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The idea that a sexless marriage is a failing one always makes me so uncomfortable

I'm watching how to build a sex room (which is great btw) episode 3 and the host lady was asking how many times a week they have sex and the guy was like.... none. and they all like... wince. And the lady was like 'i understand a marriage can't sustain without sex'.

And it's something I've heard so many times that makes me so vastly uncomfortable. Even if both parties aren't asexual, it's still a weird way to think about marriage to me.

Also, the idea that having sex every day is a sign of a healthy marriage is also just weird. Like, sex every day? for your whole life??? until you die??? That uh. idk. i don't vibe with the idea. weird. sorta horrifying.

i get that if one person wants it and the other doesn't then it's a matter of like, how do you deal with being in a relationship where two people want different things. or if both want to but it just never happens.

but in general why is it just the norm to think this way?