divina commedia

of love and loss

[purplebuddhaquotes]

“Feelings are just visitors, let them come and go.”

—

[lucasregazzi]

[coqillage]

[wild-cabins]

elivosk

[gentle-reminder]

gentle reminder

you are enough; you are trying, and that’s all you can do

[andwhatexcellentboiledpotatoes]

Can you believe that there are people who live so close to the ocean that they can just think “hey, I should go to the ocean” and then they just do???

[justedrecoverythings]

I saw a tumblr post talking about how there’s no stupid reason not to act on suicidal urges, and I realized that the same is true for ED recovery.

There is no dumb reason not to act on behaviors.

JUST cleaned the bathroom and don’t want to get it gross again? Perfect.

Can’t go running because all your shorts are in the laundry? Awesome.

Have to eat lunch because you’re out with a friend and don’t want to be awkward? Fantastic.

“Fine I’ll follow this dumb meal plan but only because I don’t have the time to go back into residential”? Beautiful.

If it’s the small stuff that keeps you from lapsing, so what? You don’t have to love your body and be completely urge-free to still actively work recovery.

One day your reasoning might look like “I’m doing this for my family” or “I’m doing this so I can keep my job,” and eventually there could even come a time when you can say “I’m doing this for me, because I deserve better.”

Even if you don’t get there right away, those thoughts that might feel like dumb excuses can keep saving your life until you can.

[i-am-the-brunette]

anyone else struggles with trying out new hobbies and giving up immediately because it would take so long to see the results?

is there a solution to this mindset because i would love to know it

[lesbian-aunt]

My solution is to stick with hobbies that make you feel good because of the process, not the result. For example the meditative repetition of movements when knitting makes me feel calm and grounded and helps me empty my mind. The end result is not perfect and many people could do it better but I don’t do it because I need socks. I do it because the process of creating a sock or a scarf is very relaxing. Like that you won’t be discouraged even if your results are not perfect right away.

[just-shower-thoughts]

You know you’ve become an adult when you’re happy to eat leftovers. Way less dishes to do.

[warm-suggestions]

if you’re dealing with more shit than anyone knows, i’m proud of you. just make sure to give yourself love and it’s okay to have a support network 

[faliciateodosio]

[bohemianhomes]

[lilacremes-deactivated20220714]

[lillabardd-deactivated20180830]

[books-n-quotes]

“Everybody has a secret world inside of them. All of the people of the world, I mean everybody. No matter how dull and boring they are on the outside, inside them they’ve all got unimaginable, magnificent, wonderful, stupid, amazing worlds. Not just one world. Hundreds of them. Thousands maybe.”

— Neil Gaiman, The Sandman (via books-n-quotes)

[birthdaylobotomy]

i still don’t understand why recovery isn’t romanticized more. getting better after being at your lowest point? working hard and doing what it takes to feel safe again? knowing that occasional dips aren’t the end of the world? changing yourself and ridding your life of toxic behavior/people? i’m sorry that sounds better than any edgy miserable story i’ve ever heard. 

[books-n-quotes]

“One is loved because one is loved. No reason is needed for loving.”

— Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist (via books-n-quotes)