35 year old Jewish geek NSFW blog into erotic hypnosis, rope, and kinky glittery shit. I love my friends and the erotic hypnosis community. 18+ blog only. No minors allowed! Warning: there will probably be fangirling amongst the kinky shit. current pronouns: she/her/they/them/fae/faer
Its perfectly normal to let my friends brainwash me, I see nothing wrong with being brainwashed by my friends. My friends should brainwash me more often 💕
Today in movies that I forgot had a big hypnosis element: Mighty Morphin Power Rangers. The movie with Ivan Ooze from 1995 (wow, it makes me feel old).
The 12th annual international gender census, collecting information about the language we use to refer to ourselves and each other, is now open until 30th August 2025.
It’s short and easy, for most participants it takes 5 minutes or less.
After the survey is closed I’ll process the results and publish a spreadsheet of the data and a report summarising the main findings. Then anyone can use them for academic or business purposes, self-advocacy, tracking the popularity of language over time, and just feeling like we’re part of a huge and diverse community.
If you think you might have friends and followers who’d be interested, please do reblog this blog post, and share the survey URL by email or at AFK social groups or on other social networks. Every share is extremely helpful!
Survey URL: https://survey.gendercensus.com
The survey is open to anyone anywhere who speaks English and feels that the gender binary doesn’t fully describe their experience of themselves and their gender(s) or lack thereof.
If you can't wait for survey numbers, you can click here for a public spreadsheet of non-secret info with graphs as it comes in, updated manually a few times per day.
Inspired by @ellaenchanting , here are some Beguiled 2025 memories out of context:
-Ahhh, I'm so glad we decided to do a thing early this con and actually negotiated before we were too fucked up to negotiate and being sad about that.
-Swimming with mermaids was fantastic
-I was so so happy to actually spend time with you. You are always so cool and I am me so I get intimidated and never really say hi so I'm glad we had a full on conversation.
-Negotiating a scene on the bench at night and that GOOSE came and stared at us and it was daunting.
-We got to use the cuck chair for it's intended cuck purpose!!!
-I am the unofficial tit checker!
-Thank you for showing me your sketchbooks. They're lovely and I know how nerve wracking that can be.
-We are chaos gremlins!!!!
-Normally we just say hi at con but this time we got to hang out and talk and it made me so so happy.
-New FRIEND. And a scene Monday morning. Genius. No con drop while at con and it was hot to boot.
- Push me onto the bed into trance more because that was fun and I'm not done exploring that.
-"How would you rate your trance on a likert scale of 1-5?"
-I am mischief. I am so glad to share half a brain cell with you at cons. I am only sad we didn't get to do more because SOMEONE is too popular. :p
-Your shit keeps getting better and better every time I see your work. I am so proud of you.
-I am proud that I worked up the nerve to ask to play and also that I COMPLETELY understand why it ended up not happening this con but...uh...rain check? You are pretty and cute and sexy and have a gorgeous voice and umm...yeah... The day I don't hit on you is the day I'm dead.
-I GOT TO SEE YOU AND HANG OUT AND TALK GAMES AND EVERYTHING AND YOU ARE COOL AND A DORK. AND A CHAOS GREMLIN.
-Boob for brains
-It was so nice talking how to hypno board games with you. I'm so glad you approached me and started all of that. Makes me want to go back to doing some of that formally.
-WE FOUND ALL THE SPOTS ON THE EXHIBIT!!!
-The exhibit that was the robot who was trolling was GENIUS and made me incredibly giddy. And I got tied up. Sorta.
-It was odd NOT to spend more time with you this con but I feel like we spend lots of time hanging out at Charmed and that will probably happen there.
-I loves you and you are fun and amazing and imma grope you lots and lots because if makes you happy.
-That Korean BBQ and Hot pot was SO GOOD. I already made a date to go back there next year.
-The one amnesia play attempt still didn't work. Back to the drawing board.
-Having con friends on discord so it never felt like I was alone when I didn't want to be.
-Hi. I love you. We need to hang out NOT at con... Meet halfway between yours and mine? I'll bring others....
-Being obedient for you was LOVELY. You do such a good job eliciting that part of my brain.
-Thanks for not being upset about my checking in a billion times. I don't want to cross your boundaries and mine are wide open so I want to make sure I keep it all safe.
-Trance you with my shoulder? Proceeds to do so.
-Handing me that shiny ball and then thinking I won't drop? Wild!
-Taking and throwing trance at one another like a ball.
-"Get perceived!"
-I actually got to hang out with you a little this con as opposed to hearing about you from others. I get it now.
I had an amazing con and I know the next one will be even better.
As Steam and Itch.io join the mass purge of LGBTQ content, we must document our past and ensure a shared future.
The writing has been on the wall for years, but now it’s in the boldest of fonts: if there is porn that you like, games with even remotely adult or queer content that you enjoy, queer art you appreciate that features nudity or discussions of bodies, works of fiction that you love that features controversial subjects or themes, or any queer historical records that you think should continue existing, now is the time to build an archive of them. If you are panicked by the growing libricide of LGBTQ and NSFW records from the internet, this is one very impactful thing that you can do right now to help.
Download the files, store them on an encrypted drive, upload them to a protected server, and communicate with other lovers of sexual art and queer records, so that you can help build a library of it that is accessible to us, and those that come after us in the future. If you have the capability, keep meticulous records of what you have collected — where you found it, who originally made it, what year it comes from, the spaces and communities it was associated with, the names of the people who brought it into existence.
As the burning of the Hirschfeld archives and the catastrophic losses of the AIDs crisis taught us, queer history evaporates quickly when there is no one around to keep circulating it. But you can be a part of what keeps our stories flowing, the blood moving through us that keeps us animated and alive. And you do not have to be a trained historian or especially skillful with technology, though now is also a wonderful time to learn how to be a better archivist. Just begin doing something. Save and document all that you can — in a private space that you control, and that technology companies cannot purge.
It is also important at this time to understand how LGBTQ content bans happen on a tactical level, and resist in kind. Collective Shout pressures platforms into removing NSFW content by contacting payment processors, such as Visa and MasterCard, and convincing those companies to not process any transactions involving sexual works. Collective Shout claims that it only took about a thousand phone calls to get the companies to enforce a NSFW ban. We can also call them in large numbers, and demand that adult & queer content gets put back.
If a game that you paid good money for on Steam or Itch.io has been removed in the NSFW ban, you have grounds to demand a refund.Give your payment processor a call, make a complaint, and get them to issue you a charge back. This may help place pressure on both payment processing companies and game platforms to revise their policies.
It is also important during this time to study the recent history of LGBTQ & NSFW censorship on the internet, and learn from communities that have been able to resist it successfully. One of the very first groups to be targeted by efforts like these was actually the hypnosis kink community, back in the late ’90s and early 2000s. During that time, an avid porn site user reportedly disputed hundreds of dollars in charges, alleging that he had been hypnotized into giving his credit card information away against his will. To avoid future such cases, payment processors like Visa and Mastercard refused to honor any transactions for any content involving hypnosis or mind control, and this has remained their policy ever since.
In spite of harsh repression at the hands of credit card companies and digital platforms, the hypnokink community has continued to thrive, and even grown in popularity and public acceptance in recent years. As many of you know, I am a long-term member of this diverse & queer-affirming community — I spent all of last weekend at an in-person erotic hypnosis convention, which I blogged all about on Instagram — so I know a bit about how we have managed to cope with being attacked and have come out stronger and healthier than we were before.
I think that any of us who are concerned by the stripping of queer and sexual content from the internet can learn from how the hypnokink community has responded to similar censorship over the years, and adopt some of their strategies.
One of the first things that the hypno-kink community learned once it was under attack was not to self-snitch. When we got banned from mainstream porn sites, we found the seedy, poorly regulated platforms that were not as likely to enforce payment processors’ ban on hypnosis content. On sites like Pornhub and Patreon, we learned to use terms like mesmerized and other euphemisms instead of hypnosis or mind control, or to merely reference media properties where hypnosis is featured without saying it outright.
We became data hoarders, snapping up copies of every porn video, erotic audio file, animated gif, and illustration featuring hypnosis that we could find, and then sharing it on forums with our fellow fetishists. We learned to make and share our work in private — in chat rooms, on password-protected servers — and began hosting hypnotic content on shared drives and websites we didn’t widely advertise.
Rather than allowing outside groups to censor us, we took community responsibility for maintaining standards of consent and safety, and gave no quarter to predators. At conventions, we require attendees to complete consent quizzes, and provided dungeons with consent monitors. We offer classes on consent, safety, and developing agency as a hypnotic subject. Many of our events ban the use of substances and require COVID vaccinations and KN95 masks in order to reduce risk. We continually debate how best to navigate riskier kink practices and negotiate encounters with one another.
We have continued gathering in person, and in small virtual conferences, because there are conversations about our shared passion that require an in-depth conversation among people who are at a higher level of understanding. We discuss more complex, nuanced topics in rooms where people are prepared to have them, and we understand that every rule has the power to cause exclusion and damage — and appreciate that even the best guidelines need to be broken sometimes. (For example, plenty of people still benefit from using substances for their mental health, even at a “substance-free” con).
Because the kink we are playing with can be psychologically very risky, we emphasize the importance of being in community with one another and vetting play partners, and speak about our experiences so that we can better understand what we’re going through and what we need. We do what we can to unlearn our shame and stigma, and to bring our feelings and needs out into the open — but not in front of corporations and social media platforms that will only punish and censor us.
We come out to one another, and commune to build better art, more responsible and effective hypnotic files, to write hotter smut, to have better scenes, to be able to play at the edges of consent and consciousness with intention and responsibility. This does not erase all of the risk, but it allows us to be informed of it, and to accept what difficulties and costs we take on. Nearly everyone finishes a scene by asking who needs aftercare. We prepare for the emotional drops of having seen and experienced intense shit — and for the most part, we are grateful that we get to dive with such strong parachutes.
It is this combination of privacy, technological shrewdness, dedicated archival and resource-building work, and loving community responsibility that has made us robust. Though so many outside forces have attempted to silence us and portray us as a group of perverted predators, we’ve continued spreading the truth about who we are and helping people who share our desires to find one another, and revel in our passions as safely as we can.
We have escaped the fear mongering and corporate pressure, and made something completely our own. All queer people and all makers of sexual or erotic art can do the same. We will get through this, but we will have to be more than just passive consumers of content.
We will have to become archivists, librarians, developers, community stewards, consent monitors, peer educators, advocates, organizers, and creators in our own right. And we can do it. Queer people have been producing creative work about our identities and inner erotic lives for as long as we have existed, and we have always been able to find one another in the back rooms of bars, in small bookstores in cities, in veiled language in personal ads, and everywhere else that we have tricked our enemies into not looking.
I wrote all about the suppression of queer & erotic art on the internet, and how the hypnosis kink community provides a case study in how to properly resist it. You can read the full piece for free on Substack.
It's important to remember, too, that the hypnokink community isn't immune to issues just because we've worked to build a better community. Missing stairs may still exist, people who gain popularity/social capital from teaching or helping to organize events or ... any number of things.
We try, as a community, to watch out for each other. But blind spots happen. Biases still exist and can come into play. And as a community we have a massive racism problem I have no dang clue how to solve. (It ... doesn't help that the most involved PoC organzier for a while acted poorly - including reading aloud a complaint that was supposed to be private, while identifying the person who made it.)
But we're trying. We really, truly are. I think we need to continue to improve on things like expecting our con organizers to serve a limited term (5 years? max?) before they step down, so we can minimize how much institutional influence any one person can maintain, and build structures for folk to step up, learn how to do the work they do, and keep volunteering going. And prevent burnout, burnout is bad.
But when you make communities designed to withstand institutional power, you also have to consider how to make those communities also resist *individual* power, and bad actors who see organizing or educating as a shortcut to people they can exploit. And also making sure those insitutional powers you resist aren't just anti-kink hatred, but racism, transphobia, sexism ... heck, even in-kink biases about things like switches "not being real" (uh, hi, yeah we are) or subby types not being able to be in leadership positions (I might be subby often, but I'm not *your* sub, dear reader.)
And that's hard, hard work. It takes effort, continued self awareness, and a willingness to admit you were wrong, or you fucked up. I've made mistakes I firmly regret in helping to build the community we now have. There are situations I wish I'd handled differently, and harm done to folk I wish I could have prevented.
But I also stepped away from organizing for many reasons. And while sometimes I miss helping, I also don't regret that. Because we, as a community, built something resiliant enough to withstand organizers handing over the reins.
Read all of this. We’re in the earliest days of a storm that will be bigger and harder to weather than anything our community has faced in some time.
Be archivists. Support people who are still creating in the face of it. (By paying them your money.) Call credit card companies and pitch a fucking fit.
Build resilient networks of contacts, and keep them active. Let us resolve to be weird little hypno-horny roaches that just keep on popping up over and over again.
The official Charmed! website is currently being updated - which means that you will not find links to registration for either Mini-Charmed!2025 or Charmed! 2026 there. Please use https://linktr.ee/charmedhypnocon for up-to-date links!
(accurate representation of 2 members of the Charmed! concom.)
what was the hottest thing at the con? Anything you want to add to your rotation?
Hottest at con?
I'll be honest, there were lots of hot things but it's almost hard to write them down as hot. Like, it almost sounds ridiculous lots of it but it was great...
One story could be when a hot sexy domme put the good boy in the cuck chair to watch her fucking me with a thigh strap-on as she played with my nipples and I had my wrists restrained and he was so turned on he was whimpering as I came around her cock...
Don't worry, after some time, he got to come help too...
ideal living situation is what i call the 'sitcom special' : having all your closest friends live in the same apartment building or neighborhood where you each have your own space but can wander in and out of eachothers homes at will, seemingly always welcome and never at bad times. and also all of you only have jobs when its important to the plot.
As Steam and Itch.io join the mass purge of LGBTQ content, we must document our past and ensure a shared future.
The writing has been on the wall for years, but now it’s in the boldest of fonts: if there is porn that you like, games with even remotely adult or queer content that you enjoy, queer art you appreciate that features nudity or discussions of bodies, works of fiction that you love that features controversial subjects or themes, or any queer historical records that you think should continue existing, now is the time to build an archive of them. If you are panicked by the growing libricide of LGBTQ and NSFW records from the internet, this is one very impactful thing that you can do right now to help.
Download the files, store them on an encrypted drive, upload them to a protected server, and communicate with other lovers of sexual art and queer records, so that you can help build a library of it that is accessible to us, and those that come after us in the future. If you have the capability, keep meticulous records of what you have collected — where you found it, who originally made it, what year it comes from, the spaces and communities it was associated with, the names of the people who brought it into existence.
As the burning of the Hirschfeld archives and the catastrophic losses of the AIDs crisis taught us, queer history evaporates quickly when there is no one around to keep circulating it. But you can be a part of what keeps our stories flowing, the blood moving through us that keeps us animated and alive. And you do not have to be a trained historian or especially skillful with technology, though now is also a wonderful time to learn how to be a better archivist. Just begin doing something. Save and document all that you can — in a private space that you control, and that technology companies cannot purge.
It is also important at this time to understand how LGBTQ content bans happen on a tactical level, and resist in kind. Collective Shout pressures platforms into removing NSFW content by contacting payment processors, such as Visa and MasterCard, and convincing those companies to not process any transactions involving sexual works. Collective Shout claims that it only took about a thousand phone calls to get the companies to enforce a NSFW ban. We can also call them in large numbers, and demand that adult & queer content gets put back.
If a game that you paid good money for on Steam or Itch.io has been removed in the NSFW ban, you have grounds to demand a refund.Give your payment processor a call, make a complaint, and get them to issue you a charge back. This may help place pressure on both payment processing companies and game platforms to revise their policies.
It is also important during this time to study the recent history of LGBTQ & NSFW censorship on the internet, and learn from communities that have been able to resist it successfully. One of the very first groups to be targeted by efforts like these was actually the hypnosis kink community, back in the late ’90s and early 2000s. During that time, an avid porn site user reportedly disputed hundreds of dollars in charges, alleging that he had been hypnotized into giving his credit card information away against his will. To avoid future such cases, payment processors like Visa and Mastercard refused to honor any transactions for any content involving hypnosis or mind control, and this has remained their policy ever since.
In spite of harsh repression at the hands of credit card companies and digital platforms, the hypnokink community has continued to thrive, and even grown in popularity and public acceptance in recent years. As many of you know, I am a long-term member of this diverse & queer-affirming community — I spent all of last weekend at an in-person erotic hypnosis convention, which I blogged all about on Instagram — so I know a bit about how we have managed to cope with being attacked and have come out stronger and healthier than we were before.
I think that any of us who are concerned by the stripping of queer and sexual content from the internet can learn from how the hypnokink community has responded to similar censorship over the years, and adopt some of their strategies.
One of the first things that the hypno-kink community learned once it was under attack was not to self-snitch. When we got banned from mainstream porn sites, we found the seedy, poorly regulated platforms that were not as likely to enforce payment processors’ ban on hypnosis content. On sites like Pornhub and Patreon, we learned to use terms like mesmerized and other euphemisms instead of hypnosis or mind control, or to merely reference media properties where hypnosis is featured without saying it outright.
We became data hoarders, snapping up copies of every porn video, erotic audio file, animated gif, and illustration featuring hypnosis that we could find, and then sharing it on forums with our fellow fetishists. We learned to make and share our work in private — in chat rooms, on password-protected servers — and began hosting hypnotic content on shared drives and websites we didn’t widely advertise.
Rather than allowing outside groups to censor us, we took community responsibility for maintaining standards of consent and safety, and gave no quarter to predators. At conventions, we require attendees to complete consent quizzes, and provided dungeons with consent monitors. We offer classes on consent, safety, and developing agency as a hypnotic subject. Many of our events ban the use of substances and require COVID vaccinations and KN95 masks in order to reduce risk. We continually debate how best to navigate riskier kink practices and negotiate encounters with one another.
We have continued gathering in person, and in small virtual conferences, because there are conversations about our shared passion that require an in-depth conversation among people who are at a higher level of understanding. We discuss more complex, nuanced topics in rooms where people are prepared to have them, and we understand that every rule has the power to cause exclusion and damage — and appreciate that even the best guidelines need to be broken sometimes. (For example, plenty of people still benefit from using substances for their mental health, even at a “substance-free” con).
Because the kink we are playing with can be psychologically very risky, we emphasize the importance of being in community with one another and vetting play partners, and speak about our experiences so that we can better understand what we’re going through and what we need. We do what we can to unlearn our shame and stigma, and to bring our feelings and needs out into the open — but not in front of corporations and social media platforms that will only punish and censor us.
We come out to one another, and commune to build better art, more responsible and effective hypnotic files, to write hotter smut, to have better scenes, to be able to play at the edges of consent and consciousness with intention and responsibility. This does not erase all of the risk, but it allows us to be informed of it, and to accept what difficulties and costs we take on. Nearly everyone finishes a scene by asking who needs aftercare. We prepare for the emotional drops of having seen and experienced intense shit — and for the most part, we are grateful that we get to dive with such strong parachutes.
It is this combination of privacy, technological shrewdness, dedicated archival and resource-building work, and loving community responsibility that has made us robust. Though so many outside forces have attempted to silence us and portray us as a group of perverted predators, we’ve continued spreading the truth about who we are and helping people who share our desires to find one another, and revel in our passions as safely as we can.
We have escaped the fear mongering and corporate pressure, and made something completely our own. All queer people and all makers of sexual or erotic art can do the same. We will get through this, but we will have to be more than just passive consumers of content.
We will have to become archivists, librarians, developers, community stewards, consent monitors, peer educators, advocates, organizers, and creators in our own right. And we can do it. Queer people have been producing creative work about our identities and inner erotic lives for as long as we have existed, and we have always been able to find one another in the back rooms of bars, in small bookstores in cities, in veiled language in personal ads, and everywhere else that we have tricked our enemies into not looking.
I wrote all about the suppression of queer & erotic art on the internet, and how the hypnosis kink community provides a case study in how to properly resist it. You can read the full piece for free on Substack.
Being thrown onto a bed into trance is hot and fun. Throwing you onto a bed into trance is hot and fun...
Maybe I AM more of a switch the more experienced I get.
But, also, would you please rate your trance on a likert scale of 1-5. Please stay on the line, your call is important to us. We need to replicate the bed throwing for science. Do we get the same results? Please let us know how we can improve your trance.
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