@femmepleaser - Tumblr Blog

there are so many pretty day collars out there and i do not Care about the criticism i saw about them they have some very overtly kinky shit available okay and i simply Like Them

#.txt #not that bunny is all that interested in a status item like that but ohoho captive locks are so cool

#.txt #im just so hapy

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happy pride to my favourite post on reddit

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hey my ass looks pretty good in these I think?

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one thing about me is i've probably been femme all along and i was very misguided and misinterpreted my own experiences and went down a very experimental road that i feel like i am disappointing people by stepping away from, but i know i have to be me finally and it's feeling really good lately as i play with getting back in the game (girlmode) and still being gender nonconforming and/or weird about it

two thing about me is i'm still a top :-)

#.txt #might change my url here if smth new strikes me but hi new icon for now

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girlfriend sleepover💚🩷 (Sam x Bianca🐺, ocs)

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transsexual summer

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Getting back into my favorite hobby

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I've been told the aura of mystery makes me hotter

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mandomerc

Tickle that cheek and take your throne // Pump your veins with gushing gold

(21+ only no porn blogs. NSFW side blogs okay)

grimpact

okay look. if you tease someone with the goal of riling them up to the point where they threaten to do something to you but you have No Intention Whatsoever of holding yourself accountable to them or the feelings of arousal you're provoking, you're not being a brat. you're treating that person like a smut dispenser & showing them you're an unsafe person to play with.

by disrespecting the rule of transactionality in brat/dom dynamics, you're blurring the lines of what are & aren't the expectations. that level of obfuscation is dangerous bc if your dom doesn't have a clear idea of how far you'll take a scene they might escalate things on their end that result in you or them getting seriously hurt, physically or emotionally. that or you might just burn them out & guarantee they'll never want to play with you again, since you're giving them Nothing for all the frustration you're offering them.

Not Giving Anything At All makes it so your dom is doing Literally All Of The Work. they have to manage the frustration of not getting you to behave the way they want you to despite behaving in the way you want & expect them to, as well as placing them in a situation where they have to maintain a scene that is becoming increasingly grating & objectively unrewarding for them to keep participating in.

here's what giving as a brat looks like: knowing what you want & being able to communicate that when engaging with someone. you like being a brat? okay. what do you want out of it? do you like being forcefully reminded you're not in charge? do you appreciate the predictability of your instigation & their reaction? do you enjoy the gradual switching of roles? assuming your play partner will instinctively """get""" where you're coming from will actually only get you where you already are, & them nowhere. if they tell you that's not great for them, are you gonna take that seriously? or are you gonna keep playing pretend bc you're having fun & invalidate their warranted dissatisfaction?

what makes bratting rewarding for both ppl involved is knowing the brat is escalating in a circumstance where they're ready & willing to engage with the full wrath & consequence of the dom. the fun part for brats is acting as if they hold all the power by being a tease, provocative, by instigating. the fun part for doms is showing them the consequences of their actions. it's transactional. brat behaves a certain way, dom reacts accordingly. bratting must account for this exchange. bratting is about seeking this reaction, seeking attention, consequence, accountability. it's the transactionality that makes the shit rly hit.

it's also proportional. being annoying is appealing in direct proportion to the amount of consequence you will face for behaving that way. you're very annoying throughout the day but your dom gets to beat the shit out of you when they get home? effervescent. you're very annoying in a circumstance where you know you will face absolutely no consequence whatsoever from the person you're going out of your way to provoke? you are Not fun to play with. or funny. just annoying.

if you're getting off on the idea of getting someone pent up & then putting absolutely no effort or work whatsoever in coming thru with being accountable to them, then find someone who's into denial or edging with whom you can negotiate & engage in that sort of dynamic. & please consider that you might actually just be a dom (or a switch) yourself since you clearly value being a position of power more than you do being in one of submission.

misbehave responsibly.

thank you for your time.

grimpact