Girl Ghostly

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[view-from-up-here]

[halfinvisible]

queue this post when it’s your birthday and be surprise

I queued this like 8 months ago I’ve waited a long time for this moment

[alexyar]

tumblr made a $5/month add-free tier, and people in the notes to the staff post are like "staff you should just fucking die" and "imagine not knowing about adblock" and like??? What the fuck do you people want? Do you think this is charity? Tumblr did the absolute most non-intrusive thing possible to start making literally any money to run this website you all so "hate". Do you understand that the alternative is "no tumblr"? No one is forcing you to pay. No one is forcing you to give up adblock. Staff are real people, who care about this place.

Like it's not about the ads. I'll pay $5 to tumblr because I think they're neat and i would like them to continue to exist, and i can afford $5. The fact that I'll stop being redirected to the amazon page for that one weighted blanket when i try to hide the pinned ad is a bonus, but I'd literally pay them $5/month ANYWAY.

[ilbbaicnl987]

every time i see someone claim to support women’s rights and racial justice and then be supportive of violently misogynistic and racist kinks i feel like throwing my brain at the wall

with things like proship vs anti discourse, skepticism is kind of understandable because this isn’t a well-known issue and there’s not that many scientific sources going around on either side. there aren’t many reputable scientific studies into proship discourse that people can look at, if any.

but with the kink shit? there are numerous studies into how violent pornography fuels misogynistic mindsets. you can GOOGLE this shit. it’s not a “puritan mindset” or whatever weirdos on tumblr call it, it’s factual evidence. how do you creatures keep calling yourselves feminists and socially aware people if you’re okay with this shit?

[mrdyketator]

^^

[muresetivoire]

We burn for such romance as we bleed

[spaceportcrescentia]

(◕‿◕✿) facts about divorce for feminists and MRAs:

in most (51%) of cases, both parents decided on their own (out of court) that the mother was to receive full custody

in 29% of custody cases, the decision was made without any third party involvement

in 91% of cases, the decision for the mother to have custody was made without court involvement

of those who go to court, 70% of men who seek custody of their child receive it

of those 70%, 1/3 of the cases cited domestic abuse as part of the reason for divorce

women who mention having been victims of domestic abuse in court are less likely to receive custody of their children than women who didn’t

i’m tired of seeing posts on feminism by both feminists and MRAs citing “gender bias in custody cases” as a problem we need to solve. women aren’t unfairly receiving custody more often. abusive men are unfairly receiving custody.

the fact is, if my dad had actually attended his court ordered anger management type classes, i would legally have been required to spend a portion of my time with him until i turned 18, even though he beat my mother and abused me.

don’t let anyone make you think that the scale isn’t still tipped toward men in a court of law.

sources: (1) (2)

[coeur-de-porcelaine]

Another fun fact : contrary to the MRA claim that women make false allegations of abuse to get leverage in divorce/custody cases, evidence shows allegations of abuse are actually rare, and substantiated in most cases. Out of the accusations that were found to be deliberate lies by the courts, most were fabricated by men (21%) vs women (1.3%).

[evidence-based-activism]

This information is very important!

As an aside: if anyone has additional sources that would be excellent. The ones listed have broken links to the original data sources. 

[evidence-based-activism]

I’m re-reblogging this because I found additional sources!!

I’m taking info from these sources: (one) (two) (three)

First

Only about 10% of divorces involve a trial (i.e. custody is determined outside of trial about 90% of the time)

At most, 20% of divorcing or separating families take the case to court (includes pre-trial and trial proceedings). Only approximately 4-5% ultimately go to trial, with most cases settling at some point earlier in the process.

Most families (90+%) decide on a custody arrangement with minimal intervention of the family court system. For those that require more intervention, domestic violence is a significant issue. (i.e. most high-conflict cases include some history of domestic abuse).

On abusive men receiving custody

In a review of parents referred for child custody evaluations by the court (and remember only about 20% of cases go to court), domestic violence was raised in 75% of the cases.

A report by the American Judges Foundation, reported that 70% of the time an abuser who requests custody is able to convince the court to give it to him.

Raising allegations of abuse often hurts the abused or protective parent more than the alleged abuser…women who inform custody mediators that they are victims of domestic violence often receive less favorable custody awards

Only 17% of fathers with a known history of domestic violence were denied child visitation and they were no more likely than other fathers to be required by the court to have a third party supervise child visitations.

On false accusations

Of female-initiated allegations, just 1.3% were deemed intentionally false by civil courts, compared with 21% when the man in the failed relationship brought similar allegations. (i.e. men make more false allegations of abuse than women in custody cases)

Most allegations that later turned out to be false are classified as “classified as misinterpretations” (meaning they were not intentional false allegations/the allegations were made in good faith)

And also

When adjusted for time spent with the child, fathers are significantly more likely to commit child abuse

The vast majority of [severe child abuse] perpetrators were male

Male perpetrators outnumbered females over 2:1

FURTHERMORE

It makes sense that women more often have custody of children considering that mothers spend twice as much time caring for children than fathers.

[exactitudes]

5.  Combat Girls - Rotterdam 1996

“Baggy, queer tomboys and tank girls. An army of stiletto-liberated women and dyke ass bitches. Watch out.”

[imeverywoman420]

The wisest people are female only children… the rest of you are weird/annoying/crazy.

[gluten-free-pussy]

Something about “woke language” that fascinates me is that although it’s aim is to be inclusive and not offensive, it more often than not does the exact opposite. At best it’s comical and at worst it’s downright dehumanizing. So like for example you could have someone making commentary on race relations and use “white people” and then refer to people of colour as “black and brown bodies” in the same sentence. I had a friend of mine invite me to a “gender inclusive” group thing on Facebook and group said it was open to “men and non men”. So now I as a black woman am both subsequently a “black body and a non man”. My femaleness and my humanity are nonexistent. Not to mention that unless you’re deep in the trenches of this progressive shit, this nebulous language is very confusing and generally inefficient

[rf-times]

Let’s talk about everybody’s favourite socialisation scapegoat: mothers. People often confuse the idea that mothers do most of the childcare with ‘mothers do most of the socialisation’, which isn’t true, at least not in the way most people think it is.

Many mothers consciously reinforce patriarchal ideals, but this is not the only way that we learn patriarchy. We observe and internalise our mother’s place in the world, how men treat her, what work she has to take on and what she doesn’t, we learn what to expect from our mothers vs our fathers and match up what we know of them to society and vice versa. Pretty much all of us will realise our mother doesn’t hold the most power and we will also be conditioned to expect more from her ourselves (the classic example is the father hurts the child and the child is angrier with the mother for not protecting them)

So even if a mother is a passionate feminist or even just a non-feminist who firmly believes in men respecting women, this doesn’t necessarily socialise her children to respect women. Her children will recognise her lack of power instead. This is why it is not true that if mothers just did a better job in our society patriarchy would be over, the very role that mothers occupy in patriarchy mean a lot of the socialisation is done already by the structure.

[heystephen]

does this dude ever just like. stop or go away

[mrdyketator]

if he did pull out of coachella, it'd be a blessing

[thatfantasynerd10]

no but remember when Marco Alisdair asked Celia Bowen if she remembers all her audiences and she said she only remembers the ones who look at her the way he does and then he asked her what way might that be AND THEN CELIA SAID THE ICONIC "LIKE THEY CAN'T DECIDE IF THEY ARE AFRAID OF ME OR IT THEY WANT TO KISS ME" AND MARCO HAD THE ABSOLUTE AUDACITY TO ANSWER WITH "I'M NOT AFRAID OF YOU"-

[thefoxandthefound-deactivated20]

[lesbatron9000]

God: behold, I have created man

Angel: you fucked up a perfectly good woman is what you did. Look at it, it’s got a penis

[walktoremember-deactivated20230]

bitches have the audacity to be upset because the main characters in a book named they both die at the end, die at the end.... i’m bitches

[natteal]

This headline reads as an extremely exaggerated right-wing strawman for transgenders, but no, it’s completely real.

Mother claims: 'He was showing genuine concern.'

Actual fucking hell world we’re in.

[girl-ghostly]

I genuinely hope this teen was convicted. Does anyone know?

[she-volution-deactivated2022052]

just acknowledge when you do something antifeminist or for the male gaze geez. literally the only reason i haven’t got a buzzcut is because i’m afraid i’ll look bad. the only reason i used to wax my legs while wearing my school uniform is because i thought body hair was unhygienic, you don’t see me saying no ‘it’s my choice, i look good for meeee’. we’re all bound to make antifeminist choices, noones brave and perfect.

[mrdyketator]

!!!!

[lesbianegg]

it’s not acceptable to:

threaten a woman with rape

joke about a woman being raped

fantasize about raping a woman

tell a woman you hope she gets raped

celebrate a woman’s rape

rape a woman

sexually harass a woman

or defend someone who’s doing any of these things

for ANY reason, including for ANY political opinion she might hold

if you do this, you are a misogynist. you hate women. even if you are a woman.

[mrdyketator]

that second to last line is very important; this applies REGARDLESS of whether the woman is on your side. even if she’s homophobic, racist, pro-life, transphobic, or just plain unpleasant. it’s NEVER ok to wish sexual violence on her.