My hubby wrote this on another profile of ours…. So I thought I would share here as well :)
We get this question often so I thought I would write about my own experience being a sexually denied male. I have not had an orgasm for over a month, and we have discussed 2017 as a potential year of denial. There seems to be a lot of people, both other men interested in being denied and dominant women considering this kind of play for their submissive lovers, who want to hear how this actually functions in a real relationship.
When we are not doing denial play, we have a very normal sex life. My Goddess loves the feel of my dick. I’m just a bit above average size, but I hit perfectly for her, and she can orgasm from penetration almost every time we fuck. When we aren’t doing denial, I do get to cum inside of her. When we are not doing denial, we have a very active sex life with lots of play time together and we do continue doing bdsm play. Denial play does not have to be 24x7 all the time, non stop in a relationship. You can set goals and take breaks. What good is denying someone if they can’t occasionally be reminded of what it is they are missing out on?
When we do denial play, as we are now, our sex life actually increases. The number of times we have sex goes up. The number of times she gets off goes up. The only thing that goes down is how often I get to ejaculate. She lets me feel her pussy and push myself to the edge sometimes, but not every time. I’m trained not to get off from years of doing denial play and she can trust me not to get off without permission, something that takes a lot of practice and patience to learn. We both continue to initiate sex with each other, even though I know she will be the only one having an orgasm. I still touch her, kiss her, walk up and put my arms around her from behind and hand on her breast with the other one sliding down into her pants to rub her pussy as a way to really get her going.
This morning we had a wonderful sexual encounter. She woke me up early today (Saturday). She was fully nude and had been horny all night, finally giving in to what she wanted. We kissed, made out, and I massaged her breasts and pinched her nipples just how she likes while occasionally rubbing her clit. She told me she wanted to be fucked, and I knew that was my cue to get her off. I slid two fingers into her absolutely drenched pussy while we continued to kiss. She’s reached the point where she loves to be penetrated that way and will all but ride my fingers as I rub her off. I used a thumb on her clit and three fingers in her pussy and she came very quickly. I got to feel her wet pussy on my hand, got to stroke and touch her clit, got to suck on her breasts and make out with her. I got to watch her cum, to feel her breathing intensify and speed up and hold her as her entire body shook. I was extremely horny but very satisfied, I had pleasured my wife completely. She laid next to me in the spoon position, my hard cock pressed against her ass. She wasn’t worked up any longer, but knows that drives me crazy. She wanted to cuddle, to be held in her post orgasm glow, and of course I obliged. I love this part of our relationship, our closeness after she gets off and how much she likes me to express how badly I still want her.
This morning I was worse than normal when it comes to arousal, so I kept pushing my cock against her, kissing the back of her neck and of course rubbing her breasts. Today, I just happened to get her worked up again. She rolled over to face me and we made out for a long time, me touching her clit every so often to continue to encourage her to get built back up. She never grabbed or stroked my cock. She kept her hands away and space between us so I couldn’t rub against her. It was all about the kissing, the touching of her body. Finally she was fully ready again, and this time she asked me to penetrate her. She said she wanted to feel how desperate I really was. So I did. I moved over on top of her and slid my cock all the way in. I thrust a few times to get fully in, to get as deep as I could. We kissed, looked deep into each others eyes, my penis as far inside of her as it gets, and her fully enjoying how it felt. At that moment, when many times she would whisper for me to fuck her harder, or tell me how bad she wanted my cum, or how much she liked my dick inside of her… she whispered ‘you’ve had enough, now eat my pussy’. So I did. I immediately moved down, pulling out and putting fingers in her pussy as she very obviously needed penetration today. I sucked her clit and finger fucked her as she moaned louder and faster, until she finally came again for me. She reached down and squeezed my cock, and made a comment on how hard I was.. and that was it. She was done and ready to get up for the day, fully satisfied from two large orgasms.
I was lucky that she let me penetrate her today - normally that’s not the case - but to me, what we did was absolutely sex. She got off. She came hard multiple times. I tasted her pussy, I felt her pussy with my fingers. I kissed her deeply and passionately, I felt and rubbed her breasts. I got to penetrate if only for a few seconds today, but even if I had not, I would have been satisfied. I made love to my wife, my beautiful Goddess, and pleasured her fully. What more can a man hope for than to sexually please a woman?
Denial play takes time. It’s difficult at first and it is a challenge to really behave. It’s hard the first few times to not get off, to not cum, to not orgasm. But it becomes easier the more you do it. You learn you can go longer, you can handle more teasing. With enough training you can even learn to penetrate and have enough restraint to not get off. Eventually you reach the stage I have - I no longer care how long the denial is for, I can take as long as she wants me to, and I no longer feel that I HAVE to ejaculate/orgasm (including a ruined). I’ve reached the point that I moan along with her as she gets off, that her orgasm turns me on so much that it’s become my peak as well. I know other submissive denied men who have been doing it long term, and all of us agree on one thing - when you finally reach the point where you desire HER orgasm more than yours, when you feel satisfied sexually knowing she came, when you can go to sleep locked in chastity and stay soft the entire night after getting HER off, then you know you are truly trained :)
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