Freya

bi trans girl meow, 19, 196 escapee

[freyadefae]

Polyamorous, aromantic spectrum, bisexual, gender-fluid, transfemme, and non binary

20 (I don’t know how tumblr works)

Things I like:

Dungeons and Dragons

Pathfinder

TTRPGs

My partner

Butterscotch

ATLA

Pegging

Owl House

FMAB

Things I don’t like:

Feet (ew)

Facial Hair Piercings

Furry (because of the fur/hair)

[violettbackedstarling]

thought tumblr would enjoy this

[starlovinguy]

The idea trans men can "pass easier" comes from a place of privilege, survivorship bias, and a lack of understanding of trans masc oppression.

Society sees trans men as delusional girls, as people breaking out of its strict concept of femininity, and treat then accordingly.

This means that most trans men will be placed into situations that prevent any form of freedom, like child marriage, arranged marriages, being forced to be a caretaker of a house, ect.

This means that society will degrade trans men and make them "know their place" through rape, sexual assault and pregnancy. (A very common occurrence as we have the highest sexual assault statistic of any minoroty group with 1 in 2 trans men facing it)

This means society will treat trans men like shit until they kill themselves, which works as 50% of us from ages 11 to 19 attempt suicide.

And this means trans men must detransition themselves for their safety and to get help.

This blocks a significant amount of trans man from transitioning. So, let's take a look at who we have left.

Those who are in the middle of transitioning are most likely to be seen as lesbians by others, not as transitioning trans men.

And those who have easier access to transitioning, meaning they have white privileges, parental support, and/or the money to transition.

Of course, people who have white privileges, parental support, and/or the money to transition will have a much easier time transition. They have less pushback from their communities, can buy packers and binders, have the money to get clothing that hides curves, etc. They also have the support to be able to be way more vocal about transitioning, too.

So, to summarize, most trans men cannot transition due to outside circumstances or die before they can, causing a small portion of us to be able to transition. Those of us who can are usually seen as lesbians by others if we don't pass and those who have an easier time transition are people with support/money/white privilege to do so, which also allows them to be more vocal about transitioning.

As such, when people look at trans men who are transitioning, they only ever see the minority who are vocal about it, and assume that all of us have it easy, when in reality that isn't the case.

[starryhoundbloo]

Shout out to my mom who explains my transition as "Having a daughterpillar turn into a Boyterfly". It doesn't erase the fact I was an adorable little girl, and also affirms my gender now. I love my mother.

[theo-the-door]

Trans guy going on T, call that Project Male Hairy

[questionable-ftm-passing-advice]

get a vaginoplasty just to get another phalloplasty. if you haven't had one yet then well get a phalloplasty and then see above

Infinite penis

[this-is-trans-joy]

My parents have been calling me "their oldest" for about 6 years now, and always correct people who try and gender me! They describe my gender to people as "its just who they are. Thats all that matters". And even to students as teachers! In a deep red us state! Me being known as i am is so important and it means a lot from them

This is trans joy!!!

[yourfaveisintersex]

if your pride month post doesn't include men + man-aligned folks (while highlighting/explicitly including genders that aren't man-aligned or smthn idk. I realize the following sentence comes off *way* more extreme than I intended and I don't feel like re-writing the post) you are a hop skip jump away from TERFism btw just so you know. hell if you actively exclude men even as a joke I'm just calling you a TERF. we are flat-out not entertaining this shit not this year or any year after that ok? ok

I love u men apart of racial/ethnic minorities I love u disabled neurodivergent and mentally ill men I love u queer men of every flavor imaginable. In fact butches and studs I love u too regardless if ur a man also or not because anti-men talk is often hand in hand with anti-masculinity rhetoric that harms all masculine queers too. Obligatory special message to love intersex men for this blog especially if they're cis men and *especially* if they're a cis man in a way that breaks the norm of what "cisgender" might mean

[asexual-amanita]

Happy pride month! Please remember to include disabled people in your festivities this year! This includes:

- Hiring sign language interpreters

- Ensuring venues are step free

- Making dedicated sensory safe spaces

- Providing free masks

- Including braille or audio described signage

- Using plain language in speeches

Yes it’s more work, but pride is for everyone, it’s needs to be inclusive.

[t-rexseesyoursins]

Still never gonna be over the fact that it took Maes Hughes one night to figure out the truth about Amestris when it took the rest of the cast half the series

[tboy-cock]

one time i had a guy tell me i "look polyamorous" which isnt exactly offensive to me because telling me i look like i fuck multiple people at the same time isnt really an insult but also crazy nonetheless because im like barely amorous at all

[yipyipallyall]

[daily-dose-of-fantasy-art]

Rene Covac, A Joust at Midnight

[starlovinguy]

The idea trans men can "pass easier" comes from a place of privilege, survivorship bias, and a lack of understanding of trans masc oppression.

Society sees trans men as delusional girls, as people breaking out of its strict concept of femininity, and treat then accordingly.

This means that most trans men will be placed into situations that prevent any form of freedom, like child marriage, arranged marriages, being forced to be a caretaker of a house, ect.

This means that society will degrade trans men and make them "know their place" through rape, sexual assault and pregnancy. (A very common occurrence as we have the highest sexual assault statistic of any minoroty group with 1 in 2 trans men facing it)

This means society will treat trans men like shit until they kill themselves, which works as 50% of us from ages 11 to 19 attempt suicide.

And this means trans men must detransition themselves for their safety and to get help.

This blocks a significant amount of trans man from transitioning. So, let's take a look at who we have left.

Those who are in the middle of transitioning are most likely to be seen as lesbians by others, not as transitioning trans men.

And those who have easier access to transitioning, meaning they have white privileges, parental support, and/or the money to transition.

Of course, people who have white privileges, parental support, and/or the money to transition will have a much easier time transition. They have less pushback from their communities, can buy packers and binders, have the money to get clothing that hides curves, etc. They also have the support to be able to be way more vocal about transitioning, too.

So, to summarize, most trans men cannot transition due to outside circumstances or die before they can, causing a small portion of us to be able to transition. Those of us who can are usually seen as lesbians by others if we don't pass and those who have an easier time transition are people with support/money/white privilege to do so, which also allows them to be more vocal about transitioning.

As such, when people look at trans men who are transitioning, they only ever see the minority who are vocal about it, and assume that all of us have it easy, when in reality that isn't the case.

[sortingmyideas]

There is no platonic explanation for that. No, there's no romantic or sexual one either. Nope, not familial or alterous. There's no explanation ever. Love isn't real.

[fun-mary]

Hey, four fifths of my polycule saw you from across the bar and think you're cute. The other one thinks you're fuck ugly.

[polyglamory]