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I hope that this causes international outrage at the way venues treat people during concerts because tragically, this is the reality we now live in where heat is one of THE LEADING causes of death world wide due to climate crisis, and companies are not morally or logistically equipped to care for human beings in extreme heat events. Let this be a warning to venues around the world that heat will kill, and that the venue is responsible for occupant safety. Shit.

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Taylor, when her guitar pick didn't land where she'd aimed it to. =)

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TAYLOR SWIFT THE ERAS TOUR Concert Film Official Trailer (2023)

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"don't lose it" lmao

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it’s been 10 years and I still think “and you come away with a great little story of a mess of a dreamer with the nerve to adore you” is one of the most beautiful and genius lines ever written. and to think it was written by a 15 year old… geez. @taylorswift

#Taylor swift #Taylor #still true

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ABC of things to get through depression...

I’m currently going through a stupid and stubborn depressive episode. nothing new to me but very, very frustrating. so I decided to sit down and write a list of things to keep in mind while once again trying to navigate my way through it. feel free to reblog if you feel like it might help you stay sane during those Dark Days™.

A – Affection. it can be from your significant other, your siblings or parents, friends or your pets. I know when you’re depressed you might not feel like you want or deserve affection – but cuddling and physical contact in general is proven to help someone feel better. if you have no one to cuddle with, just ask one of your friends for a hug. it will feel amazing. warning though: you might start crying (I know I would).

B – Books. I for one find it very hard to concentrate when I’m depressed, so I rarely read. but books are magical, and for the majority of people they are a socially accepted escape from reality. you can forget about your own struggles for a while and dive into a completely different world or life.

C – Creativity. no matter if it is drawing, painting, writing, crafting – create something. even if you just do stuff in photoshop or write down your thoughts in a poetic kind of way, try to create something every day. not only does it help release tensions inside you, but with practice you will also get better and maybe one day you will become really good at one of those things!

D – Dance. put on your favorite upbeat music and shake it off (literally). not only is dancing fun and counts as really good exercise, music is also proven to help you feel better and lift your mood. so, what are you waiting for? put on a feel good playlist and dance your sadness away! bonus: get friends to join – it’s much more fun!

E – Exercise. I know you’re tired, I know you wanna stay in bed all day, I know you have zero energy to do basic stuff – so why would you want to get up and move more than necessary? I’ve found that even when I have to literally force myself to hit the gym or go for a walk, even if I hate every minute after I first start – eventually I start feeling better. not only is exercise good for your overall health, it also releases endorphins which lift your mood. and: let’s be honest, you’ll also feel proud of yourself for working out. it doesn’t matter what you do: walk, run, hit the gym, grab your bike, go rollerskating or swimming. again: even just a 30min walk can make a huge difference, in mental health as much as in physical health.

F – Friends. during a depressive episode you won’t feel like hanging out at all. you won’t have the energy to deal with people, not even the ones you love. but having friends is especially important during times of despair in order to help you remember that you are not alone, you are not worthless, there are people who love and care about you. even if you only have one or two people you want to tell what’s up – do it, and be honest.

G – Get help. if you feel like you can’t get out of it yourself or are thinking about hurting yourself, it is no shame to ask for help (friends, family, teachers, doctors, therapists, …). not only is depression a very common illness but it is also treatable. how it is treated and how long it takes for someone to feel better is different for everyone, but in no way is it a dead end of any kind. reach out.

H – Hygiene. so many days I have spent inside, not even bothering to shower or brush my hair because I felt like I had no energy or reason to do it. but have you ever noticed how much better you feel after a shower or a hot bath? personally, I can’t start the day without a shower. I need it to wake up and get fit for the day ahead. pampering yourself is especially important when you’re feeling low. so even if you don’t have plans, take a shower, put on some makeup if you want to, try that hairstyle you saw on pinterest and never dared to wear. you have a right to feel pretty even when you’re sad (or especially then).

I – “I can do it”. tell yourself that over and over again. you can do it. you’re stronger than depression. depression wants to make you think you are worthless and a waste of space, that nobody cares and you’d be better off dead. THIS. IS. A. LIE. you are worth everything and more, the world would not be the same without you. and you. can. do. it.

J – Joy. it’s hard to feel joy when you’re depressed. very hard. and you most likely do not feel like doing anything that you enjoyed when you weren’t depressed. do them anyway. force yourself. try to remember what it felt like when you were feeling ok. you don’t have to give it your all if you don’t feel like it. just do not give up on your hobbies or things that are close to your heart.

K – Kindness. even if you feel like the whole world is against you (which is never true, but I know depression likes to make you think that), be kind. it’s barely ever anyone’s fault that you’re depressed, so try not to let it out on people who have done nothing to you. I know it’s hard, but to be honest, being kind to people and see them smile because of something I did or said usually makes me feel so much better. to think that I may have made that person’s day. for all I know, they could be at rock bottom too. also remember to be kind to yourself too.

L – Laughter. yeah I know. laughing when you’re depressed can literally physically hurt. that’s why it’s all the more important! even if you have to google for lame jokes or watch fail videos all day, even if it just makes you smirk or smile, this will already have a positive influence on your mood.

M – Mindfulness. I struggle being mindful, always have, probably always will. but I think if you master the art of being mindful and living that way it can actually help you so much. it helps you stay in the now, in the present, to see things more clearly, and worry less about things out of your control.

N – Nature. fresh air, the sounds of nature and the fact that you’re exercising (walking, biking, etc) are all reasons why being out in nature helps you feel better. even if you just sit on a bench for an hour, listening to music, writing, drawing or simply thinking about life, it’ll still help.

O – Open up. even if it’s just on here. do not suffer in silence. if you feel like you have no one you can talk to, my ask box is always open. I have dealt with depression for more than half my life and I am always here to help as good as I can.

P – Positivity. I know it seems like depression and positivity are mutually exclusive but that is not necessarily true. even when you’re at rock bottom and positive thoughts would never occur naturally to you – you are still in control of your thoughts. you can still force yourself to be positive. “I have a loving family. I have a roof over my head. I have enough food. I have at least one friend who cares about me. my cat/dog needs me.” it’s the little things that count the most, especially when you’re feeling down. write them down. look at them. acknowledge them.

Q – Quiet. you lack the energy to deal with people. a full day at work or school completely drains you. it’s okay and important to take time for yourself, to have a bath, read a book, watch a movie, or even just lie in bed doing nothing. but careful: while quiet time is important, isolating yourself for a longer period of time can make you feel more depressed. on top of that, your friends may get angry or confused if you don’t want to see them for weeks without telling them why.

R – Rest. I mean not only rest your body, but rest your mind too. give yourself a break. you’re doing amazing. don’t be so hard on yourself. try to give yourself at least an hour a day, where you consciously decide to not worry about anything. to just live in the moment and be happy to be here, right now, right in this moment. do something fun. and put your mind to rest. worrying won’t get you anywhere.

S – Self-care. looking after yourself is always important, but even more so when you’re feeling depressed. you may feel tempted to punish or restricting yourself, thinking you don’t deserve good things. that is not true. especially when your thoughts and feelings are making life difficult, it is important that you do whatever you can to treat yourself like the amazing person you are. paint your nails. take a bath. get that sweater you’ve been admiring. eat that chocolate bar. you deserve to be looked after and cared for, especially by yourself.

T – Tea. no explanation needed. a hot cup of tea is ALWAYS a good idea. there’s so many different kinds, so everyone can find at least one flavor they like. as a bonus, different teas have different “effects”. some help you fall asleep, others make you feel calm, or lift your mood. if you’re not familiar with the variety of teas now is the time to dig into it!

U – Unity. depression can make you feel so alone. oh how it likes telling you you’re all alone in this big ass world. and what a load of crap that is! there are so many people here on tumblr who feel like they are all alone – if those people would only talk to one another. unity is important. no matter the gender, skin color, sexual orientation, religion or illness – when it comes down to the very essentials we are all the same. we are human. and we are loved, even when we don’t feel like it. we are all in this together.

V – Veggies. or, healthy food in general. if you’re one of those people that don’t feel like eating when depressed, try to eat at least 800–1000kcals a day (generally you should never under no circumstances be below 1000–1200kcal but I know eating is hard sometimes), and when you eat, go for healthy stuff like veggies, lean protein, healthy fats, fruits and lots of unsweetened drinks. a healthy diet will positively affect your mood.

W – Water. staying hydrated is mega important always, but when you’re depressed you might wanna opt for coke or other sweet stuff. don’t. water is not only healthy and refreshing, it also makes you feel better over all. if you don’t like the plain taste, add low-sugar flavor.

X – X-Men. I don’t know, I can’t think of an X word that would fit and I like the X-Men. maybe imagine you’re one of them and your superpower is getting out of depressive episodes? ok lame. I’m sorry.

Y – You Are Loved. never ever ever forget this. like I said, you will not feel like it as long as depression tries to convince you you’re a loser. but you are so very loved. I don’t know you, but I love you. you are here, you are reading this, which means you are trying to get better (and kudos because honestly this post is ridiculously long). you are doing great, and I am very proud of you. <3

Z – I couldn’t come up with a word for Z, so I’m just using this leftover paragraph to tell you that I know depression is a scary place to be, but I want to say again, you are not in this alone. there is no shame in reaching out. life is tough, and breaking down under its weight is nothing to be ashamed of. no one, absolutely no one in this world has it all figured out. some people are just better at pretending. everyone struggles. but better days WILL come and you WILL get through this and it will make you stronger. hang in there, beautiful. you’re doing fantastic.

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feel like more people need this right now after that horrifying election result….. :( be safe everyone.

it's been 10 years and I still think "and you come away with a great little story of a mess of a dreamer with the nerve to adore you" is one of the most beautiful and genius lines ever written. and to think it was written by a 15 year old... geez. @taylorswift