First Date Daisy

Figuring out love in the modern world...

[firstdatedaisy]

Well dear readers…I think I scared off another one. Oops.

I literally just had this conversation with my best friend, does intensity = intimacy?

Moving forward: I will be surprised if I hear from him again, but I have been surprised in the past.

[firstdatedaisy]

I have a very hard time understanding people who slide into your DMs, have a decent conversation, and then when I return to the conversation they have blocked me or left.

Ghosting is crazy to me. How hard is it to be like “Hey, best of luck out there but I am no longer interested.”

Moving forward: ghosting is lame.

[firstdatedaisy]

I figured something out.

I think each of my boys on this path is a clue that I am on the right path to my person.

Popeye is saying all the things I want to hear from my person, his natural freak and how he reveals it matches mine, but he is not my person.

When I say that people are like “What! He could be!” (I fucking hate that, love my friends, hate when they say that) And he’s not, it doesn’t mean he is a horrible man. He’s actually wonderful. We just don’t have to do any of the hard stuff, living halfway across the country from each other.

He’s becoming a good friend.

Moving forward: I wonder if he will go deeper with me…

[firstdatedaisy]

Sadly, dear readers, Rugby Guy has probably tapped out.

I then followed up with:

It was been two days, no response.

And here is the other wild part, this is how me promotes himself on the will not be named dating ap:

So….make it make sense.

Moving forward: I’m sorry I didn’t make you feel safe enough to explore with me. I guess the timing wasn’t right.

Update (7/20/26):

He left the convo on app, and probably blocked my number (I didn’t text or anything to find out, just a hunch). Best of luck out there Rugby Guy, you’ll find your person.

[firstdatedaisy]

Some interesting conversations this week…

And after I explicitly told him I don’t send pictures due to my line of work and privacy. We spoke for about 5 mins total.

Enough said.

Moving forward.

[firstdatedaisy]

Q2 Update:

Pit Guy: consistency is king.

Nerd Guy: He just ended a monogamous relationship. He has not asked to hang out sexually in a while so I think we are in just friends land for a while. Which works for me.

Art Guy: I need to not see him as much. He’s a good dude, just a little lost. He tries to make things happen and gets in these super complicated love triangles where he is the side piece. He wants to be chosen and his mask is very transparent to the trained eye.

Theme Guy: patience is a virtue. We text but have not seen each other in a minute.

New Possible Play Partners:

Nashville and Rugby.

Nashville is not local of course, but we are texting and he has expressed interest in seeing me again. We’ll see.

Rugby is…young/green. I don’t know if I will see him again. I would like to, but not sure if he will pick up the ball and run with it.

Happy summer everyone!

Moving forward: I may be a handful, but so are my tits. Play accordingly.

[firstdatedaisy]

While Rugby Guy is sweet and adorable….don’t tell me you want to be suffocated and then freeze up in person.

I know this may sound mean but I think he wants to go into a space and explore sex but doesn’t know how to talk about it, ask for it, or go for it.

Moving forward: how to navigate this….hmmmm

[firstdatedaisy]

I was supposed to hang out with Theme Guy last night but he canceled. I was disappointed but I quickly realized that I just needed to adjust my expectations so I won’t hurt my own feelings.

Theme Guy says he wants to do all these things: sleepovers, all day hangs, help me with home projects…and I truly do believe that in his heart he does want to do all of those things. But his actions tell me that I am not a priority and so maybe all he can offer is a text based friendship and seeing him at work every month.

I’m not going to offer dates to hang anymore. If he wants to see me then he will have to plan something. I’m done being disappointed.

Moving forward: There is always more to learn.

[firstdatedaisy]

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[firstdatedaisy]

Fun first date with a new guy, let’s call him Rugby Guy.

Rugby Guy is 10 years younger than me and so cute and sweet and enthusiastic.

We bonded over going to camp in the same area growing up, movies, dating, relationships, life and all the things.

We went back to my place to smoke and watch tv, amongst other extra curricular activities. He slept over, and this morning he woke up just still high and riddled with anxiety. I made him coffee and had him lay under my weighted blanket for a bit before going to work. He even threw up! The poor guy!

I hope he is not embarrassed and I get to see him again, we had a fun time!

Moving Forward: Ride the wave, watch out for sharks.

[firstdatedaisy]

I went on a date last night that was actually really fun! I didn’t pretend to be anything that I’m not, the conversation flowed, we made out a ton, hopped around to different bars, took pictures, and exchanged numbers to see each other again.

Film Guy is married, in an open relationship, has three kids, and is from another city. He is here taking care of one of his kids.

It was nice to go out, meet someone new, and not worry about “oh is it too soon to take a picture together” or “I shouldn’t say that it’s weird” - fuck it.

Moving forward: I got this.

[firstdatedaisy]

I am excited about this new space I am entering.

All of my guys hit a different area I am working on building within myself and actively setting boundaries in different styles of relationships:

Pit Guy: vulnerability, intimacy, & comfortable silences

Nerd Guy: spontaneity & communication

New to the team:

Art Guy: elements of the kink scene & sexual exploration, valuing transparency with honesty

Theme Guy: holding space for natural growth of intimacy and connection

I am feeling very secure and safe with this roster for the summer. I also am grateful I have found good guys are care about me as much as I care about them.

Moving forward: fall in love with your “muchness”.

[firstdatedaisy]

A man has two sexual encounters (chances) to reciprocate oral.

Then there is a conversation.

If nothing changes, we’re done here.

I saw a new man twice last week. He is very giving in every other way except….that.

It also takes him FOREVER to finish. Like to the point where I am tired and wishing it were over.

Moving forward: It’s ok to say no if you’re done.

[firstdatedaisy]

My New York Boy moved back and we just had the best. reunion. ever.

We have not had sex in a while and we have been sexting due to the long distance (obviously). I have never been a fan of sexting but since we had the friendship, trust, and have had sex in real life; it was so fun and we actually learned a lot about what the other person likes in bed. I highly recommend couples sext (if the trust is there), it’s a game changer.

So when we met up today…it was out of control amazing.

I also was very proud of myself, I spoke up about restating boundaries since he lived here now. I have been working hard on practicing stepping into my emotional power with dating and communicating. I love it.

Moving forward: communication is sexy.

[firstdatedaisy]

Keeping Up Appearances was a British tv show in the 1990s. Rose (on the right) is single and coming back from a date one morning. Her sister Daisy (on the left) assumes it was a wild night.

Rose: "I would have gone straight home if I thought he meant it. 'Would I like to pop in & see his model aeroplanes' he said. Go on, ask me anything about model aeroplanes!"

I often think of this scene when it comes to my own dating life.

Moving forward: Love a man with a hobby!

[firstdatedaisy]

TFW: A thunderstorm reminds you of a person in all the best ways.

I hope you are doing well, and that one day our paths may cross again.

You were the best cuddle buddy.

🌩️

XOXO

[firstdatedaisy]

A guy I have been talking with for a few days started asking about expectations and what I am looking for. This lead to him sharing with me how his main expectation is that I am “saved”, like by Jesus….

This man has discussed not using condoms, inviting me to sit on his face, cream pies and NOW he’s sending me Bible verses, wants me to be “saved”, and thinks being gay is a sin. So I simply expressed that we will not be meeting. Ever.

I can’t make this shit up.

Moving forward: what the fuck? Make it make sense.

If you want to read the ridiculousness, read pictures left to right.