Things I've learned as a long distance sub:
-Some days, You donât want to submit because He isnât here. Do it anyway.
-He needs to see your face. Daily. There is no such thing as spam to Him.
-He canât always read the tone in a text message and He can read your mind even less. Communicate effectively, not just efficiently. Use voice and video as much as possible.
-Create a night time routine together.
-It will be hard to explain your relationship. It is yours and you donât owe anyone an explanation.
-Be boring. There are a million ways to create mundane 3D boring life scenarios in 2D online. Watch TV together. Skype while folding laundry or grocery shopping. Etc.
-Be grateful for each other and talk about it often.
-Brag to your friends about Him. Feel proud and lucky to have Him.
-Be realistic and honest about expectations. Talk about them often. Speak up if they change.
-Be honest about how youâre feeling. Donât only send the cute pictures.
-Have integrity. Follow your rules. Complete your punishments. Yes, sometimes you *could* sneak a shorter time out or skip a task, but doing so will cause resentment of the distance. Donât do it. Even if youâd never get caught.
-See each other as often as possible, no matter how brief. Use the time to do things you canât do at a distance. Donât waste a second. Be thankful for these moments.
-Find a community. You will need support on hard days.
-Aftercare is still essential and subdrop can happen to any sub. Have a plan in place. Keep supplies, like chocolate and an extra soft blanket, on hand at all times. A written plan is especially helpful.
-You can do more D/s than you think without Him there physically. Be creative and adaptable. Do not give roadblocks too much energy. Find solutions.
-Be extra aware of safety. Donât leave candles burning if you might go into subspace. He isnât there to blow them out.
-You will cry. Maybe even often. Make sure you laugh more.
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