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[haruharuz]

Advice no one wants to hear:

You HAVE to put in the work or it isn't going to happen.

This means, yes, you're going to need to actually work constantly for a solid year to reach your goals. Probably longer than that, honestly. You are going to be tired and it isn't as easy as anyone makes it out to be.

But if you don't get up and make the change in your life, no one is.

[peoplefromheaven]

The start of a new month:

Clean out purses

Set monthly goals

Make plans with family and friends

Schedule appointments

Review and prepare for any birthdays, weddings, etc

Deep clean

Go over budget

Clean out the fridge

Plan your to read list

[inkskinned]

you say it's my villain era and what you mean is that when you were six you panicked about wearing the right thing to kindergarten, what you mean is that in middle school nobody was eating, what you mean is that you spent high school prepping for college and college prepping for adulthood and adulthood fucking lost in the system.

what you mean is that you've been good. you were a good team player. you would have never considered yourself perfectionist - those are people more popular, prettier, more successful - but you carry any flaw like a secret in you, terrified someone will desert you for the simple reality of your personhood.

if you were good you could be loved. you could be loved if you were selfless and thoughtful and caring. if you bent over for every person, if you went above-and-beyond, it would absolve you of who you actually were. deep down, how horrible that you had needs. that you had boundaries, that you had desires. you learned young that you cannot afford to cut people out of your life - you would have nothing left. it is better to live in the service of others, to supplicate. to worship. you weren't exceptional, you had to make up for it in some way. to prove to others you were worthy.

if they need you, it's the same thing as loving you. if you are always-there, always-listening, always-friendly, you are filling a role. you have a purpose. you are living correctly.

villain era, you repeat. you mean: yesterday you finally told a man no. for hours afterwards, you couldn't control your heartbeat. you mean: you've been saying positive affirmations on repeat, trying to teach yourself any new thing about how self care is necessary. you mean: three weeks ago, due to a scheduling conflict, you finally told a coworker that no, you couldn't do them a "quick favor". you have felt bad about that ever since. sure, it would have made you work late and it would have been extra stress - but you feel bad about it nevertheless.

you tell your therapist you have been leaning into evil. she asks what that means. when you tell her: sometimes i prioritize my own needs, she doesn't find it funny. she looks at you a long time.

"and that's evil?" she clarifies.

"well," you say. "feels evil to me."

[sk-lumen]

The secret to create healthy habits.

Motivation > discipline > consistency > habits. That's the process from start to finish, for changing your life around with healthy choices.

Motivation is only the launchpad to start with, after that you can't rely on it because it comes and goes on a whim! A lot of people make the mistake on relying on it all throughout, and then wonder why they can't stay on track while other people do.

What you need next is discipline: when you commit to something and stick to it even when it's hard, even when you don't feel like it, because that's how you fill the gaps inbetween to create a routine.

And you create a routine by staying consistent. Today, tomorrow, again and again.

When you stay consistent over months, over half a year, it becomes a habit, and when something becomes a habit, it's effortless to keep going because that is now your default setting. It becomes your new normal, the choice that comes easiest to make because you don't even have to make it or think it; you just lean back into it.

Going to the gym regularly becomes like having a meal; if you don't do it, you'll feel restless and off, genuinely craving the movement and the boost of endorphins. When you eat healthy regularly, you feel it right away if you get off track and indulge in too many treats: you'll feel it in your body, in your mental clarity, in your emotional wellbeing and it's so much easier getting back on track because healthy is your new default.

[hermajestyimher]

Repeat After Me:

I am obsessed with being disciplined. I enjoy pushing through temptation and distractions in lieu of remaining committed to my goals and visions. I love the feeling of satisfaction I get after achieving a goal that could have only materialized through laser focus and discipline. I know that discipline is a muscle that can only be strengthened with consistency and tenacity. I love that my disciplined personality allows me to live a life beyond mediocrity, complacency, and misery. I am strong, committed, resilient, and capable.

[haruharuz]

Advice no one wants to hear:

You HAVE to put in the work or it isn't going to happen.

This means, yes, you're going to need to actually work constantly for a solid year to reach your goals. Probably longer than that, honestly. You are going to be tired and it isn't as easy as anyone makes it out to be.

But if you don't get up and make the change in your life, no one is.

[fungusamongusblog2]

Keira Knightley

[jamiejhughes]

Yohji Yamamoto and his puppy Rin (1994)

[fungusamongusblog2]

[modedamour]

instagram @modedamour

[jamesusilljournal]

Jean Paul Gaultier Spring 2007

[rosequartzbambi-deactivated2025]

[emmaklee]

(via The Art and Science of Kashmir’s Pink Tea - Gastro Obscura)

[jinxproof]

Devon Aoki | ph. Hans Feuer

Numéro #91 (March 2008)

[ashstfu]

crazy how sometimes u dance alone to your favorite song in your bedroom and you are like oh yeah thats why im alive

[polishlolita]

[firstfullmoon]

“Now I’m going to tell you everything. I must get it off my chest. I’ve already told an angel in heaven, now I have to tell an angel on earth, too. You’re my angel on earth. You’ll listen to me, judge me, and forgive me … What I need is— for someone higher than myself to forgive me.”

— Fyodor Dostoevsky, from “The Brothers Karamazov” (via finita–la–commedia)