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call me sandry or fawn • 28 • I’ve had this blog since 2013 or so 𑁍

[fawnfreckled]

a small note:

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thank you for reading!

[what-even-is-thiss]

Health classes really ought to teach people what the beginning stages of addiction are like because a lot of people don’t realize they’re addicted to something until they’re years deep into it.

[what-even-is-thiss]

Signs you might be getting addicted to something:

If you go without it you feel unwell in a way that you never usually feel unwell. Sweating, tired, sleepy, headaches, irritable, depressed, etc. For example when I was in opium withdrawal I got incredibly depressed in a way that I’ve never been before or since. When you quit caffeine you might get super bad headaches even if you never usually get any headaches.

Thoughts of it regularly bother you and the thoughts go away once you’ve taken it but only temporarily. Unlike with a food craving which usually stays away once you’ve satisfied it or distracted yourself from it.

You find yourself rationalizing with yourself why you should break your own rules about how much you can take and how often. For example you might only let yourself drink alcohol every four days but start thinking that three days is actually close enough to four days, right? Especially if this happens regularly.

You’re using it so often that you feel the need to lie about how much you use because other people might think it’s concerning

If the substance or activity is nearby it’s genuinely difficult to not consume it or participate in it in a way that’s really frustrating.

You feel bad when you’re not on it and your brain tells you “if you just take the thing you wouldn’t feel this way”

You can only feel “whole” or “normal” when you’re on a substance even though it’s a recreational drug

And if you read this and think you might be addicted to something, don’t panic and don’t feel ashamed. Realizing you’re addicted to something isn’t a failure. It’s more information about your health that you can use to manage your condition, whether you want to get rid of your addiction or not.

[fawnfreckled]

[temoinvegetal]

[officialfist]

Anyways women who test or gas light their boyfriends are just awful human beings. Dump them kings find you somebody who treat you right.

[theconcealedweapon]

[animusbell]

you can't come to my birthday party? aw dang, (remembers it's bad to guilt trip people) this doesn't matter to me at all (remembers to demonstrate that i am affected by you to affirm your positive presence in my life) but while you're away i will die (remembers not to guilt trip again) unpreventably. unrelated to you. don't worry about it. (remembers to express care through actions and not just words) you're in the will.

[noradaydreams]

x

[artyphex]

Apparently there’s a “kids shouldn’t be allowed in grocery stores” thing being spread on TikTok because they might scream or run around and look yeah that’s annoying but at a certain point you’ve gotta just put up with kids being a little annoying in public. Sure the kid pouring milk in the isles is the fault of a shitty parent and should be asked to leave, but a single mom with an otherwise controlled by crying toddler isn’t doing anything wrong. I think you’ll live if someone’s two year old starts screaming in their arms in isle 3. It might be annoying but that mom is probably having a worse day than you

[sparklyeevee]

Also, is a lot of the Internet just, unclear on the thing where you learn how to do stuff by doing it? You know what you get if you don't let toddlers into the grocery store? School age kids who don't know how to behave in the grocery store, which is worse. Don't let them in either? Teenagers who don't know how to behave in the grocery store, which is much worse. Just ban all minors from the grocery store? Now you have adults who don't know how to behave in the grocery store, and at that point we may as well not bother with society.

Toddler in the grocery store is learning:

How to find items in space that was organized by someone else

How to share narrow or complex walking spaces with strangers

How to operate in a space full of things they can touch and maybe even pick up, but don't own

How to peacefully coexist with strangers in a public space when everyone is doing their own (similar but separate) tasks in the same place

What kinds of food exist

How to tolerate having nothing in particular to do in a high stimulus environment

How to wait in line

How to greet a cashier and complete your transaction nicely

How to pay for things in a store

Most of this they are learning just by following and watching their adult(s). They're also, and this is especially important for families who don't take much public transit, getting to see a broader cross section of people than most other age appropriate activities will readily show them. The only other public place of this sort that a toddler might routinely go is the library, which is different in ways that are potentially instructive if you have only existed for 30 months.

[defilerwyrm]

Sorry to my followers for immediately reblogging this again but I just wanted to add a thing my mom told me a couple days ago, which was that some HEBs (Texas's dearly-beloved grocery chain) have started stocking miniature shopping carts for kids, and on a recent shopping trip she saw someone in there with a little kid with his own cart AND his own list, being shown by his parent how to find things on the shelves and get them into his cart.

This is brilliant because not only is it a really great learning experience for the kid, but it also gives them a series of fun tasks to focus on so they're not bored out of their skull and likely to act up. Most kids love the chance to do "grown-up things" and get praised for it, so this is very effective teaching.

I really hope that catches on more.

[apikale]

Kids belong in public! In grocery stores, on planes, in restaurants, in malls, even at the movies if the movie is child-friendly. We can't raise the next generation to be insulated from society and then ask why "kids these days" aren't more social.

Also, the "shopping cart" idea is really cute!

[newyorkkiss]

[newyorkkiss]

[pngblog]

[argentsunshine]

"let people enjoy things" not in a "never evaluate the quality of a work" way but in a "maybe your personal tastes are not the be-all-end-all of what makes a work good and maybe being rude to people for not agreeing with your veru subjective opinions is called 'being a dick', random tumblr user"

[guooey]

I still haven’t recovered from this

[flowerb-0y]

[the-bored-coffee]

ALAKWNSJAKWNALAKSKSKSMN RIGHT UNDER THIS I GOT AN AD FOR A ANIMAL HOSPITAL OSOWJWJSJDJDNDJDJDJ

[guooey]

[orthoscheme]

supermarkets should have benches

[orthoscheme]

everywhere should have benches

[joosh-the-only]

Many supermarkets actually used to have benches. They removed them to "increase customer movement" (which corresponded to increased sales) and "reduce loitering" (people hanging out in the store all day without buying anything).

Which kind of sucks in terms of handiaccessability.

But good news! There's wearable chairs!

Bad news: They're usually like 90 bucks or more.

[memeuplift]

[squigglebug]

I know this has been said so many times in so many words but it is never any less infuriating that we never seem to have basic social services money but we always have fucking war crime money

[squigglebug]

fucking evergreen post I guess

[anarchistmemedistro]

they got money for wars, but can’t feed the poor

-tupac shakur, 1993

[isuggestrevolution]

i have a suggestion

[busket]

he's gonna die one day soon and it wont fix everything but it'll feel great and the whole world is gonna fucking party together