“Have you been frantically searching for a man to fulfill your fantasies that began as a little girl about an enchanting prince charming and a happily ever after? I would tell you to wait with confidence and assurance that, if it is God’s will, He will provide you with an earthly bridegroom.” I was reminded of these words as I look back and process my early years, it’s an excerpt from the book Authentic Beauty by Leslie Ludy
“A woman is not born a woman. Nor does she become one when she marries a man, bears a child does their dirty linen, not even when she joins women’s liberation movement. A woman becomes a woman when she becomes what God wants her to be.”
We are all born with different set of timelines, maybe for her its the season to start a family, to finally tie the knot, to be engaged, to be in a relationship, but, not for you. If this is the case, don’t be frustrated, pressured and disheartened it will come when it is your time. I wanted you to remember the words in Ecclesiastes 3 (https://my.bible.com/bible/116/ECC.3.NLT) saying that there is “A Time for Everything” especially when in verse 11 it is said, “Yet God has made everything beautiful for its own time…….” Wait on the Lord, take delight in Him. I myself was once in a season where I am in desperate pursuit for relationship thinking that it could fill the void in my heart only to find myself being more empty, I also was in a place where I constantly try to seek peoples approval, placing my confidence and security in them only to find that they will fleet and pass away – in just a blink of an eye they can change.
I want to encourage you to not let the thoughts that lingers in your mind to take you down, instead, take captive of that thought through being alert and sober minded; carrying the full armor of God (Ephesians 6:10-18). Use this season not to run from God but to turn to Him and to be filled with His presence daily. Contentment with our singleness isn’t a status that we arrive at, it’s something we depend on the Lord each day. Why? Because God’s mercies are new each morning.
If you’ve found yourself waiting for so long, it’s a blessing - a precious gift. As said by Apostle Paul, (see 1 Corinthians 7) we both have the gift of singleness and some the gift of marriage. Although it seems that nearly everyone marries, it is not necessarily God’s will for everyone. But above all, we must remind ourselves that the most important thing in life is not finding a mate and having children, but serving God. I also want to express that Singleness should not be viewed as a curse or an indication that there is “something wrong” with the single man or woman. If anything, it is a higher calling.
As with everything else in life, we should ask and seek for God’s wisdom, whether that be marriage or singleness.
My prayer is that we may continually live in a personal revival, seeking God’s will in our lives and continually doing the great commission of “Making Disciples of all Nations.” (Matthew 18:19-20) May Christ be Pre-eminent in our lives, May He be magnified, glorified and lifted HIGH!!
TO GOD BE ALL THE GLORY!!!