Unrepentant Bastard @gendercool-alex - Tumblr Blog

#my wife is on the SOR for being gay #no joke #she hit on a girl in a straight bar once #in 1997 #and while the girl was into it #the off duty cop sitting nearby was not #and so he arrested her for ‘soliciting homosexual activity’ #which in our state was still a felony #in 1997 (and would remain so until Lawrence v Texas in 2003) #and since ‘soliciting homosexual activity’ was a felony and a sex crime #she got put on The List #she is still on there to this day #because it costs MONEY to ask a judge to take you off #and she has tried four times#since 2003 #to get taken off the SOR #but every time the judge has said something like ‘no you pled guilty to the crime i can’t possibly take you off the sex offender registry’ #with no acknowledgement of what the actual crime was #(the crime of being a butch lesbian hitting on a cute girl who was into it) #(in 1997)

Reposting these tags with consent from the person that wrote them. The post about the Sex Offenders Registry is locked, but these tags are too important to go unnoticed.

Younger queer people need to realize that the SOR being used against queer people simply for being queer isn’t some ancient history thing. It still impacts queer people today. And it can quite easily be used that way again.

skepticalfrog

so violent that actors have to get buff for marvel films. So fucked up that women have always had to be the smallest they can be to get work as actors. Changing your body for cinema should be illegal actually

killed-by-rocknroll-deactivated

As put by @/mappho in their tags:

We’re not seeing real human bodies on the screen because Hollywood has professionalised the body. The professionalised body is not human, it’s a tool used in a world of false aesthetics. It’s ironic to me in that art and story telling is the most human thing there is and yet humanity is sacrificed under the pretense of arts. I'm probably not making sense at all. It's late lol.

It makes perfect sense, thank you.

ex0skeletal-undead

When you boil a funny bone it becomes a laughingstock.

Hate this, thank you

primordial-fungus-monolith

Gay women are allowed to do whatever

primordial-fungus-monolith

“she blew up a planet” okay and? your homophobia is showing

smindersonfan

Lesbians can’t blow up the planet, that’s evil. No MATTER their sexual orientation.

primordial-fungus-monolith

No it’s fine

mtndewpitchblack

another great post sent directly from god

catzpah-deactivated20240520

i literally cannot get over dana terrace watching owl house illegally. they couldn’t have given her a zip drive of episodes? a courtsey disney+ subscription? i can’t imagine being paywalled out of your own work.

bludragongal

When I worked on Teen Titans Go! VS Teen Titans the most reliable resource the entire crew used for references was the Teen Titans fan wiki. I also had to buy my own DVD at a Target when it was released. WB didn’t really provide us with anything other than what the crew produced themselves (character designs, turnarounds, etc). I had a Hulu subscription (that I personally paid for) which I used to pull up specific episodes for specific reference if the wiki-page about it wasn’t clear enough for what I needed.

I worked on season 1 of Big Nate, and while Nick was extremely generous and gifted us 1-month of Paramount Plus (very unusual for a studio to do and I am grateful for that), I haven’t seen any of the episodes I worked on because I genuinely didn’t feel like signing up/giving my credit card info to a streaming service. I will have to buy my own DVDs when they are available.

When you work for Disney, you get the choice of free access to the parks, or free access to Disney Plus, but not both.

Of course you’re paywalled out of your own work; providing employees (that probably don’t even work for the studio any more at the time of the title’s release) with a physical or digital copy of the completed work is an additional cost that the studio would have to pay for. The most you are given as a crewmember is MAYBE a crew gift, if the budget allows for it.

Luckily, everything we DO spend on these things (DVDs, streaming subscriptions, etc) are tax deductible, so we just report everything at the end of the year for a write off.

It’s just part of how things work.

idk-my-aesthetic

OK BUT THATS A PROBLEM. YOU UNDERSTAND HOW THATS A PROBLEM WITH CAPITALISM AND COPYRIGHT LAW THAT NEEDS TO BE FIXED

bludragongal

please show me where i said i liked and agreed with this system

Also this kind of emotional response is exactly why Animation Professionals do not speak to these things publicly; you are holding me responsible for a system I am forced to survive in.

prokopetz

Okay, I promised myself I wouldn’t post another tabletop RPG draft until after I’ve gotten a proper playtest PDF for Three Raccoons in a Trenchcoat put together, so this is just a teensy little teaser –

So Your Mom is a War Criminal

A game of fairy tale whimsy and Byronic angst

Character Creation

Defining your character begins with telling us about your mother. Pick two of the following twelve backgrounds [note: only six are included in this teaser] and answer the four questions they furnish.

Beast-Born

Your mom wasn’t a queen so much as an incomprehensible all devouring god-beast. She wasn’t very good at giving hugs.

What about you is weirdly normal, all things considered?

How are you secretly even more terrifying than ever she was?

Legacy

As far as most people know, your mom was a great hero. You’re burdened with her terrible secret.

What great deeds is your lineage credited with?

What reminder of that secret can’t you escape?

Mourner

Your mom’s kingdom was annihiliated in a catacylstmic war, and now you rule over the ashes. You’re pretty broken up about it.

Did you oppose your mom’s tyranny, or were you complicit in it?

How was your kingdom’s apocalyptic destruction sort of your fault?

Revenant

Technically you are your mom. It’s complicated.

What about you makes people forget that you’re your own person?

How do you remind them?

Transgression

Your mom created you in a lab or magic ritual. Your existence is slightly a crime against the natural order.

What alleged natural law do you break just by existing?

Why does that make you the only thing that can save us?

Weapon

Your mom raised you to be a living weapon in her hands. Using child soldiers is bad, okay?

How has your training made you more than human?

How has it made you less?

(No points for guessing which particular pieces of media this is referencing; it ain’t subtle!)

biandlesbianliterature

Here are all some stats and highlights from the list of 850 books Matt Krause wants removed from school libraries, including most ironic pic

This is supposed to prevent “discomfort,” but what about the discomfort of kids who experience racism, or who never see themselves represented in the curriculum or the books on the shelves? What about the discomfort of queer kids who see that even mentioning people like them is categorized as inappropriate or obscene or even “pornography”?

[image description: A pie chart labelled “Presumed Reason for Book Challenge.” 62.4% is LGBTQ, 15.2% is Misc, 14.1% is Sex Education, and 8.3% is Race and Racism.]

tonysopranobignaturals-deactiva

I was wondering what “misc” includes, and apparently they don’t want people (especially young people) to know their legal rights…

>These are titles like The Legal Atlas of the United States, Teen Legal Rights, Gender Equality and Identity Rights (Foundations of Democracy), Equal Rights, We the Students: Supreme Court Sases for and About Students, and Peaceful Rights for Equal Rights.

jaubaius

A school of stingrays riding a wave

deactivated-blog

The therapist behind @therapyden posted a viral TikTok listing the reasons why BetterHelp shortchanges professional therapists and clients

I’m loathe to link to the Daily Dot, but this article (and the TikTok content) gives a good overview of why BetterHelp is a hot mess in so many ways.

I used the service for a while myself, and during that, saw three different “therapists.” The first therapist seemed to think that therapy meant just having a chat an allowing me to vent, which was largely unhelpful.

She was a Christian, but kept bringing that up, which also irked me because I’d rather not have religion part of my therapy goals. She wasn’t overly pushy, but it did bother me when she said, “As a therapist I have to say that this witchcraft stuff is your choice, but as a Christian I don’t approve.”

I cancelled and requested a new person after that.The second therapist seemed alright at first, but would regularly go on tangents about politics and her own life. I cancelled and requested a new therapist after a disturbing incident where she did the entire session (on cam, as usual) while loudly and angrily doing dishes in her kitchen.

In both of those cases, it felt like these people thought “therapist” means “online friend” or something, and never seemed to have real treatment plans or much to offer.

The third therapist I saw via BetterHelp was just for a single session. Despite consistently telling them, “I would prefer a non-religious therapist,” I was matched with someone who incessantly quoted the Bible. She kept repeatedly asking me if I was a “Bible believer” or had “accepted Jesus.” She also praised me to not standing up for myself, weirdly. She said it was best to let my husband take the lead because submission is a good quality or something like that.

It was ridiculous, and at that point I requested a full refund for that month. Around that time, I learned that BetterHelp doesn’t actually vet their “therapists.” In fact, scrolling their list of offerings, I came across “therapists” with such dubious credentials as graduating from Liberty University with a degree in “marriage” and specializing in “maladaptive sexual behaviors.”

I had to call their offices to get the refund. I’ll be honest; I wasn’t exactly polite during that call, and essentially said, “What you are doing is sick - some people do actually need help, y’know. You’ve wasted my time and money.”

If you want online therapy, I recommend looking for therapists who are semi-local and offer online sessions. Many do these days, and it’s much better than rolling the dice with BetterHelp. That and, y’know, they won’t sell your data.

batmanisagatewaydrug

#24/7 therapists does feel a bit like its defeating the purpose?#because therapists are tool to help you manage and function and get through stuff#theyre tools to be used but not depended on#24/7 therapy does worry me because it feels like you could easily become dependent on your therapist#and not be able to function without them#which is certainly something that people in typical therapy experience#but youre meant to move past that and get to a point where you can use the tools youve learned in therapy#and not fully depend on your therapist#because at that point therapt is actively harming you#and that also does not sound at all healthy for the therapist#like they should not be fully responsible for you#putting that stress on them does not sound ethical#it sounds like a very unethical unhealthy relationship on both sides - @listen-to-the-inner-walrus

big YUP to all of that!! and as long as I'm reblogging this post anyway, for any podcast people pls check out this episode of There Are No Girls On the Internet where Jeff Guenther, the TikTok'ing therapist featured in this article, talks much more in depth about the tremendous ethical concerns for both the underpaid and overworked therapists at BetterHelp and their exploited patients: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4OtBvR6vyv8Fm0hUoF0fJC?si=26e6522aaa4b44c4

bigrabbitsstuff

🦈

batmanisagatewaydrug

makenzie!! after like 3 years i got the go ahead from my insurance for ye ole boob-be-gone and because of an unrelated cancellation it’s happening in TWO WEEKS!! do you or your followers have any resources at all for top surgery, either advice or recovery tips!!!!!

oh shit congrats !!

I don't have any firsthand experience with the ol' boob-be-gone, but the main thing I learned when my buddy Nathan got the big chop was that he wasn't allowed to drive for quite a while and I had to do quite a bit of driving for him, so if you're in the habit of driving I hope you've got someone to cover that for you!! he also couldn't pick up anything heavier than, like, a gallon of milk, so congrats on your cool new excuse for not picking up heavy things anymore.

this is a basic explanation of what to expect on the medical side of things, and this is a helpful list of things to stock up on pre-surgery, but if anyone here has experience with getting top surgery or supporting people after top surgery, please drop your good good tips or resources in a relog or reply!

also hey, congrats again :)

batmanisagatewaydrug

being aromantic means having access to the relationship equivalent of shrimp colors

malcolmcooks

god I fucking wish its being colourblind

batmanisagatewaydrug

bummer! can't relate tho, like I said I got them shrimp colors

somecutething

This rat very happily carrying something!

(via Petzandrats)

the-descolada

It’s very complicated to talk about trans, esp transfem, voice bc like. some people are going to want to do voice training and some people (like me) will probably not, and you need to acknowledge both of those groups while also acknowledging that no trans person should be expected to or have to for their own safety. It’s a very is/ought thing and ultimately it is up to cis people to, not just for the trans people in your lives but frankly for many of the cis people as well, put in the work to decouple voice from gender.

I’ve been in a friend group with many trans women who have not done or or do not wish to pursue vocal training for nearly half a decade now, and it’s heavily rewired my brain and made it much closer to second nature for me to not misgender strangers, and so on. But it really is cis people who need to put in the work.

There is simply no such thing as a “male” or “female” voice. It doesn’t exist, and by using these terms both out loud and in your brain you will end up misgendering people and making trans people around you uncomfortable. Not to mention, if in your mind you still are making these assumptions about voice, it will affect your perception of trans people. Hard pill to swallow, but yeah.

I’m not saying this is at all easy, but it’s incredibly important and changing your spoken language and correcting your own thoughts when you know you’ve slipped up is a start to fully decoupling ingrained gender essentialism.