[cohortcollective]

My hope is to start a meaningful hashtag #proficagenda and #nsfwproficagenda to see if we can just start circulating continuous support and visibility for artists! Feel free to contribute your art and help combat the social media environment ripping people apart.

Please be responsible, curate your own spaces, and see how much more we can make happen when communities can hardly even exist on the internet these days.

[amazynglyme]

Well if anyone wanted to try this you’d have an audience of me, i guess. I’m just trying to generate more supportive and safer little nooks on the internet that need to be more public and not walled off. Overtly, yeah… i wish people wanted to do these things.

[funkcore]

i dont understand how someone could be staunchly pro-kink but draw the line at fanfiction and drawings. for example someone who supports incest kink but not incest fanfiction, someone who supports ageplay kink but doesnt support lolisho art, etc. what is it about kink expressed through artwork/writing that makes it inherently dangerous compared to kink acted out in the bedroom?

[funkcore]

“I’m not proship or antiship I’m an adult with a job” ok so if you see someone shipping incest/agegap are you going to dox/suibait/harass them or not because I feel like that’s a pretty important thing to know

[anarcho-catboyism]

If you're hanging out with a community, and you start noticing the community pushing rhetoric about how "no one will accept us" "we only have each other, everyone outside of us is against us" etc. You need to Run. That's cult shit. That's abuser shit.

The purpose of trying to make you feel alone and like you only have the 1 community to turn to is meant specifically to isolate you and make you vulnerable. Any community, whether queer or political, should encourage you to seek other experiences and educate yourself outside of said community. Your community should empower you, not try to convince you that you're alone in this world.

[funkcore]

for all the proshippers out there who deal with ocd/delusions/magical thinking: i love you. it’s okay if you have a difficult time separating fiction from reality. you aren’t inherently going to fall for anti rhetoric because of it. anyone who says differently doesn’t know what they’re talking about, is spreading sanist rhetoric, doesn’t understand the reality of living with mental illnesses that cause these symptoms, and should really consider educating themselves.

[funkcore]

i don’t like the popular sentiment that proshippers are more likely to be friendly and accepting than anyone else. and i’m saying this as a proshipper. ive met a lot of judgemental, rude, insensitive people who’ve identified as proship. sure, they’re more likely to be accepting of your ships and kinks, but that doesn’t mean that they’re going to be inherently kind people.

[funkcore]

i love you people with fucked up sadistic fantasies i love you people who are guilty about having said fantasies i love you shy and awkward doms i love you short doms and disabled doms and people who are just learning about their dominant side and aren’t sure what to do next and anyone who doesn’t fit the average assumption of what a dom is supposed to be i love you doms with moral ocd i love you people who write dark fanfiction from the abusers pov i love you people who relate to and kin abusive characters i love you people who are afraid to express their desires because they don’t want to seem scary or predatory i love you

[funkcore]

considering that conflating fiction with reality is an ocd symptom i think we as proshippers should stop treating this type of thinking as a moral failing and more of a very real and distressing symptom of mental illness that doesn’t necessarily cause someone to be an anti (and yes this type of thinking exists outside of ocd but that isn’t what i want to discuss here specifically)

[funkcore]

it would be cool if there was a space to talk about how ocd has affected me as an ex-anti and now a proshipper. my ocd went from convincing me that my kinks and ships were evil, to going the entire opposite direction and convincing me that i’m evil for not being into even darker kinks/ships. it doesn’t make any logical sense, but i am constantly suffering because i think i have the wrong morals if i’m not into more extreme kinks, including ones that are triggering to me. (And if they trigger me, should i be using kink to heal from the pain? isn’t that what it’s for? i’m a puritan aren’t i hahahha) i haven’t heard anyone else talk about this in the context of suffering from ocd. and i don’t want people to think that i actually hold these beliefs, but it’s hard to explain when many people don’t even understand how ocd works.

[funkcore]

does anyone else have ocd and have an obsession over not feeling “proship” enough? or like you aren’t into dark enough content and are actually secretly a puritan who hates darker fiction and wants people to die if they’re into it, despite having messed up fantasies yourself? i now have a compulsion to engage with content that triggers my dysphoria to ‘prove’ that im actually a puritan

my age factors into it as well. im an adult but posts that talk about how younger people skew more conservative in their ideas about sexuality really gets to me, plus ive been targeted online for it before due to accidentally wording a post wrong and seeming like a puritan (and this also ties into my real event ocd, i think about this constantly)

i feel like my ocd has taken over my thoughts about this type of thing and i just wanna see if there’s anyone else out there who feels the same way. it freaks me out a lot and i feel like i spend a lot of time in my head berating myself for being a puritan despite obvious evidence to the contrary and generally just trying my best to be kind

[anjebell]

I feel like this is a result of the misuse of proship by antis. Proship doesn't mean you're necessarily into dark or "problematic" content, it just means you don't harass people over their taste in fiction. You can be into the most vanilla, coffee shop au, friends to lovers stuff and be proship. Your own tastes are valid and you don't need to "prove" anything by showing interest in things you don't actually like.

The things that matter are: When you see something that makes you uncomfortable, how do you react? Do you harass the person? Do you think they must be a predator irl? Do you advocate for the censorship or banning of fictional content that disgusts you? That's anti behavior.

Or, do you use the block and mute functions and curate your own space? Do you realize that some things aren't for you, and that's okay, and those people can go have fun in their own space? Do you mind your own business and keep your focus on what you DO like?

Because *that's* proship. That's all it means. It means anti-censorship, anti-harassment, ship and let ship.

Even the word used here, puritan, has very specific connotations. A puritan is not someone who simply enjoys pure or "wholesome" things. A puritan is someone who believes that indulgence in "immoral" actions is something that defines one's character, one's very soul. They not only control their own personal intake, but proselytize to others to follow their own strict moral code, and if you don't, you are a sinner who is going to hell. They loudly and aggressively pursue their beliefs to the point of attacking and dehumanizing others. Much like antis, hm?

So, TLDR, if you're worried you're too "vanilla" to be proship, that's nonsense. Whatever your taste in fiction, from the most wholesome to the most depraved, all of it is valid. Don't force yourself to look at something you don't like. Just be respectful and stay in your lane, find like-minded people and enjoy your fandom experience. That's proship.

[funkcore]

i understand what you're saying. i understand the connotations of the words etc. the issue here is that i have severe moral ocd that clings on to any topic that matters to me, and i was looking for, in this post, other people who have ocd who are also proshippers because i'm curious to see if it affects them similarly.

[funkcore]

does anyone else have ocd and have an obsession over not feeling “proship” enough? or like you aren’t into dark enough content and are actually secretly a puritan who hates darker fiction and wants people to die if they’re into it, despite having messed up fantasies yourself? i now have a compulsion to engage with content that triggers my dysphoria to ‘prove’ that im actually a puritan

my age factors into it as well. im an adult but posts that talk about how younger people skew more conservative in their ideas about sexuality really gets to me, plus ive been targeted online for it before due to accidentally wording a post wrong and seeming like a puritan (and this also ties into my real event ocd, i think about this constantly)

i feel like my ocd has taken over my thoughts about this type of thing and i just wanna see if there’s anyone else out there who feels the same way. it freaks me out a lot and i feel like i spend a lot of time in my head berating myself for being a puritan despite obvious evidence to the contrary and generally just trying my best to be kind

[funkcore]

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