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Considering the lack of resources for men and the abuse they get in even trying to use those resources, I’m all for raising awareness.

But the image text isn’t entirely accurate.

I’m assuming the 70% statistic comes from this - which says 50.3% of violence is nonreciprocal, and of that half, women are predominantly the aggressors (70.7%).

As for the actual percentage of victims, no one knows what it precisely is - only that there isn’t a significant gender gap when it comes to who’s the abuser and who’s the victim. Over 500 studies show it’s about 50/50. [1] [2] [3]

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To dig a bit more into these statistics, because this is something I enjoy doing and it’s also an interesting way to examine how social expectations contrast with what actually plays out in reality, using the numbers above we can extrapolate that;

If 50.3% of domestic violence is nonreciprocal, and 70.7% of that shows women as the predominant aggressors, then

29.3% of nonreciprocal violence shows men as the predominant aggressors 49.7% of domestic violence is reciprocal.

And so the total ratio of violence is Men are violent in 64.4379% of all domestic violence Women are violent in 85.2621% of all domestic violence

Of course, the numbers don’t actually say anything with regards to instigation for just under half of the cases (the 49.7% reciprocal, that is), so we can’t really draw any conclusive ideas about “Who started it”. We can see, however, that in terms of domestic violence, women show slightly over 20% more likelihood of having been violent during a dispute than men. This really doesn’t add up with cultural expectations, especially ones such as those underpinning the Duluth Model.

Interestingly, the study also showed that “in relationships with reciprocal violence it was the men who were injured more often (25 percent of the time) than were women (20 percent of the time)”.

-Pete

mynewurl

truly an amazing sight (x)

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bobisokkusu

is this the rise of the brave tangled frozen dragons

scenicroutes

no actually it’s even better than that

this is a still from a 1990 television special entitled, “cartoon all-stars to the rescue,” which, literally, was absolutely nothing but half an hour of beloved children’s cartoon characters attempting to get that kid in the blue to stop smoking pot.

it opens with a brief clip of george h.w. bush and barbara bush sitting in the oval office, petting their dog. the president of the united states looks into the camera and says, “some of your favourite cartoon characters will help you understand how drugs and alcohol can ruin your life.”

and that brief clip alone would be worth the price of admission but then we get into the actual story, which begins with a teenage boy smashing his kid sister’s piggy bank to buy pot. while alvin and the chipmunks look on in abject terror. and winnie the pooh exclaims, “oh my!” and then the kid runs off to buy pot in an alley and bugs bunny appears out of nowhere dressed as a cop, picks a joint off the pavement, and launches into an anti-drug spiel.

it’s actually really not the kind of thing that can be put into words so here’s the full half-hour video, knock yourself out

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oh my god oh my god oh my god

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Source

cherryblossomsparkle

THIS IS ABSOLUTELY CORRECT ACTUALLY

THIS MAKES ME REALLY HAPPY

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he was 100% against preaching to unwilling people, too, and all for bringing religion into the lives of those who wanted it. he would often say that those who pray loudly in front of others were the worst kind of believers

wintercoffin

what a cool dude

mortallyposting-deactivated2018

it makes me sad when people mischaracterize jesus like he was literally the nicest dude ever like he could be anyones bff if he tried because he was so rad like i hate christians who make him seem rude like lol no stopv

nonespark-blog

YES YES YES.

this is because the pharisees would go out into public, get on their knees, and pray where everyone could see them.

because they wanted everyone to see how good they were and how pious, because they were sort of religious authority.

but jesus came and told people to do the opposite, because he wanted them to be humble.

because God wants you to be devoted to a relationship with Him, not to be devoted to making sure others think highly of you.

jesus also encouraged people to do good deeds quietly, or even anonymously.

because he wanted you to do good deeds for the sake of others, not for how good it’ll make you feel or for others to praise you.

jesus was the absolute coolest and i fucking hate it when anyone points fingers at a certain group of people and says “GOD HATES-” NO HE DOESN’T.

THAT WAS HIS WHOLE THING. HE LITERALLY LOVED EVERYONE. ????

cerulean-tmp

This is the type of Christianity and Christians that I like.

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pissyeti

EXCEPT THIS ISNT JUST A FUNNY HAHA SILLY HEADLINE GUYS

this is really important and is a really great program that teaches skills to inmates and allows them to basically receive group therapy while they are simultaneously learning a craft

IT IS ALSO REALLY RADICAL BECAUSE IT BREAKS NOT ONLY THE STEREOTYPE THAT INMATES ARE INCAPABLE OF BEING DECENT HUMAN BEINGS WHO CAN TALK OUT THEIR ISSUES AND HEAL AND BE FUNCTIONING MEMBERS OF SOCIETY BUT IT ALSO SHOWS THAT TRADITIONALLY GENDERED HOBBIES LIKE KNITTING ARENT JUST “FOR WOMEN” AND ARE ENJOYABLE FOR EVERYONE.

here is an from the above article

They started by knitting comfort dolls, which they gave to children removed from their homes because of domestic issues. Then they moved on to hats for kids at the inner-city elementary school many of the prisoners attended, Zwerling says. “If you look at them, they’re covered with tattoos, they’re rough looking, and many of the young guys don’t have all their teeth,” she says. “But it doesn’t feel rough. They’re very respectful and grateful and very happy to knit.”

THEY KNIT COMFORT ITEMS FOR ABUSED KIDS. THEY KNIT HATS FOR INNER-CITY CHILDREN.

this is a good program and i really hope that people actually look into it rather than just posting the headline and a silly image attached ok

original article - x

tenshiko

Seriously go read that article.

micdotcom

Artists uses Disney princes to highlight domestic abuse’s least visible victims

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antifeministbeauty

There needs to be more of this. Too many people think domestic violence is only against women.

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it makes me mad that this has waaaay less notes than the female version

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Illustrator Lili Chin's adorable series Dogs of the World illustrates 192 breeds of dogs grouped according to geographical origin.

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I WAS REALLY SAD BECAUSE I THOUGHT THEY’D MISSED BERNESE MOUNTAIN DOG BUT THEN THERE IT IS OH MY GOSH YOU’RE SUCH A CUTIE!!!!!

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a dingo’s not a fucking dog u bloody shitmongrel wtf it’s a fucking dingo

Adam Grabsch and Katrina Christian (Queens Girl Guide Award recipient) are planning to volunteer in Cambodia with Reach Out Volunteers. They will spend the first week in a local village, working with its elders to improve the village facilities. They will also contribute to life enhancing skills...

#volunteer #fundraising #help #reach out volunteers #cambodia

anti-feminism-pro-equality

I wanna do this.

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7 QUESTIONS YOU SHOULD ASK AT THE END OF EVERY JOB INTERVIEW.

Click here to find out why these questions help you.

nerdscarf

This is so important! I never know what to ask and end up looking like a fool cause I don’t have a question prepared. Don’t be me.

butch-honeysuckle

DAMN this is good info

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Bros before Hos pilot presentation

A television pilot presentation about what it’s like to fall in love in this crazy world we live in now. The series is a semi-autobiographical comedy about three brothers, two straight, one gay, each dealing with modern-day issues in Los Angeles while trying to find love, but screwing shit up along the way.

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Men With Fabulous Flower Beards [boredpanda] Previously: Guys With Fancy Female Hairstyles

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Wine 101

How-to Choose

How-to Pair w/Food

Using The Right Glass Shows You Have Class

Basic Types of Wine

Expanded typing of Wines

What Temp For EachType of Wine

Knowing Your Wine Colors

Wine Type Descriptions

Caloric Comparison vs. Beer

Coffees

A friend once told me (while discussing wines & spirits) to learn about coffees too… " Because you’ll eventually need them, if / when you enjoy too much good spirits."

Infographics: Wine Folleys, Primer Magazine, and Chicago Food Magazine.

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Girls who don’t receive romantic/sexual attention from boys blame themselves

Boys who don’t receive romantic/sexual attention from girls blame girls

lunarthirteen

This.

fireflyreachforthesky-blog

all the guys i know that are single blame themselves

aboutwhitewomen

This is a pretty good example of how feminist commentators like movethefuckoverbro get it wrong when comparing female and male behavior and social standing. They find examples of a supposedly harmful act typically committed by men but not by women (or an example of a disadvantage suffered by women but not by men), and use that to support their steadfast argument that men are oppressive, entitled, privileged, etc. And they see no reason, or simply refuse, to look for or acknowledge different opposing examples, which would require them to take a wider view at the sexes.

Let’s forget for a moment that the pelvis is one of the most sexually dimorphic structures in the human body, and that this is a very likely reason between the difference in sitting posture between men and women. Take a look at the four people sitting with their legs crossed in this photo, and how far their feet protrude into the aisle, narrowing it by half. All of four of the people who are sitting in this fashion are women, and in my experience with trains and buses it is quite common to encounter a gauntlet of women’s feet when trying to pass through the aisle.

Clearly, there’s more than one way to take up more space in public transport. While men tend to take up more space by spreading their legs, women, in turn, take up more space by sitting cross-legged, which thrusts their foot into the aisle. And if you ignore one of these scenarios, you may very well come to the conclusion that one of the sexes doesn’t like to share.

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"can men and women really be just friends??" straight people are so weird

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It is a fact that bisexuals can’t make friends. There is only prey.

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*makes raptor noises*

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Read it and weep, snowflakes.

idetesteverything

Oh my god, this is perfect.

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For the dearies who didn’t want to, or didn’t have time to research, here’s a brief summary:

—-Negative Stereotypes—-

From a Q&A with one of the researchers, we learnt that activists (like feminists) “were perceived as militant, aggressive, forceful, argumentative and abrasive.”

By aggressively promoting change and advocating unconventional practices, activists become associated with hostile militancy and unconventionality or eccentricity.

In one study, 17 male and 45 female undergraduate students were randomly assigned to read a profile about a student who was a “typical” feminist (described as conforming to the stereotypes), an “atypical” feminist (described as not conforming to the stereotypes) or someone whose commitment to feminism was not described. All participants then rated the extent to which the stereotypical traits belonged to character they read about, as well as if they were interested in being associated with the character.

The most common traits for “typical feminists” included “man-hating”, “eccentric”, “militant” and “unhygienic”.

—-Aversion to Association—-

Another study, featuring 17 male and 45 female undergraduates, confirmed the pervasiveness of those stereotypes. It further found participants were less interested in befriending activists who participated in stereotypical behavior (such as staging protest rallies), but could easily envision hanging out with those who use “nonabrasive and mainstream methods” such as raising money or organizing social events.

“We found that participants were less motivated to adopt pro-gender equality behaviours when the article was ostensibly delivered by the ‘typical’ feminist rather than by one of the other message sources,” says Bashir.

The results of three additional studies suggested this aversion to perceived stereotypical behavior impacts people’s behavior. They don’t want other people to view them in the same negative view and consequently be attributed with commonly perceived negative stereotypes.

Due to these negative stereotypes, people are reluctant to adopt the behaviours that these movements (like feminism) promote.

“Furthermore, this tendency to associate activists with negative stereotypes and perceive them as people with whom it would be unpleasant to affiliate reduces individuals’ motivation to adopt the pro-change behaviors that activists advocate.”

In contrast, the studies also showed that people are more receptive of the message when it comes from an individual who does not conform to these negative stereotypes.

What does this mean? Are all activists this way?

“It’s important to keep in mind that this research is focused on how activists are perceived by others, rather than how they actually are,” Bashir says. “The militant and eccentric characteristics do not necessarily describe the actual personality traits possessed by activists.”

In conclusion, negative stereotypes are limiting the influence of what are supposed to be progressive and benign social movements.

So how do we deal with the problem of negative stereotypes?

The researchers suggest that the general public “may be more receptive to advocates who defy stereotypes by coming across as pleasant and approachable.”

But there is some value to activists in considering that people do perceive them negatively and maybe they do need to tweak their strategy a bit to take into consideration the way they’re coming across to people.

—-Additional Comments—-

This is a feminist’s response to the research, in which she actively encourages the reader to completely disregard the stereotypes, ignoring the harm the stereotypes are inflicting to their own cause, and the advice given by the researchers (to be more considerate). Feminists should simply ‘fight back’ instead (thereby inadvertently reinforcing those negative stereotypes). Her reasoning being that it’s the privileged people who are censoring activists and smearing the name of feminism.

The solution to that, Mr. Jacobs, isn’t to turn around and waggle fingers at the feminists for being insufficiently smiley (and in doing so to reinforce the false assumption that feminists are… what was the word? “Overwhelmingly negative”?). The solution is to instead push back against the people trying to use their privilege to control the conversation; to push back against the many, many people who use their political, media, and social power to smear the name of feminism in order to intimidate people from claiming that term for themselves.

Not only is she promoting actions that would consequently reinforce the stereotypes she’s offended about, but she is blatantly refusing to acknowledge the militant feminists that exist in great numbers in her movement, and are considerably the most vocal group.

So I implore you, dear keyboard warrior feminists, to realize that saying this

and doing this

is not helping your cause at all.

All you’re doing is proving the negative stereotypes to be true.

Don’t blame The Patriarchy™ if ever your movement ends up in flames incited by your own reckless actions.

Sources:

http://www.salon.com/2013/09/26/study_everyone_hates_environmentalists_and_feminists_partner/

http://news.nationalpost.com/2013/09/27/they-were-even-seen-as-terrorists-why-people-seem-to-hate-activists-but-not-what-they-stand-for/

http://www.psmag.com/blogs/news-blog/feminism-maybe-feminists-ewww-66918/

http://www.artsci.utoronto.ca/main/newsitems/negative-stereotypes-activists-research

And special thanks to anti-feminism-pro-equality, from whom I stole a couple of screenshots. (Sorry! <3)

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Beautiful

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