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Almost 57 years ago!
I always love your state of the garden posts! Do you have any advice for someone who wants to start gardening but has no background or knowledge of what to do? (I live in zone 8a if that matters.)
Thank you! Iām always happy to encourage someone to pick up the hobby! This is all based on the assumption you have some kind of yard, but a some of it still applies to container gardening. I really enjoy helping plan a garden, so if you want something more specific, let me know.
1. Start small. I love my garden, but it is work and you have to be willing to keep up with it, because it can get out of hand very quickly and become overwhelming if you donāt. If you donāt have beds already, nowās actually a great time to make them out of a grass lawn. You can lay out newspaper or cardboard (overlap & leave no gaps!) where you want the bed, spread a generous three inches of mulch on top, and let the lack of light and summer heat kill off the grass. By late October or November, youād be able to dig through the paper and plant bulbs if you want. Come spring youāll be able to plant like normal. Again, though, start with a small plot. You can always expand later.
2. Think about what you want from your garden. Lots of color? Greenery? Food (depending on what you grow, you might need a planter for safety)? Do you like the semi-wild cottage look or the more cultivated estate look? Be realistic with yourself about how much time you want to spend on it (see point 1).
My garden is the result of (1) hating to mow and (2) wanting to attract pollinators and birds. So I plant native as much as possible for #2 and since theyāre already adapted to Virginia weather, they need very little attention once established (related to #1). My garden also does not get watered unless thereās an extended dry spell and things start to look stressed.
At the end of the day, itās your garden. Do what will make you smile when you look at it.
3. You will lose plants. Seeds will not sprout (or will sprout randomly years later). Plants or trees you thought you dug up or killed off will come back for years. Donāt stress about it. Youāre not a bad gardener, thatās just nature doing its thing. Also donāt worry if you try something and end up not liking it. If you go back through my gardening tag, youāll see that Iām always editing and thinking about what to do differently next year.
4. Know your light. That means hours of and morning versus afternoon. Full sun needs at least eight hours of direct sunlight. Partial sun still needs at least four. Partial shade can mean it likes sun but tolerates shade or that more than a few hours of morning sun will fry it. Full shade are the vampires of the plant world. Direct sunlight is not a fun time for them. Plants that say full sun to full shade are almost always liars. They are sun lovers that will survive but not thrive in shade, or shade lovers that cannot take the full blast of afternoon summer sun.
You can make a pretty garden with whatever light you have, you just need to work with it.
5. Know your soil. Sandy? Loamy? Clay? If you donāt know, your local nursery will and can tell you what's best suited for it. Also know if you have any spots in your yard where water sits after a downpour. You donāt want to put a bed there.
6. Mulch. Mulch again. Number one thing you can do to improve your topsoil and give yourself a fighting change against weeds. When spreading, donāt put it up against your house or concrete structures like steps ā taper it off.
7. Think seasonally. Donāt fill your garden with whatās currently blooming at the store. Youāll end up with all the visual interest in one month, and then nothing the rest of the growing season. Do not fill up your garden with permanent plants your first year. Pick a few things and let how the season goes tell you what you need the next year. Youāre going to have to play the long game.
Tools
You need very little to start. Garden gloves, hand trowel, pruning shears. A regular shovel if youāre planning on planting bigger items (bushes, trees), or to potentially scoop mulch. A watering can if you donāt want to commit to a hose & attachment yet.
Not strictly necessary, but makes your life easier: tub or bucket of some kind to throw weeds in as you go, hand weeder. You can spread mulch by hand with a small bed, but anything larger and youāll want something to help. I dump a bag at a time and use a small foot-wide rake so I can maneuver around plants.
Bulbs
Great for beginners and require very little maintenance. Plant in the fall, cut the leaves back after blooming in the spring once they start to yellow, forget till the next spring. Ordering season has already started, and theyāll get shipped to you in the fall based on your zone. Pay attention to the bloom time if you want flowers all through spring. General bloom order: (early) snowdrops, crocuses, rock irises, (mid) daffodils, hyacinths, tulips, (late) alliums.
Plants
You pay for time. Seeds are the cheapest because youāre starting from zero. That gallon pot will look great the moment you plant it, but youāll pay out the nose for someone else getting it to that stage. Annuals grow fast, so if you have a tight budget, donāt be afraid to get them in those inch six-packs or three inch pots. Theyāll fill in as the growing season goes on. Just make sure you know your frost date and donāt plant annuals until itās passed.
Perennials can be slower growers, but they'll survive the winter and come back year after year, so if youāre willing to be patient you can get them for cheap(er). (See my hydrangea bush that was first planted four years ago from a three-inch pot that is now five feet across). Both annuals and perennials will need to be watered daily for at least the first week after planting. You lose less water in the evening to evaporation. When itās humid, itās better to water at the base of the plant as the leaves may not be able to dry properly.
Groundcover
Your best friend against weeds. If you have empty space in your garden, something will want to grow there. Empty space is normal with a new planting area, and you do want to leave room for things to fill in, but if you have a big empty space, consider something that stays low and spreads.
What my year looks like in zone 7:
March: mulch (ideally before bulbs are more than an inch above ground)
April-May: every week or two, go out and weed as necessary. Plant frost-hardy perennials.
May: Plant annuals & new perennials.
Late May-June: cut back bulb leaves as they yellow .
June-August: weed when itās not too hot. Accept that I will fall behind. Water as necessary.
July/August: order bulbs if planting new ones that year.
September: catch-up weeding.
October/November: plant any new bulbs, bushes, or trees. Also when Iād move any of the aforementioned or other perennials.
Mid-late November: pull out any remaining annuals, cut back perennials. Mulch again.
December-February: garden rests. Order any new perennials for spring arrival.
16 July 2026
Been a minute since I took stock of the garden. The red hibiscus has started blooming! It looks very nice with the black-eyed Susans.
The self-seeded amaranth (left) and the this-year-seeded amaranth (right) both have plumes now. Please ignore the grass weeds in the right picture. Itās been too hot or too rainy to do anything for weeks now.
The trimmed Joe Pye weed is budding. I missed a stem when I trimmed, and you can see it already blooming in the upper right of the bottom picture and compare how high they all would have been without the haircut. The trim was definitely a good call. None of them flopped in the heavy rain from last week even without being staked.
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30 June 2026 (backdated to when pictures were taken)
The coneflowers are very happy in the back. So many flowers!
Beginning of the amaranthās plume.
The phlox just about to be in full bloom.
Still have a bunch of weeding that needs done in the back, but that can wait until a non-triple digit temperature.
Hexagon Quilt
22 June 2026
I have been calling this my native hyacinth and my native hibiscus in various posts, because I guess my brain was auto-filling hā to whatever came to mind first. Now that it is actually blooming, I wentāwait, that looks like a honeysuckle flower. And yes, it is a native honeysuckle bush. Way to do your one job, brain.
And here we have one of the white foxgloves in the back. Iām so pleased that theyāve consistently self seeded.
And some of the thyme, doggedly blooming through the overwhelming clover.
18 June 2026
The remainder of the French lavender bush looks much healthier (top). Volunteer fennel with planted zennias (bottom).
All the bright colors of the portulaca! And flower buds on the native hyacinth honeysuckle bush! Canāt wait to see what they look like! (Yes, I could google, but whereās the fun in that?)
The hyacinth bean vine has sprouted in one pot, and a volunteer foxglove has sprouted over n another! And finally: mushroom!
16 June 2026
Red yarrow is blooming! The yellow in the center will slowly expand during its bloom cycle.
Next is a check-in of the pollinator area. The gaura (pink) and rue (yellow) are blooming, as is the spike speedwell (purple) behind and between them. Every year I hope is the year the swallowtails will use the rue as a host plant. Fingers crossed for caterpillars!
Bottom is the progress of the new growth after trimming on the Joe Pye weed.
Left are the amaranth seeds (pink) I spread for this year, sprouted and with the preliminary thin. Right are volunteers from the amaranth (orange) last year. They are right against the path, so not the best placement, but I donāt want to risk losing them by trying to move them.
Petunias from last years hanging baskets somehow ended up on the ground below (??) and survived the winter (???). Gardening is so weird sometimes.
Second picture: so much clover! Why? Where did it come from all of a sudden? After I took the picture I got about half of it up, but itās grown all through the thyme (yes, there are path stones in there) and Iām ripping up their roots too. I need to get it out though, if I want my thyme to get the sun it needs to thrive.
14 June 2026
More summer color coming in. Above, first of the milkweed and coneflowers.
Hostas and astilbes.
Bush violet blooming (with identifier, since I realized I never posted it for my records).
WOW I CAN'T BELIEVE THIS IS MY FAVORITE TELEVISION SERIES OF ALL TIME (it's not out yet)
So excited!
08 June 2026
I trimmed my Joe Pye weed a little while ago, and it is starting to show new growth near the cuts. Looks on track to be bushy rather than single tall stems that flop in the rain.
Delphinium and coneflowers in the back.
I bought a too-wide seed column for my feeder and had to hack it into pieces to get it to fit. I had a leftover chunk and stuck it on the perching branch. Above, a red-bellied woodpecker taking whatās on offer, and a downy woodpecker using the bark butter feeder that was included in my last order as a freebie.
And a short video of a house finch bathing in the birdbath. (No bathing sounds, taken from inside the house.)
04 June 2026
Best bluebird picture Iāve managed to date. Love how bright the blue is now compared to winter.
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[link to the Reddit post]
[ID: two screenshots of a reddit post on r/offmychest by user awaythrowjessie, titled "My girlfriend made me realize I'd be happier as a woman". it reads as follows:
I am 33, born male, and have had major self image issues my entire life. I hated seeing myself in mirrors, pictures, you name it. I honestly thought it was kinda normal so I just accepted it.
Now about 3 weeks ago I was at my girlfriends house, we have been dating a little over a year now, and have plans to move in together soon. Now recently she has shaved her head to support of her friends with cancer (side note thenl treatments for that friend are going very well). She had since bought some wigs to wear while her hair grows back out. We were joking around as I have male pattern baldness, and when she went to the bathroom I jokingly threw a wig on and waited. She came our, saw me we laughed for a bit and she said "you know I think you'd make a pretty girl" we laughed some more but those words triggered something in me.
Cut to a few night's ago she asked why I've been acting weird lately and I just told her how i was feeling. She said "alright let's do this " and when I asked what she told me she was going to give me a bit of a makeover and put me in one of her dresses and if i liked it then good. I was nervous and asked what if I did like it would she still be attracted to me. She just responded with "Baby you know I'm bi, guy or girl you're still mine." Her words reassured me honestly i love her so much.
Anyways she finished the make up, fitted a wig on me perfectly and got me in a dress and even helped me put a bra on and stuff in a little so i could see what breasts would kinda look like on me. Now I expected to see myself in the mirror, laugh this off and move on right, but I didn't. She did an unbelievable job, like I looked like I had been born a woman, and when I saw myself in the mirror for the first time in my entire life, I liked what I saw. I probably stared at myself for a good 10 minutes before she finally asked me something. She asked what I wanted to be called. After a few seconds I said Jessie, I always like the name Jessie. She whispered in my ear "well Jessie, you look beautiful." And that was it, I knew this was who i wanted to be.
I'm nervous now though, my friends will accept it but my family are, well let's just say not very progressive. But this is what I want.
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thereās an update!!Ā
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[ID: A screenshot of a Reddit post from r/offmychest by user awaythrowjessie, titledĀ āI went out as Jessie for the first time and I was honestly surprisedā. The screenshot reads: Hello everyone, this is an official follow up to my previous post that went viral and caught me off guard.
So me and my girlfriend, (Who has officially agreed to disclose her name lol) Emily, had gone shopping for me to get me outfits and the like. Earlier today i put on one of those outfits and officially faced the world as Jessie for the first time.
To say I was nervous would be an understatement. We went to our local mall and I was almost shaking, thankfully Emily calmed me down and said if anyone said anything mean to me she'd handle it, then playfully threw up her hands like a boxer lol. We stepped inside and started walking around going in stores and I noticed something, no one was staring. Like at all. I live in an area that still has issues with LGBTQ people so I was afraid of staring or aggressive people. But none of that happened. People greeted me, the store workers were kind and nobody looked at me like I was weird. I felt comfortable, and Emily even said she saw someone check me put, though i doubt that.
This was unbelievable to me and honestly I felt like myself. I feels nice that I can go out without worrying about Judging eyes.
To all the supporters of my previous post thank you, you have made me happy. Ill keep this account going to let you join me in my journey and once I'm confident enough I'll post up some pics of me and Emily too :) end ID]
I'd much rather people reblogged this version of the post than any other at this time btw
Honestly crying right now. Wherever Jessie and Emily are at this moment, I hope they're doing well.
This is so similar to my wife's story I'm smiling and crying at the same time. I love it every time someone realizes they can live as their authentic self.
I completely blew my self-imposed deadline for the next chapter of the soulbond fic, but in my defense (1) I had a nasty cold for two weeks and only shook the brain fog this weekend and (2) Solana got an unexpected development that completely changed the focus of the chapter. New goal is mid-June!