's blogs and reblog their posts without permission onto a blog about "fatties"... That isn't okay. Some people are probably not comfortable with that term and although most people would understand that fat is not a negative word and you are trying to compliment their beauty, others may be very hurt or even triggered by the notification that a "fat" blog reblogged them.

We have always advertised our policy that if requested we would remove any image at anytime even those submitted. Photos we reblog from other people have been found in the "fat" tag and are 99.9% friends of mine (alwaysfacingthesun). We are always aware and conscious about the content we post and have no problem removing photos when asked to and we do not reblog photos found outside of the "fat" tag.

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Taking submissions!!!

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I stumbled into the bathroom, flipped the light switched and was momentarily horrified. I am not 100% "cured" of my body image issues because it's a constant fight. I constantly fight myself, media and society. I fight back handed compliments and outwardly disgusting remarks. I have messy hair that I wear back when I sleep, mismatched pjs, no bra and no make up. I hate my profile and my wide face but even more of a reason to make myself look, stare and learn myself as if I were one of the many people I admire. Self love and acceptance comes in steps, bursts or broken little glimmers of hope--this shit ain't easy.

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Fat dolly.

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Hi ho hi ho its off to clinical orthotics I go … not got quite the same ring to it, does it ? 

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