Freda

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[politijohn]

The revolution continues. Who is ready to join the fight?

[martha-ellen]

“There is no such thing as being non-political. Just by making a decision to stay out of politics you are making the decision to allow others to shape politics and exert power over you. And if you are alienated from the current political system, then just by staying out of it you do nothing to change it, you simply entrench it.”

— Joan Kirner - first female Premier of Victoria, Australia - 1990 - 1992

[fredarose]

I'm wondering what you opinion is on women not being believed when it comes to sexual assault and rape cases? Maybe it's just an American thing, but I read the book Missoula and it shed light on the fact that over 93% of campus rapes that were prosecuted ended w/ the accused being acquitted, due mostly the victim not being believable. Why is it that in US society that a majority of women are not believed? This is a SERIOUS question. I was just wondering about your take on this.

Well, some men don’t believe women for reasons of self-preservation. Can’t start taking that stuff seriously or they might have to be accountable for their actions. As for women, I think that’s complicated. Some women derive a sense of superiority over other women by convincing themselves and others that they just make “better decisions” than the women who’re assaulted. I also think the fact that every accused man has a mother who doesn’t believe she raised her boy that way and would do anything to protect his reputation is a big part of the problem. Not to put all the blame on mothers (I’d be shooting myself in the foot!), but I do think it’s imperative that those of us who are raising sons realise that we hold incredible power in terms of the future of relations between the sexes. It starts and ends with how we raise our boys. And we have to have really frank discussions with them about how they use their bodies and power out in the world.

[fredarose]

Kanye’s dumbass rant about “male energy” in the Oval Office is a classic example of how sons of neglectful dads can sometimes grow up to romanticise male power figures in a desperate attempt to make sense of their own severed relationship with their dad. He’s trying to turn Trump into a daddy substitute, but Trump’s just exploiting him like the rest of the world is. Kanye’s mum did everything for him and was the absolute centre of his universe, but he wasn’t comfortable with Clinton’s campaign “I’m with her” because it lacked the male energy he felt he was deprived of as a child. Instead of using his experience as a reason to valorise the female sex, instead he can only associate women with nurture/care/“weakness”, and men with a cold, distant, awe-inspiring mystery deserving of power.

[fredarose]

We put the homemade co-sleeper in our bedroom today and I’m really happy with the result. Dad thinks it has a slightly Nordic vibe about it and I can kinda see that! This whole thing feels a lot more real now.

[milliegees]

How did you make this?

[fredarose]

My husband drew a design from his head and then bought the wood + paint and built it. I’m just about to get it out of our garage and give it a good clean for baby #2 who’s due soon 😀. I’ll post a pic when it’s all set up.

[fredarose]

Slow winter days enjoying my firstborn and waiting for baby. I’ll be full term next week :-)

[the-soul-tribe-deactivated20180]

“It is often said that the first sound we hear in the womb is our mother’s heartbeat. Actually, the first sound to vibrate our newly developed hearing apparatus is the pulse of our mother’s blood through her veins and arteries. We vibrate to that primordial rhythm even before we have ears to hear. Before we were conceived, we existed in part as an egg in our mother’s ovary. All the eggs a woman will ever carry form in her ovaries while she is a four-month-old fetus in the womb of her mother.

This means our cellular life as an egg begins in the womb of our grandmother. Each of us spent five months in our grandmother’s womb and she in turn formed within the womb of her grandmother. We vibrate to the rhythms of our mother’s blood before she herself is born. And this pulse is the thread of blood that runs all the way back through the grandmothers to the first mother. We all share the blood of the first mother - we are truly children of one blood.”

– Layne Redmond

[fredarose]

Danish study on the “child penalty”. Wow... Source: http://www.henrikkleven.com/uploads/3/7/3/1/37310663/kleven-landais-sogaard_gender_feb2017.pdf

[fredarose]

Happy to share that I’m pregnant with baby number two. I’m eight weeks along and we just had an ultrasound which confirmed a good heartbeat and that everything is measuring as it so far should. I didn’t know if I was going to see two babies on the monitor as I ovulated from both sides in the cycle we conceived. But just one little bean is squirming around in there! 

I found out I was pregnant on Christmas Day and it was the most surreal and amazing present. I didn’t feel pregnant at all and only took a test to make sure I could have a glass of wine with Christmas lunch. When the test came back with a strong positive I was speechless. A couple of weeks later the symptoms hit me like a ton of bricks: crushing fatigue, nausea/vomiting, dizziness, bizarre food aversions (can’t eat potatoes or tomatoes), and poor sleep. 

I’ve been really lucky because Jon just had a week off and my mum’s on leave for the next couple of weeks so I have help with Leon during the most challenging weeks of pregnancy. Leon’s definitely noticed how tired I’ve been because he keeps saying things like “mummy’s tired, Leo needs a lie down too” haha. We’re not going to tell him about the baby until he can touch my tummy and feel the kicks. I’m due at the very start of September so the baby should arrive about a month before Leon’s third birthday, unless it arrives three weeks early like Leon did, in which case it’ll be a winter baby.

We’re so, so excited. It’s going to be a pretty major year with a new baby, a move to the country, and I’m going back to teaching as well. All good things.

[megapope-deactivated20220531]

the most frightening type of person is people who are Really Into Disney

[overpricedvodka]

Serena Williams – RICH, ICONIC, WORLD-RENOWNED SERENA WILLIAMS – almost died after giving birth because the nurse thought her super-detailed request to combat her history of blood clots was the result of a confused woman on pain medication. (https://www.vogue.com/article/serena-williams-vogue-cover-interview-february-2018)

You could say that doctors and nurses get requests from patients all the time who think they know what they’re talking about. You could say conversations about Serena being a Black woman so her advice wasn’t taken seriously are just race baiting.

But you could also note that Black women are 243% more likely to die from pregnancy or after-childbirth related issues (https://www.npr.org/2017/12/07/568948782/black-mothers-keep-dying-after-giving-birth-shalon-irvings-story-explains-why) and that nurses throughout the industry have personal accounts of Black women not being taken seriously by white doctors (https://twitter.com/grimalkinrn/status/951170130989408256).

So if Serena Williams can almost die after giving birth because nobody was listening to her, what do you think happens when the average Black woman says “something’s not right here” and requests help?

[weavemama]

Erica Garner was dealing with stress from her father’s tragic death. Erica Garner had a sudden heart attack. Erica Garner had to deal with the NYPD following her around. Erica Garner had to see the hundreds of racist Internet comments that said her father deserved to die. Erica Garner had to read about the derogatory terms her family was called by racists. Erica Garner had to watch pro-police rallies mock her father’s death. Erica Garner had to witness her father’s killer get away with murder, and keep his job. Erica Garner continued to advocate against police brutality and for black lives. This beautifully ethereal soul has given so much to her community. She could have easily given up after her father’s murder, but instead she organized in New York City to fight against police brutality. She called out major politicians for not doing enough about her father’s death, and the thousands of other black lives that were taken by the hands of murderous police officers. She was a badass. But the stress is a killer. Dealing with racism is a killer. RIP Erica Garner. She didn’t deserve this.

[fredarose]

Erica died four months after giving birth to a baby boy. In New York, black women are 12 times more likely to die in childbirth or due to postpartum health complications than white women. Police brutality is like a nuclear bomb — there’s the harm of the initial explosion, and then there’s the fallout for years after that. The police didn’t just kill her father Eric, they took Erica’s life too.

[fredarose]

Therapists reinforce the cult of individualism by imposing responsibility for all a woman’s problems on the woman herself. As long as women can be sold the myth that our problems are the result of unique and individual human experiences, we will be powerless against the social conditions that create madness. We must recognise that it is not we, but society’s definition of us, that is pathological, and we face real problems generated by real social tyranny.

Susan Williams, Mental Illness as a Social Disease

[kim-kartrashcan]

I mean…I’d be concerned too

[fredarose]

Obviously someone with a kid lol. They ask to watch the same movie alllllll the time.

[fredarose]

Such a good day! Beach times with my boys and Roy Moore lost the special election in Alabama! :-D

[stuffmomnevertoldyou]

As Women Take Over a Male-Dominated Field, the Pay Drops

Work done by women pays less because women do it, research shows.

It may come down to this troubling reality, new research suggests: Work done by women simply isn’t valued as highly.

That sounds like a truism, but the academic work behind it helps explain the pay gap’s persistence even as the factors long thought to cause it have disappeared. Women, for example, are now better educated than men, have nearly as much work experience and are equally likely to pursue many high-paying careers. No longer can the gap be dismissed with pat observations that women outnumber men in lower-paying jobs like teaching and social work.

[chamomileyes]

A striking example is to be found in the field of recreation — working in parks or leading camps — which went from predominantly male to female from 1950 to 2000. Median hourly wages in this field declined 57 percentage points, accounting for the change in the value of the dollar, according to a complex formula used by Professor Levanon. The job of ticket agent also went from mainly male to female during this period, and wages dropped 43 percentage points.

The same thing happened when women in large numbers became designers (wages fell 34 percentage points), housekeepers (wages fell 21 percentage points) and biologists (wages fell 18 percentage points). The reverse was true when a job attracted more men. Computer programming, for instance, used to be a relatively menial role done by women. But when male programmers began to outnumber female ones, the job began paying more and gained prestige.

[femininewritings]

This is the stark reality. The pay gap exists not because of women’s “inability” but because they are viewed as inherently less valuable human beings.

That’s it!

[from-miss-to-dr]

Do you guys think this will happen with medicine?

[gender-critical-appspot]

Look to what russian doctors get paid and how they’re treated. Being a doctor is a predominately female field there.

[vampirevvekend-deactivated20190]

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