Gay Trans Guys

Hi - I knew I was gay before I even realized that meant I was trans, too. This is a blog for content related to trans guys who self-identify primarily as gay. Feel free to submit pictures, articles, product reviews, and perspectives. NSFW

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Just a gay transmale living in this world . ! :) very gay !

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7 year itch

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An article written by a cis gay guy who now prefers dating trans guys, on a website primarily managed/written by Black gay men.

Thanks Shane Ell who posted this on Facebook.

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Paternity Leave - Directed by Matt Riddlehoover

The official website of Paternity Leave, directed by Matt Riddlehoover, starring Charlie David, Chris Salvatore, and Jacob York.

Oh! A gay guy being pregnant! What a hilarious premise for a film! Not something that ever happens in real life! Because what’s a gay trans guy! Huh?

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to the annon who asked about coming out to a sunni muslim family, thats my problem too actually (trans,gay and muslim, and im not out yet). no advice, i mostly just panic when i think about it, but if they need anyone to talk to that can relate?

Thank you so much for getting in touch!

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lilbearlove.tumblr.com

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This is a bit problematic because of the comment section that was trolled by what seems only one or two guys because of the style of writing.

While there are guys who think like that, mostly older guys, this is not the general attitude of most cis gay men. The commenter sounds older from what he says, the generation that associates being trans with being homophobic, during the 1970s and early 80s.

If you are easily disheartened, don’t read the comments. They were not all negative. here’s a good one though: ““Wow, KRS must be a bottom, if all he cares about is the D(ick). I know several Trans-men that look more male than most men out there. Hell, until one of them told me last weekend, I had no idea. I am a gay male, I came out as one when I was 15 years old. I am now 40 years old, and still identify as a gay male. Yet, I would probably date the trans-man I met this last weekend, given the chance. And yes, that still makes me gay.”

Thank you Anon23! I hope you’re still around

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Making this just as a random thought/post. Living the life as a gay trans man sucks so much dick. And I'm so jealous because my life sucks more dick than I do.

This got submitted a while ago so I hope you don’t still feel this way! Normally these kinds of feelings come and go. I hope you’re feeling better. I totally understand though.

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Just wanted to make sure the guy who runs this tumblr is okay, and tell him how important gtg is for me. I live in a town where "gay" and "trans guy" are mutually exclusive, where gay cis men think that afab=disgusting and the 3 trans men say I can't really be a trans man because I never identified as a butch dyke prior to transition and I've only ever found queer men attractive. Even on the internet, there's practically nowhere for us "friends of Lou Sullivan" to go.

Yes, I am okay. I just needed a Tumblr break. I also took a Facebook break. Not at exactly the same time. But I’m back now and happy to start responding to submissions again.

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Long shot, but do any followers have tips/experience on coming out to a Sunni Muslim family? I'm asking here because the fact that I'm trans AND gay makes it so complicated. Honestly, I'm not expecting responses, but what the hell. Thanks in advance!

I don’t personally, do any of our followers have any advice?

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SPOILERS!!!!!

It seems like Coach Beiste is transitioning?? That would be the second time Ryan Murphy used the actress as a trans male character. The first time was in his first episode of the (actually quite entertaining) series Pretty Handsome that was was never picked up by the network, probably because the central theme of the show was transsexuality, in 2008. Just a bit too ahead of its time.

Also, Beiste is into men, which would turn him into one of the very few gay trans men in the media.

Blog admin: Ha ha not really a spoiler now! And yes, it was awesome to see a representation of a gay trans man in such a popular show. I don’t personally follow Glee but I did watch a few of those episodes.

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Thomas Dolby was a huge visual idol way back. Awesome that he has a gay trans son! There is a scene in his hit video She Blinded me with Science where he tries to push a square peg into a round hole, and the video vibed queer in the 80s even though he was straight. The video is on youtube.

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"these listings have lesbian in the name, suggesting that chest binders are for girls, not men or nonbinary. This.. should be a warning sign of a company that doesn’t know what they are doing." This is problematic because it assumes that "lesbian" means the same internationally as it means in the US. In the East Asian countries I had contact with, lesbian/tom/butch/trans were seen as a continuum. The separation of gay/lesbian - trans is recent, purely western phenomenon. So stop the bashing! 23

Thanks, Anon23. I’m sure they weren’t really aware of that.

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He starts talking about his problems with drag queens and effeminate men, but then about trans men. While his opinions are a bit weird (he’s obsessed with a “masculinity scale” or something), in all his confusion, he figures out that he is attracted to trans men just as much as to cis men; while not being attracted to strongly feminine presenting men or trans women - which is all fine because he’s gay: “watching an episode of Trisha that featured four transgender men. Watching the episode got me to see gender in a completely different light. Had I met three of those four guys on the street, it wouldn’t have crossed my mind that they might have been born female. I probably would have dated one of them – even after finding out about his birth gender! Hearing their stories helped me to better understand my own reaction to masculinity and femininity and bring me closer to being able to face those questions that I’d been pushing to the backburner for months… As far as transgender women, it’s not the "transgender” to which I’m not attracted. It’s the “women.” I regard them pretty much the way I regard non-trans women. I’m generally not physically attracted to the female gender"

Thanks, Anon23! I hope you’re still around.

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I hope you are doing okay. I miss this blog. There really isn't any space for gay trans guys in rl who transitioned in a small town as I did. At the gay bar, the staff still misgenders me despite my beard. Cue femme lesbians hitting on me, butch dykes challenging me to billiards and the pretty gay boy I was eyeing turning away in confusion. I go to a meeting for trans guys in the nearest city and tune out after the constant discussions of girlfriends and how t makes them want "tits and ass" more

I was doing fine, but Tumblr and Facebook both started to feel like a job I wasn’t being paid for, and I needed time to decompress and focus on work - both the kind that’s paid and the kind you do on yourself.

I’m sorry about feeling like the odd one out. I’ve felt like that forever. Even though half of the trans guys I know in Richmond are into dudes at least half of the time, I just don’t feel like I have a lot in common with them. But I’ve accepted that it’s just because I’m a born weirdo regardless of my gender identity. I’ve embraced my identity as a weirdo and doubled down on a lot of the things that make me weird instead of trying to obfuscate those details. I’m also identifying as a weirdosexual since I only seem to be extremely attracted to people who are super weird.

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Hey guys, Cal here. Super trans, super gay ;)

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I’m back.

I needed to take a break. I had a lot of things happen.

I have such a big pile of submissions to get to. I apologize for not being around to answer them.

I have plenty of new things to write about. Mostly about interactions with other trans guys, and labels I identify with.

Mainly, I’m identifying more as queer now and less as strictly gay, which was causing me to feel a bit disingenuous about this blog.

I also think I might actually post a picture of myself.