Top/Bottom Dynamics and Fandom Problems
Ok so can we stop viewing tops as predominantly aggressive, domineering assholes??? And can we stop viewing bottoms as predominantly submissive, weak crybabies??? Tops don’t have to be that way, there’s legit no requirement to be a top other than “the one who sticks it in”, no “top personality”, no checklist of character traits one needs to be a top. The same goes for bottoms!
Let tops be soft and gentle, getting pleasure from making their bottoms feel good, being patient and careful, loving the feeling of being the only one who can make their bottom come undone like that! Let bottoms be smug and seductive, have a praise kink, enjoy being practically worshipped and pleasured by their top, enjoy seducing them and making them aroused, enjoy the power a seductive bottom can have, enjoy the fact that their needs are being catered to.
Let us have gentle tops, service tops, pleasure-giving tops, smitten, lovestruck, “wrapped-around-their-bottom’s-finger” tops! Let us have in-control bottoms, power bottoms, seductive bottoms, bottoms who enjoy being pleasured and served, bottoms who tease their tops, bottoms who have their tops wrapped around their finger. Let us have tops who are awkward, tops who are virgins, tops who blush easily and get nervous, tops who’re cheerful and good-natured, tops who ask before doing anything, tops who get tongue-tied by how beautiful/handsome their bottom is, tops who are emotional, tops who’re shorter/skinnier/generally smaller. Let us have bottoms who’re maybe a bit more pessimistic, bottoms who’re taller/chubbier/generally bigger, bottoms who’re more cynical, bottoms who’re aggressive, bottoms who aren’t doe-eyed and innocent, bottoms who’re experienced with sex, bottoms who know exactly what they want and how to get it, bottoms who are serious, bottoms with an attitude.
That’s not to say that we can’t have aggressive tops and submissive, emotional bottoms (that’s basically the norm, especially in anime/manga fandoms), it’s just that we need variety! Don’t say a character “can’t be a top/bottom” just cuz they don’t fit the conventional characteristics of a top/bottom. Realise that there are different types of tops/bottoms, and that there’s no personality requirement to be either one!
Plus, a lot of people are completely different in the bedroom than they are in real life, and that’s a fact. Maybe a usually aggressive person is a submissive and pleasure-driven bottom in the bedroom. Maybe a usually meek person is a dominant and experimental top in the bedroom. You never know, and you probably never will know unless it’s mentioned in the show/book/movie/game/etc.
So…..let’s all just stop putting down each other’s headcanons about which character would he a top and which character would be a bottom, because the fact is that they could be either one, or switches. It has nothing to do with their personality traits or how they act or how strong they are or how big they are. Let’s stop placing requirements on who gets to be a top/bottom. There are so many different types of top/bottom dynamics…..let’s not limit our ships to just one! Let everyone have their own headcanons, please and thank you.
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