honestly some of y’all want a significant other so badly and can’t understand why you can’t find one, but have no sense of boundaries or healthy expectations of what a relationship is like. in a committed long-term partnership you get left on read, you wait for texts back, and you can forget about each other when you’re busy. sometimes you fall asleep without saying goodnight and sometimes you’re too caught up to text each other before 6pm. that’s how it is. thinking that you can’t be deeply, beautifully in love and still wait more than “1.75 hours” for a text back is such an unhealthy and unreasonable expectation of what love is, and you shouldn’t be in a relationship if you can’t allow the other person to exist on their own apart from you. if you’re projecting your anxieties and insecurities onto a partner who doesn’t even exist yet, then you aren’t ready for one.
My husband and I frequently forget to text each other back during the day because WE ARE AT WORK. We’ll come home and go “shit I forgot to answer you” and continue the conversation, and that’s just if it was actually something important. Otherwise we both just forget and move on to more important things, like are we making frozen pizza for dinner again tonight because I don’t feel like cooking again.
