foster tha babies

[fosterthababies]

update

We’ve been dealing with legal crap and decompressing from the year before this year, but suddenly moving is upon us.

We’re complicating the move by staying at a short term rental while we clean and stage this house and shop for a new one. It’s more expensive but it has to be done because Beloved Doggie is so, so elderly. He’s deaf and, while never bright, he’s had some kind of neurological event that’s made him bitey. Also, he smelly. I don’t want to put him through the stress of showing the house and I don’t want to put myself through the stress of eternally cleaning up after him.

I’m so grateful to my friend who is letting us rent her place (literally across the street from my work) for as long or short a time as we need. She’s amazing and so kind.

I’m in that weird space of trying to hire movers and painters and time it all just right.

J said he might be ready to get our foster license again after we move and The Rainbow Bridge has taken Mr. Bitey Pants away from us. It’s not for sure, but it’s something.

[fosterthababies]

Are You Aging Correctly?

Ask yourself who benefits when women gracefully fade into the background.

[al-mayriti]

The other day I learned on Twitter about a girl that was nearlly named after the river on her town. So, reblog with what your name would be if it was based on the river on your town (or the closest river)

[jennehall]

Halifax

[meowlizziemixer]

South Platte

[fosterthababies]

I think my name would be The Charles, which seems good to me!

[kiefbowl]

your 3rd, 6th, and 9th most recent emojis describe how your september will go

[meowlizziemixer]

😄😑🤷‍♀️

[fosterthababies]

💔🧠🥰

[fosterthababies]

Yesterday I told J we should talk about getting a foster care license in our new (two years now but that’s still ‘new’ to us old people) state. He said he’d think about it.

Unrelatedly, I ended up in a long conversation with a local foster mom. And, yes. We need to, it sounds bbbbbaaaaaddd out there.

[fosterthababies]

Waiting for my COVID test results has me wrecked. No way I have it, BUT STILL WRECKED.

[fosterthababies]

It’s negative!

[fosterthababies]

Waiting for my COVID test results has me wrecked. No way I have it, BUT STILL WRECKED.

[fosterthababies]

In case there was ever any doubt who was disposable in late capitalism...

Kansas secretly withheld $21 million in payments to foster care providers

TOPEKA — The Kansas Department for Children and Families from 2016 to 2018 secretly withheld millions in payments to private operators of th

[fosterthababies]

One friend’s dad died today and another friend had to put her dog down. In the parking lot of the vet’s office. They come out, give the shot and when she dies they take her body inside. At least my friend got to hold her still while she died. We’re not getting that with our people now, are we?

And then John Prine died.

Tomorrow I run errands for work all day and I’m just going to be crying the whole time.

[fosterthababies]

The Weird Bad Times

Among the many, many, MANY things I can’t say on Facebook right now: my sister has COVID19. She is recovering at home, but she’s still really sick. She’s very private and would murder me for talking about it on Facebook. I’m so anxious about it. She’s had problems with asthma in childhood, but not since we grew up. We are twins, and we have a lot of conflict with each other. Not right now, but like historically. There is nobody else in the world who understands my life and my soul like she does. Being a twin is intense.

J has severe asthma. His work has been classified essential, so he’s burning through his sick and vacay time and won’t go back until April 13. If things are getting really bad by then in our town, I may fight for him not to go back. My work is steady and we could ride it out. I cannot have him die. J is also very private and would murder me for discussing on Facebook.

I’m eating way too much when I smoke weed for my anxiety. Like, 1/2 a large pizza, 6 chicken wings, pint of Ben & Jerry’s and a can of cashews. That’s not being offset by walking. I run around the building a LOT at my job and now I’m just deskbound. I ordered a treadmill and am hoping that will help with the general atrophy.

I gave up and did my hair color at home last night. It turned out okay, but it’ll look like hell in a month. Don’t care.

Anyone who is not watching Better Things: I advise you to watch it.

We’re going to paint the living room/dining room/whole downstairs because it’s an open floor plan. Measuring and ordering supplies today.

[fosterthababies]

A friend of mine is having baby fever something terrible all over Facebook. I messaged him last week with a “hey you should foster, you’re qualified even if you don’t think you are” pitch.

Tonight he just posted something about the “ridiculous” hoops another friend of his is being “forced” through to, as he says, “adopt from the foster care system.” Three letters of reference and a week of parent training classes are among the very few preposterous requirements he’s scoffing at.

I’m speechless. Like, do people not know what being licensed as a foster parent is about? I was trying to reassure him, assuming he thought he wasn’t clean cut enough. But in reality he ... didn’t think there would be that much to it?

What the actual duck?

[iwanthermidnightz]

I’ll leave this here.

[ripe]

falconry_centre on twitter

[ayellowbirds]

HIS NAME IS PINGU AND HE’S A PYGMY FALCON

[thefingerfuckingfemalefury]

He is made out of Joy <3

[cotton-candy--clouds-deactivate]

He squeak

[fosterthababies]

The best thing about this is when you’re reading a text post above it and the little friend keeps popping up into the bottom 1/8 of your screen. Near subliminal lil fluff pops.

[fosterthababies]

breathing

The Worst Day of The Year in my professional life has arrived. I’m having a moment of calm in my office. The text messages started coming in at 5 AM. I’ll be going until 11:30 PM. I wish I didn’t work this event because it sure would be fun to be a guest!

[pleasestopandrew]

[fosterthababies]

😞🥰❣️

Considering we don’t celebrate Valentines Day, and considering this is about how most days go for me, I’ll bet this is spot on.

[fosterthababies]

Describe your Aesthetic (photos encouraged)

With very few exceptions, I cannot abide advertising, logos, brands, etc. I want things to be plain in that way. I’ll wear clothes with the California Republic Flag or a tasteful, plain logo of my school. I have a few graphic t shirts that are clever and/or political. I don’t like “fun details” or trendy styles. The second I see something taking off I’m instantly repelled. If I wouldn’t have happily worn something when I was 15, I won’t wear it now. I don’t mean I have the aesthetic of a teenager, just that I won’t wear something that looks like it belongs in some era. It has to have existed since the 1950’s or 60’s and been acceptable in a youth culture context the whole time. Like converse all star style shoes (but without branding). This year I’ve worn Birkenstocks sandals in the summer and fleece lined clogs in the winter, but the logos don’t contrast on them so you can barely see them. I tend to uniform myself. Right now it’s a black t shirt and jeans and white scarf and an army green coat, adding in various overshirts or sweaters because it’s freezing. Patterns, except for muted plaids, some kinds of stripes, and mayyyybe polka dots here and there, are a no way. Except on socks - my socks can look like vintage wallpaper and I’m happy. I hate synthetic fabrics a lot. I’m really very snobby.

[fosterthababies]

What’s something you used to be very wrong about? How did you change your mind?

This happens to me all. the. time. with people. I’ll get a negative impression of someone and just spew venom (in my own mind) about how shitty they are. Then I’ll get to know them and find out their wonderfulness.

On the other hand, for over ten years I thought this one person was my best friend, so wonderful and loyal and true. Any time evidence to the contrary would surface I would ignore it, say it didn’t matter or shoot the messenger. And then the mountain of evidence that she really was *not* a good friend became overwhelming. And I saw all the times over the years that she’d hurt me, like the fucking blinders had been removed.

I guess maybe I’m a terrible judge of character?