recovery v_final

fully recovered. recovery is possible. fuck yeah FREEDOM

[orcarriagesthatwork]

I think about this cake every day

[tizzymcwizzy]

sorry for exposing your tags but this is hilarious

[microsuedemouse]

OP, I hope you don’t mind me making an addition:

When I turned 17, we ordered a cake at the grocery store for my party, as we’d done many times before. If you wanted something written on the cake you’d write it into a section of the order form. We requested, very simply, “Happy Birthday Courtney”. When we went to pick it up the day of the party, this is what we got.

The bakery employees had absolutely no explanation for this. The order form, attached to the box, very clearly did not contain any of those extra names. Whomever had done the writing was no longer in, so there was no one to ask how this had happened. The fact that the name ‘Juan’ is misspelled bewilders me to this day. (I’ve never seen ‘Miley’ without the E, either, but it’s believable that someone might spell it that way.) Did this cake slip in from an alternate universe where I’m one quarter of a set of Hispanic quadruplets? Dyslexic Hispanic quadruplets, maybe?

This cake became the focal point of my party. At least two of my friends regularly called me ‘Courtney Mily Jaun Pablo’ for years to come. My siblings and I still reference it sometimes, eleven years later. It is probably the funniest thing ever to occur at any birthday celebration of my life, and may well remain so for the rest of my days.

I love a botched cake.

[helenarth]

one time me and some pals spotted one of those big cookie cakes in a store. it was done up with red icing and little X's for kisses and in the middle it said

No One Like You

now, it took us a while to realise it meant "(there is) no one like you". at first, we all parsed it as a botched "no one like(s) you"

for ages after when we'd wind each other up we'd declare "NO ONE LIKE YOU ☹️👎"

[itseasytoremember]

I just feel like it's important to post the Sacred Texts

[urbanthropologie]

ways to start feeling again

ways to start feeling again

sit in the sun without anything to do, feel the heat of the rays hit your skin, realize that this sunlight has travelled a very long way to reach you

walk around barefoot and try to feel as much of the ground under your feet as you can, notice every rock and blade of grass

sit quietly for a while and notice the touch of breath in your nostrils, feel how the air gets cooler as you inhale and warmer as you exhale

drive around aimlessly and blast some of your favorite songs, scream/sing along to them and feel the vibrations of your favorite lyrics as they change the air in your throat and around you, feel that the music is healing you from the inside out

stay away from alcohol or drugs for a few days, try to be as aware and present as you can in every moment, stop trying to numb or dull your senses

eat a few meals without any distractions, notice every bite and taste every flavor that covers your tongue, be grateful for it all

look up at the stars and the moon, understand how small we all are and how immense the universe is, realize what a miracle everything is, let your heart swell with amazement and admiration for life itself

[titsay]

[notabled-noodle]

learning to stop hating yourself isn’t something that happens overnight.

it’s a series of negotiations you make with yourself over your whole life. it’s making one less self-deprecating joke. it’s looking at yourself in the mirror with a little more generosity. it’s forgiving yourself for that little mistake.

it’s not one thing and then you’re good. it’s many small choices you can make that slowly make your brain and body a little less uncomfortable to live with

[innerchildabortionclinic]

"fruit has sugar" warning post reminds me of my coworker who told me to make sure I don't get "addicted to fruit". yeah i'm also addicted to a nice walk on the beach

[spikespiegelfanclub]

womens clothing sizing is based on how much the company wants you to kill yourself

[evilplants]

please god stop talking about diets and weight loss in front of kids. especially if those kids are girls. and especially if you’re someone those kids look up to. but really just stop talking about about diets and weight loss when children are in earshot at all. I promise you you’re doing far more harm than good.

[json-derulo]

[caramelizard-deactivated2025122]

[feral-ballad]

Joy Sullivan, from Instructions for Traveling West: Poems; “Howl”

[radical-revolution]

[heavyweightheart]

Research has shown that pleasure affects nutrient absorption. In a 1970s study of Swedish and Thai women, it was found that when the Thai women were eating their own (preferred) cuisine, they absorbed about 50% more iron from the meal than they did from eating the unfamiliar Swedish food. And the same was true in the reverse for the Swedish women. When both groups were split internally and one group given a paste made from the exact same meal and the other was given the meal itself, those eating the paste absorbed 70% less iron than those eating the food in its normal state.

Pleasure affects our metabolic pathways; it’s a facet of the complex gut-brain connection. If you’re eating foods you don’t like because you think it’s healthy, it’s not actually doing your body much good (it’s also unsustainable, we’re pleasure-seeking creatures). Eat food you enjoy, it’s a win-win.

[jenroses]

what

no seriously

what?

[robotlyra]

PLEASURE IS A NECESSARY PART OF HUMAN HEALTH, BOTH PSYCHOLOGICALLY AND PHYSICALLY

[aleatoryw]

this is why you should be eating your chips with salsa and guac instead of beating yourself up for not eating a salad with tomato and avocado (unless you are a salad bitch like me then enjoy both of them!)

[killjoy]

here’s a recent systemic review of all the research done on the subject

[daroos]

for those of you wondering if the studies cited above are legit and if so where we can read about them, here’s a link to one of the (more than a dozen!) papers written on the topic of nutrient absorption and how you eat your food:

Iron absorption from Southeast Asian diets. II. Role of various factors that might explain low absorption - PubMed

Previously reported levels of iron absorption from common Southeast Asian meals composed of rice, vegetables, and spices were too low to be

[nehirose]

hey look, additional info!

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

If you wouldn't say it to a friend you shouldn't be saying it to yourself.

[ed-recovery-affirmations]

This one goes out to everyone who has ever been made to feel like a part of their body is freakish, gross, amoral, shameful etc.

Much love to fat people who have been treated like your folds were a personal offense to the eyes of thin onlookers.

To people with scars, disfigurations, and old injuries who are pressured to cover them up so as not to disturb others.

To people who need medical adaptations for a health condition such as feeding tubes or ostomy bags. It's never fun to have a stigmatized medical condition, but medical devices are tools to help your body be well and function. You deserve to have your own feelings on your sick bodies, apart from the influence of what outsiders think when they see a visible reminder of chronic health problems.

To amputees who are pressured to use prosthetics for the appearance of normalcy, rather than being asked what works best for them.

To anyone with a disability or a health condition whose body simply cannot function typically, and who feels pressured to think of it in terms of how abled people view disability and disabled bodies, rather than being able to come to terms with their condition independently. To people who shake, tic, twitch, who need mobility aids, who have reduced coordination or low muscle tone.

To everyone in the above groups who is treated like even their romantic relationships are for public scrutiny because of the way other people view your capability for love and sensuality, regardless of how you yourself experience it.

To AFABS whose breasts or curves developed early and were treated as though they had something to hide from childhood, or as if they were inherently more promiscuous and sexual and had to be controlled.

You never deserved to be treated that way. Your body is for you, not for the consumption of others. Your personhood should have always been placed over others' thoughts on your body. True body positivity is for everyone. You should be allowed to find the beauty in your fat body, your disabled body, all of your sundry shapes and sizes and shades. I hope you find your true beauty, that you get to enjoy it for yourself first, and that you find others who are open to enjoying that beauty right along with you.

[akindplace]

You don't have to do things for people specifically so they can love you, you don't have to wear yourself out trying to gain someone's affection, you don't need to play their games to make them like you. You deserve love as you are. Remember that, repeat that to yourself as many times a day as you need it: "I am deserving of love as I am. I deserve kindness as I am. I don't need to prove myself to anyone. I don't need to earn love.".

[anexperimentallife]

[marlynnofmany]

In my household we talk about "pathways in the brain" being like deer trails in the woods -- the more the deer walk along one route, the more their hooves wear down the grass until it's just a strip of bare dirt.

But if the deer start traveling a different way, the grass grows back.

[the-haiku-bot]

But if the deer start

traveling a different

way, the grass grows back.

Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.

[sapphling]

one of the most enduringly obnoxious things about algorithmic feeds is that there is genuinely no amount of blocking and tailoring and "not interested in this" and "show me less content like this" that will ever ever convince the algorithm that you don't want to be shown content promoting weight loss

[rubensmuse]

"this but with true crime" "this but with harry potter" "this but with fast food" nope! sorry, but no. i assure you that whatever has been pushed into your various social media feeds lately with irritating frequency is not as inescapable as weight loss ads. i assure you it is not promoted by every single website you frequent to the same degree as weight loss ads. and i assure you it has not done half the damage to you and everyone around you as weight loss ads. this is a post about weight loss ads

[secondbeatsongs]

somehow instead of saying "as a treat", I've started using the phrase "for morale", as if my body is a ship and its crew, and I (the captain) have to keep us in high spirits, lest we suffer a mutiny in the coming days.

and so I will eat this small block of fancy cheese, for morale. I will take a break and drink some tea, for morale. I will pick up that weird bug, for morale.

I'm not sure if it helps, but it does entertain me

[sockdreams]

We often eat pie at work...for morale.

[eerian-sadow]

"As a treat" implies a special occasion, a temporary state. "For morale" makes the joy essential, because you have to have good morale to keep going.

[iamhisgloriouspurpose]

People need joy quite as much as clothing. Some of them need it far more —Margaret Collier Graham