gendercriticalgal

21F, gender critical (not conservative)

[parisrainynight]

btw, I'm fully on board with ending violence against trans-identified- people and properly addressing the perpetrators, with hate crime status if relevant. also, fully on board with the idea that trans-identified-people should not be discriminated against for things like employment or housing. I don't think trans-identified-people should be harassed or bullied in public when they are just trying to go about their day. it's some of the other ideology that I have criticisms of, not this stuff.

[labryslesbian]

y’all are better than me, i’ve seen too many threats and too much violence from them to even begin to care about what happens to them

[lambdoctrines]

It's definitely difficult to have sympathy for them when u see the kinds of vile shit that they post on the internet, but I know plenty of them irl who are mostly chill (although those are probably the same ones who go on the internet to rant about killing 'terfs')

If it helps you can think about them as extremely Christian/religious people. Like yeah they're a bit nutty but they're still people who deserve basic rights, just don't let their ideology start affecting the rights of other people

[pchfuzz]

“the pain gap” - on dating, maturity, and the benign psychohorror of womanhood / rayne

[gendercriticalgal]

he said it's a "joke" but it's really tone deaf and not funny

[cassandwrath]

i read that autistic people are more likely to identify as trans, and they say it's because we are more likely to question and defy social constructs, but gender IS a social construct and trans people are not "defying" it. the real reason we are more likely to identify as trans is because we find it harder to relate to peers and feel discomfort in our bodies when exposed to uncomfortable stimuli, and frankly yea we are more likely to bend gender rules because we are more likely not to care, but in our society this is punished and we're left wondering what was so wrong, never getting a real answer. especially for girls who are more likely to not get diagnoses fast, it feels tough to not know what's "wrong" with us. being trans feels like it encompasses all our problems. at least, that's what i've observed/experienced.

[gendercriticalgal]

I never thought of it that way! Thank you for this explanation :)

[gendercriticalgal]

About that asexual damage post (i hope you know wich i mean and i don't sound silly) i related so much, something similar happened to me, i was also indoctrinated to believe i was nonbinary for years.

Turns out i am just a tomboyish lesbian with body image issues lmao

And yes i was shunned, abused and even had a smear campaign started against me that forced me to leave two hobby spaces i loved because of this realization

Wishing you love and healing, anon ❤️‍🩹

[gendercriticalgal]

totally not a cult

[gendercriticalgal]

Ok, so we got a horrible take that calling a group of women "guys" is comparable to racial slurs and segregation. Who would write this?

Oh wow, it's a white man invading a bunch of lesbian subreddits! What a surprise!!

[gendercriticalgal]

actually kurt cobain wore dresses and therefore a trans woman!!!

This level of brainrot is unbelievable. Brought to you by the man who harassed a bunch of servers at restaurants when they didn't use "she/her" for him.

[caintooth]

Please don’t get a mastectomy. You are clearly not making a sound mental decision. Genuinely do not have an elective amputation that is entirely unnecessary. Do not permanently remove a functioning healthy body part because you hate your body. Your feelings may change one day but you can never have your body parts back again

not only am i going to get my tits cut off, i’m going to enjoy it the entire time. i’m going to get off on it. and after i’ve enjoyed the intentional, erotic dissection of my flesh, i’m gonna go to the beach. and i’m gonna take my shirt off to show off the scars where they cut into me, and i’ll laugh so fucking hard. and when i laugh, stranger, it’s gonna be at you.

[caintooth]

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[cazality-deactivated20241107]

Rant Incoming

Transphobes don't know BULLSHIT about surgical science and will throw around medical buzzwords because they think playing doctor will give them some kind of authority.

Let me explain.

Notice how they are using the term "mastectomy" to describe top surgery. And yeah, sure. Top surgery aims to remove breast tissue, but it's different than a mastectomy used to treat cancer. When someone has breast cancer it is the surgeon's goal to remove as much breast tissue as possible, while a plastic surgeon performing top surgery keeps a good amount of tissue to make their patient's chest look natural AND preserves their nipples. OP here is obviously using terms like "mastectomy" or "amputation" to equate top surgery with highly invasive and **traumatic** procedures in order to illicit an emotional response.

Another point. Top surgery IS conceivably reversible, depending on scarring and changes to anatomy you could just slide in some implants! The reason why I say conceivably is because there is no one getting their top surgery reversed. I wonder why! It's almost as if gender affirming surgery has one of the highest satisfaction rates in all of medicine ( >99%). Also, Reconstructive procedures for mastectomies are commonly undergone by cancer survivors and are getting more advanced as I write this post.

To summarize, modern medicine is fucking rad. Anti-trans hate isn't. Conservatives once again have to rely on emotional manipulation and pseudoscience because they don't have actual arguments.

[lookupmedicalmisogyny]

Did this idiot really just say “top surgery” is reversible?? Please stop saying things on the internet

[gendercriticalgal]

"Top surgery IS conceivably reversible, depending on scarring and changes to anatomy you could just slide in some implants!"

If you regret it just get more plastic surgery because implants are just like actual breasts!

[sapphsorrows]

sometimes i think leftist youtubers have worms for brains.

so let me get this straight... the detransitioner who has nothing to gain and everything to lose comes out and talks about how transition ruined her life. she's lost friends. she's being ridiculed by the entire internet. but SHE'S the grifter?

and not dylan mulvaney? who was a fucking nobody until like a year ago? who has made absolute bank off his trans identity? who met the fucking PRESIDENT? who has 10 million followers on tiktok? who is getting a million sponsors solely because of his trans identity? he's somehow not the grifter? please explain i am confusion.

[gendercriticalgal]

These comments were on a TikTok stitch of a man explaining how "not all men" because a woman made a video about SA statistics.

How do people even become like this? The misogyny is disgusting.

[gendercriticalgal]

The audio used on this tiktok says "You know what I think, I think you're a fucking f****t just like your daddy"

Like is it supposed to be funny 😭😭 why would you use a gay slur for a straight male????

[stillarandom-radfem]

I feel like the whole "don't be mean/don't be selfish" mantras of female socialization are drilled into us from an early age not to ensure that we become decent adults or whatever, but just so that we will become afraid to speak up in abusive situations or when we get our basic human rights taken away, and no I will not explain.

[gendercriticalgal]

AND IT'S SO HARD TO UNLEARN!!

[gendercriticalgal]

A woman makes a post about disordered eating being forced onto girls as kids:

Men in the comments:

Everyone wants to blame everyone but themselves for having that [an eating disorder]

Men have trouble losing weight too

Stop trying to be a victim

Men have body image issues

Stop blaming others and be responsible of your health

When I see comments like this, it brings me back to when I was 7 or 8 and started having my first body image issues. I thought of myself as a fat kid for most of my childhood, despite never being overweight.

I remember wanting to lose weight so I could be confident enough to wear a bikini when I was 8 years old.

I remember when I was 12 years old in middle school and started really restricting calories, after previous failed attempts at dieting. I lost around 25 lbs (11.3 kg) after a few months of eating 1,000 kcal a day. I wasn't overweight before this, but I was classified as underweight afterwards. This is also when my suicidal ideation became more prevalent.

I remember knowing that if I didn't stop this behavior I would die and I was just fine with that. I just didn't want to die "fat".

I went through eating disorder treatment after my parents figured out what I was really doing and how unhealthy it was. I remember telling my doctor that my legs felt like noodles, as in they were weak and could no longer support me.

I remember when I was with my awful ex-boyfriend (age 14) he would call me fat while I was back to a healthy weight. He was well aware of my disordered eating and his comments continued even after explaining how hurtful they were.

I am 19 now and as of last year I have been actually overweight for the first time in my life. I want to be healthy. I wish it was easy to practice intuitive eating and listen to my body. I have failed to lose the weight time and time again. I keep trying.

Seeing such disgusting behavior reminds me that the way my childhood influenced my eating habits was not unique to me, nor my generation. And it's getting worse. I worry for the next generation of girls.

[gendercriticalgal]

I'm ✨genderfluid✨ because I like to change my hair (this is my entire personality)

[gendercriticalgal]

POV: You have no idea what a "TERF" is nor what they believe

[marxism-himboism-deactivated202]

Nobody in the fucking LGB community was even hostile towards trans or ace people—most of us were supportive and understanding of them and their issues, if we didn’t identify with those issues on a personal level ourselves—until they decided that co-opting our movement, rewriting our history, appropriating our figureheads, restructuring our language, denying the biological-material conditions of our sexualities, harassing G/L people and women, and barring us from our own spaces while opening them up to heterosexuals was better than inter-class solidarity against heteronormativity and patriarchy.

[she-is-ovarit]

It is even more than this.

I typed “no sexual attraction” into Google at age 15 when I started dating a boy. The first result that popped up was AVEN. For 6 years of my life I “identified as” asexual and internalized the message “Asexuals can and do have sex they don’t get pleasure from! They do it because it’s something nice to do for your partner, like giving a backrub!”. I agreed to have sex I did not want to have for years because I didn’t know that being homosexual could even apply to me. I came from a rural town and a religious family. The only time I even heard the word “lesbian” was when ~50 year old men would be delivering a half sexually-charged inappropriate joke or describe with vitriol how incompetent and unattractive they found butch women. The image of lesbians in my mind were ugly, stupid, predatory women that men still wanted to fuck.

In large part because of AVEN and asexual culture in the early 2000s (which in my opinion has only gotten worse now) I was in what I can only describe as an unwanted relationship for ten years with a highly unstable man 7 years older than me. Certain advances by him started when I was 16. Nearly my entire twenties was spent with him. At age 22 or so, when I came to understand I was sexually attracted to women, I still considered myself bisexual under the reasoning that I was sexually attracted to women and was asexual towards men. This freaked him out, if I made any friends male or female and especially any female friends who were bisexual or lesbian he would double down on pressuring me for sex. I would put it off for as long as I could and when I could sense the signs of a building of contempt and rage I would initiate things and try to get it over with as fast as possible.

Gender ideology effected me deeply in other ways too, but I don’t think the harm that AVEN and asexual culture has done to same-sex attracted people is discussed enough. AVEN and asexual Tumblr was a major influence in me becoming groomed and trapped in a violent, heterosexual arrangement of sexual and emotional servitude for ten years. Thanks to the split-attraction model asexual people push (that sexual attraction and romantic attraction are separate as opposed to just being one complex spectrum of behaviors, feelings, and interactions), more people are perceiving homosexuality as sexual deviance. There is more pressure placed upon LGB people to assimilate into heterosexual relationships. I spoke with a gay man a few nights ago who was wondering if he was asexual because he simply didn’t fit in with or relate to the hypersexual culture common within the gay male population. Because he had psychological and sexual boundaries.

This, in combination with claiming that someone male can be a woman and someone female can be a man, and that anyone who percieves anyone based on their sex is transphobic and “cis gays” have privilege—this is upholding the attempted erasure and conversion of LGB people. This is forcing us into the direction of sexual exploitation beginning at a young age. This is not only upholding but enforcing heteronormativity and patriarchy.

[gendercriticalgal]

Wow. I always thought the ace stuff just sounded silly (especially "demisexual" lol) but I never realized it could cause so much harm.

It still makes no sense to me to group "aces" with LGB though because having sexual boundaries applies to everyone and "aces" don't necessarily experience SSA.

My porn-rotted ex-boyfriend started IDing as asexual shortly after starting antidepressants and being dumped by me. He is a straight male rapist that is now allowed to be a part of "✨LGBTQ+✨" spaces because he calls himself a "he/they" asexual.