gentle voice, firm hand

Jesse | 23 | Bay Area find out what im all about ME | AMA I PRESENTS♥ | VENMO

[bbwmommydom]

MOOD: Jerking a boy off from behind while kissing their neck, nibbling on their shoulder and whispering such filthy depraved things into their ear 🤤😈

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[polyamorouspixie]

In defence of separate bedrooms

Me and my boyfriend have our own bedrooms. And I always feel when I tell people this I always feel I need to justify it. We do usually sleep in the same bed, you know. We are a couple.

It was important for us both, as it turned out, that we have to have our own space. Some of the reasons are specifically poly, and some are not–as with most relationship advice.

-having somewhere to have other partners over without imposing on your live in partner(s) is useful

-it’s emotionally healthy to have a space that is just your own where you can shut the door on the rest of the world when you need to. Where you can keep your things and decorate it however makes you happy.

-being able to easily have space during disagreement helps head off arguments

-being able to “stay over at your partner’s place” even when you live together keeps it feeling fun and exciting

-making a conscious decision to share a bed each night is a good way to practise informed consent, and makes it easier to have a night to yourself when you want to without it feeling like a slight on your partner

-being able to close the door on your partner’s mess means no more arguments over dirty socks on the floor

I appreciate we’re lucky that we have the money and the space to do this, and not everyone can. But I think being able to choose to spend time together is far more romantic than being in an enclosed space together.

[feministism]

[towerofglass]

[fridayiminllove]

Pussy got that wet wet, got the drip drip, got that super soaker...

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[mdlblghaven]

Honestly? Singing the little one a lullaby so that they fall asleep is the best thing in the world. I can’t tell you how much I cherish it.

[catchymemes]

[disney-dreamings]

sjfgxlalahfj my heart I love these soooo much

Credit goes to: marcianopalacio on Instagram

[idramaaddict]

AMEEN

[onevintagefuture]

YES PLEAAAASE

[smartasscanbe]

Slowly and I just asked for what I’m already receiving 😍❤️

[ladypaolabo-returned-deactivate]

Notte…

[sitnstareus]

[lesbianherstorian]

[tbfhprincess]

I cry. But it’s not enough. Not enough to get rid of the squeezing in my chest, not enough to take away the heavy sadness.

Excerpt from a book I’ll never write (via tbfhprincess)

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[reitfreund]

[pretty-lil-mess]

🐾এКiʈ•Кɑʈএ🐾

[thetwistedrope]

As a toddler, the codependent learns quickly that protesting abuse leads to even more frightening parental retaliation. Thus she responds by relinquishing her flight response, deleting “no” from her vocabulary and never developing the language skills of healthy assertiveness. The future codependent also learns early on that her natural flight response intensifies her danger if she tries to flee. Later, when a child is older she may also learn that the ultimate flight response, running away from home, is hopelessly impractical and even more danger-laden. Many toddlers, at some point, transmute the flight urge into the running around in circles of hyperactivity. This adaptation “works” on some level to help them escape from the uncontainable feelings of the abandonment melange. Many of these unfortunates later symbolically run away from their pain. They deteriorate into the obsessive-compulsive adaptations of workaholism, busyholism, spend-aholism, and sex and love addiction that are common in flight types. The toddler who bypasses the adaptation of the flight defense may drift into developing the freeze response and become the “lost child.” This child escapes his fear by slipping more and more deeply into disassociation. He learns to let his parents’ verbal and emotional abuse “go in one ear and out the other.” It is not uncommon for this type to devolve in adolescence into numbing substance addiction. The future codependent toddler, however, wisely gives up on the fight, flight or freeze responses. Instead, they learn to fawn their way into the occasional safety of being perceived as helpful. They discover that a modicum of safety can be purchased by becoming variously useful to their parent. For the budding codependent, all hints of danger soon immediately trigger servile behaviours and abdication of rights and needs. Once a child realizes that being useful and not requiring anything for themself gets them some positive attention from their parents, codependency begins to grow. It becomes an increasingly automatic habit over the years.

Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving, Pete Walker pg 130-133 (via thetwistedrope)

If you love someone, set them free. Even when it hurts. Even when it rocks your whole world. Even when it leaves you completely alone. You just might not be ready for one another. But you know you deserve each other at your respective bests.