aiden jamie

25 | he/him | ger/eng | ftm trans masc | AuDHD artist | writer | recovery and therapy

[expressions-of-nature]

by Justinas Kondrotas

[eggsdoodz]

i love love <333

[autistic-af]

Dear Non-autistics:

If someone you know or love is having a meltdown, please do NOT

Tell us to "stop it"

Touch us without permission

Yell at us or talk over us

Ask for complicated tasks or answers

Leave us alone if it's obvious we're a danger to ourselves or others

Use restraints, either with your own body or with physical restraints

Panic

Shake us or manhandle us. We can hear you, we just can't respond well

Remember, we are not being a problem; we're having a problem!

So, things to do!

Do:

Make sure we're safe

Remove all stimuli including turning off lights if possible, giving stim toys, noise cancelling headphones etc

Remove us from the situation if possible

Talk softly and offer alternative forms of communication if possible

Sit with us if safe to do so

Offer a stuffed animal or comfort item

Set up a meltdown guide with us so everyone is on the same page

Understand we will be unable to do much post-meltdown. Water, snacks and quiet is required.

Reassurance helps. Guilt often sets in post-meltdown.

A period of inactivity (known as a shutdown) often occurs right after a meltdown. We won't respond or look at you, but we can hear you. Please let this happen naturally

Autistics please add on. What does and doesn't help you?

[thetypewriterdaily]

instagram

[happilyy]

that image that goes i want to do this. do it. but im scared. do it scared. changed my life

[happilyy]

[bluebeetletedkord]

“Stay afraid, but do it anyway. What’s important is the action. You don’t have to wait to be confident. Just do it and eventually the confidence will follow.” -- Carrie Fisher

[neep-neep-neep]

you are good even when you are unemployed.

you are good even when you need to rely on others’ help.

you are good even when you are depressed.

you are good even when you are hurt.

you are good even when you are scared.

you are good even when you are overwhelmed.

you are good even when you are not tidy.

you are good even when you are confused.

you are good even when you have difficulty performing tasks.

you are good even when you feel like you’ll never measure up to being an adult.

symptoms are not morality.

[freakydude120]

can’t drown my demons they have pool noodle thingies

[lousydrawingsforgoodpeople]

[violentviolette]

genuine protip for free therapy that works, start following "gentle parenting" accounts that discuss the ways they are raising their children and the healthy coping mechanisms and communication they're teaching and then use those techniques on urself. passively consume that content at random moments all throughout ur day. genuinely surround urself with it so that ur encountering it daily, multiple times a day, till those thought processes become second nature think of urself as both the parent and the child. use ur rational adult mindset to learn and internalize these new mindsets and teachings when ur not in distress, and then in moments when u are upset or distressed, parent urself through them. mimic and emulate these parents and speak to urself with the same compassion, patience, and understanding that they speak to their children with

for people with cluster b disorders, we did not have healthy childhoods. we did not grow up learning these messages and being treated with kindness and respect and compassion. we were not given the tools we needed to emotionally navigate the world in a healthy way. but that doesnt mean we cant learn it now. be the parent that u did not have. take care of urself and ur emotions the way they should have been handled

i promise it will make a huge world of difference. it might seem silly at first, or might make u angry and upset seeing people being treated in ways u wish u were, or it even might seem stupid and like it will never work. those are all valid things to feel during the process, but try and stick with it and keep consuming that content and eventually those messages will really sink in and start making a difference

[sidelyamievi]

This is incredibly beautiful.

cr: NattoTwister - Carol Oliveira on Twitter.

[shootcharlieshoot]

[positivelyqueer]

There’s power in telling yourself ”no we don’t do that anymore” in response to self destructive urges.

[chenichin]

A last embrace

(and my last eremin fanart jsksjfjd from a year ago holy)

Snk last chapter was um... not what i expected haha but glad it finished :^) eremin you will always be in my heart 💖

[naamahdarling]

Brb replacing "I should" with "I have the option/opportunity to" in my internal monologue re: beating myself up over shit that needs doing. Let's see if that works.

[naamahdarling]

It actually really did help and I did the laundry and cat boxes. Guess I'll keep trying that one.

[paleograffiti]

My psychiatrist told me this early on working with him. Every time I said "I should" he would be horrified and urge me to replace it with "I could." It took a lot of practice but my life is so much better for it because it replaces the pressure of external obligations with my own agency.

[aphony-cree]

Sometimes it helps to replace “I have to” with “I get to”

Thinking “I have to water my houseplants” makes it a chore. But thinking “I get water my houseplants” reminds you that you keep houseplants for a reason and you can enjoy the time you spend with them

[thesixthstar]

every time i'm caught on a "should" i try to reframe it as "if I want [a certain result], then doing [thing] can help me get there". It does double duty of taking the guilt out of the "should" while still reinforcing the motivation of WHY my brain pinged "should" in the first place. Or it even works to make me realize that i care less about the result than i think i'm """meant""" to and I can safely de-prioritize it

[teacrush]

me @ the moon: hello my love you look gorgeous tonight

[soulubles]

Photographer Koharu my beloved 💖

+ some sketches I barely salvaged 🫶💕

[soulubles]

For the last day of Gou week(5/5) I drew their fateful encounter 🥹 a fitting end…

I hope they meet again