#LifeAsIKnowIt

Jamaican🌴✔️ Aries ♈️😈✔️ Never Fake 💯✔️ I stay 🙏 Up ✔️"The Trouble is, you Think you have Time " This my page, like/dislike #nofux2giv

[comeupremy]

[fckyeahantm]

Mikey Heverly | Cycle 22

Photo: Rubén de Peña

[wagatwe]

Believing Victims Is the First Step to Stopping Rape

I was invited to submit an op-ed in The New York Times for their Room for Debate on fairly adjudicating rape on college campuses. 

Believing survivors is not just the right thing to do. It’s the best thing to do if we want to stop sexual violence. The popular myth that women lie about rape doesn’t just hurt the survivors we accuse of lying. It hurts our entire society because it allows rapists to continue harming — unpunished and undetected.

The only way we will have a chance of eradicating sexual violence is if we stop letting thoroughly andrepeatedly debunked rape myths rule how we treat survivors.

There is no privilege to being a survivor; there is nothing to gain from being raped. The opposite is true: survivors have a lot to lose, including theirprivacy — in addition to the economic, emotional and psychological costs of the trauma they endured. Yet the assumption that people lie about being victimized prevails.

There is no other crime where we expect a lifetime of perfection from the victim to give them a chance to be believed. Many people struggle to remember what they ate for breakfast last week, but we demand survivors to recount the most traumatic moments of their lives with pinpoint precision. There is aneurobiological basis for the discrepancies that survivors may have when they tell their stories, but it’s still used as an excuse to believe that somehow every person that comes forward is part of the estimated 2 to 8 percent of false rape reports.

Society says it’s the victim’s responsibility to stop sexual assault by reporting their attack to the police. Yet disbelief of rape victims runs rampant in all levels of the institutions that are supposedly designed to help them whether it’s the police, judge and jury in the criminal justice system or administrators on college campuses. Only when people start to believe survivors will we be able to hold rapists accountable through the systems that claim to protect us. Until then, it can feel impossible to find divulging your story worthwhile. We need to believe survivors so they are able to come forward and know they have a fighting chance of getting justice.

Yes, a tiny number of people lie about being raped, but almost all rapists lie about raping.

[refinery29]

Lady Gaga Bravely Talks About Being Raped As A Teenager: “It Changed Who I Was Completely”

She talks about “the power in listening to each other” and says that when any young person reaches out for help after being raped, adults should do everything in their power to believe that person and help him or her.

WATCH

[the-courage-to-heal]

Signs of Emotional Abuse:

Humiliating or embarrassing you.

Constant put-downs.

Hypercriticism.

Refusing to communicate.

Ignoring or excluding you.

Extramarital affairs.

Provocative behavior with opposite sex.

Use of sarcasm and unpleasant tone of voice.

Unreasonable jealousy.

Extreme moodiness.

Mean jokes or constantly making fun of you.

Saying “I love you but…”

Saying things like “If you don’t _____, I will_____.”

Domination and control.

Withdrawal of affection.

Guilt trips.

Making everything your fault.

Isolating you from friends and family.

Using money to control.

Constant calling or texting when you are not with him/her.

Threatening to commit suicide if you leave.

source

[lavenderpoetryx]

“britneys dad molested her , imagine the father that molested you owning you for slavery while your forced to sing songs picked for their sexual content every night, insane right? i have it on First had authority, and fight as hard as she is and does she still didnt pull that card, its a pride thing i can relate to, However they want to play dirty, lets go, Im SO not affraid of the little trolls who hit this when i was f***** up who are called lawyers. lets GO.” Read more: http://www.usmagazine.com/celebrity-news/news/courtney-love-britney-spears-dad-molested-her-20092511#ixzz3bZnIidNm 

REMINDER: “Molestation includes all sexual contact.  Fondling all the way to sexual assault of a minor.”

[fomysquad]

Brief discussion

[ganolvsgi-asasgi]

can we just take a moment to realize that this is the exact mindset of most rape victims. they blame themselves when the only person they should be blaming is the person who raped/abused them mentally, physically, or emotionally.

[micdotcom]

Watch: Nicki Minaj reciting Maya Angelou’s “Still I Rise” is the most empowering video you’ll see today 

[wocinsolidarity]

I FEEL LIKE I’VE BEEN WAITING MY WHOLE LIFE FOR THIS AND I STILL WASN’T READY

[lavendersisterhood-deactivated2]

Sleeping Beauty is the patriarchal version of a story.  

Maleficent is the matriarchal experience.  

Sleeping Beauty, the predominantly wide released version, is from the perspective of a Prince who raped his father’s competitor to become King.  

The rapist was rewarded for his deed and then kept his own daughter, virgin, naive, protected, from the truth & anger of the woman he raped.  

The only story line we hear all these years is, “there are evil women out there that will be unfairly jealous of your sexual beauty & virginity.”

What will save you from their meanness is a kiss from your prince Charming.

IF IT TOOK UNTIL 2014, to get the complete, mutuality, duality, reality on this Disney classic touted our idealism of a relationship with men …

What does that say about how pervasive “rape culture” is today, hidden in everything we give to girls?

[radoutfits]

[missbombshellxx-deactivated2016]

[rosegold-lux]

[gq]

Rihanna Is the Best GIF Subject of Our Time

While we wait patiently for her new album, a consideration of Rihanna’s infinite image presence.

[itzzebbb-deactivated20210319]

This is the best tweet

[lavenderlibrary-deactivated2017]

You know why women often say “nothing’s wrong” when something is definitely bothering them?

It’s because men have been belittling, minimizing and mocking our emotions forever …

And we are socialized to be as passive, undemanding and selfless as possible, and not to run any risk of bothering or angering a man lest he abandon or hurt us.

[beautyfshn]

Reblog if your tumblr picture is actually you.