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And once the storm is over, you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about.

Haruki Murakami, Kafka on the Shore (via wordsnquotes)

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be so completely yourself that everyone else feels safe to be themselves too

Sometimes, years later, you'll again be sitting across from someone that at one point was really important to you, and they'll apologize profusely for ever letting things fall apart, for making them fall apart. And, thankfully, you won't be sharing in any of this regret that they're expressing, but you will be reminded that staying kind, honest, and real is worth it even when it hurts, even when it almost always ends with hurt. You'll sit there and promise yourself to keep living like this, and at that point in time, you'll feel really fucking confident that you can. And then, hopefully, you will.

#growing up #happy #college

You're fighting an uphill battle. You have more history than future.

Things you don't want to hear, but that end up reminding you why it's worth fighting for to begin with.

#friendship

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We spend more time gazing at luminous screens than into the eyes of our loved ones.

Charlie Brooker (via mysharona1987)

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All My Exes Live in Texts: Why the Social Media Generation Never Really Breaks Up

The Black Mirror Age Part One - The Algorithmic-Ex, from NY-Mag:

I have 700 friends on Facebook, 36 of whom I consider exes. Not all are ex-boyfriends—in the eleven years that “boyfriend” has been a name for men in my life, I have referred to nine as “boyfriends.” The rest are men I dated casually, guys I dated disastrously, make-out buddies, one-night stands, vacation flings, and a few boys I never touched but flirted with so heavily they can no longer be categorized as “just friends.” These people aren’t ex-boyfriends but they’re ex-something, weighted with enough personal history to make my stomach drop when they message me or pop up in social-media feeds. Which is pretty often.

There was a time, I am told, when exes lived in Texas and you could avoid them by moving to Tennessee. Cutting ties is no longer so easy—nor, I guess, do we really want it to be. We gorge ourselves on information about the lives of our exes. We can’t help ourselves. There’s the ex who “likes” everything you post. The ex who appears in automated birthday reminders. The ex who appears in your OkCupid matches. The ex whose musical taste you heed on Spotify. The ex whose new girlfriend sent a friend request. The ex you follow so you know how to win him back. The ex you follow so you know how to avoid her in person. The ex you watched deteriorate after the breakup. (Are you guilty or proud?) The ex who finally took your advice, after the breakup. (Are you frustrated or proud?) The ex whose new partner is exactly like you. (Are you flattered or creeped out?) The ex whose name appears as an autocorrection in your phone. (Are you sure you don’t talk about him incessantly? Word recognition suggests otherwise.) The ex whose new partner blogs about their sex life. The ex who still has your naked pictures. The ex who untagged every picture from your relationship. The ex you suspect is reading your e-mail. The ex you watch lead the life you’d dreamed of having together, but seeing it now, you’re so glad you didn’t.

My peers and I have all these exes, in part because we have more time to rack them up before later marriages, because we’re freer about sleeping around, because we’re more comfortable with cross-gender friendships and blurring sexual boundaries, because not committing means keeping more love interests around as possibilities, and because the digital age enables us to never truly break up. We don’t have to shut the door on anything. Which is good, because shutting the door on something is not something we ever want to do.

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Things that are overused (part two and three months later)

Reliance on your role in a friendship. Are you always the planner? The follower? The happy support? The stressed out grump? Take time to realize that everyone could take on any of these roles, and observe the ways in which you may be taking on one yourself so that you can interrupt those ways. If you're the planner, step back. If you're the follower, rally the troops. The happy support? Speak up when you don't want sushi for dinner. The role(s) you take on in your relationships should not be set in stone anymore than you're personality should never change. Alter your behavior and enjoy the awkward newness that it brings. <3

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#friendships #relationships #college

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“I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It’s not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel all alone.”

- Robin Williams (1951 - 2014)

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Life makes fools of all of us sooner or later. But keep your sense of humor and you’ll at least be able to take your humiliations with some measure of grace. In the end, you know, its our own expectations that crush us.

Paul Murray, Skippy Dies

'... to explain why we become attached to our birth places we pretend that we are trees and speak of roots. Look under your feet. You will not find gnarled growths sprouting through the soles. Roots, I sometimes think, are a conservative myth, designed to keep us in our places’.

Salman Rushdie, Shame 84

#trees #home #roots

Things that are overused (part one):

"Busy". Everyone is busy. You will always be busy. There will never be enough time for you to do everything in a day that you would like to, unless you starting finding the time to fit it in. If there is every a time in your life where you do not have enough to keep you busy, you will want nothing in the world but to be busy with something, anything, anyone. Appreciate the damn people, tasks, and places that fill your life and make it so beautiful. and busy.

#busy #positive #stopit #appreciate