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any advice for being okay alone after a breakup? because I know you've been through so much worse than this. it didn't end badly.. he just "couldn't love" me. he couldn't love himself enough first to love me, and I think he was scared, and just wanted to get out of it. maybe it's all for the best in the end, but I really hurt right now. and all I want to do is call him but I know I shouldn't. I want to be friends, eventually, I just don't know how I'm going to get to that point. <3

I've had my heart broken twice, and I handled it two very different ways.

The most recent time, the entire life I had built myself was shattered as a result of our split, and I lost it. I cried constantly. I stopped eating. I made a LOT of stupid choices. I had zero contact with my ex and then I woke up one day a month later and realized that I had survived the worst part on my own. It's been just over three months, and I feel fantastic about myself and I'm happier than I've ever been, and I'm alone. A clean cut was the best choice.The first time my heart was broken, I handled it differently. I was convinced our friendship would be immediate because we'd been friends for years before we dated. It was terrible. I kept hurting myself. I resented him. He resented me. We both hurt other people because of our selfishness. There's not to say there's no recovery, because that boy is one of the most important people in my life now, but that came after many nights of crying, screaming and saying horrible things to each other.You have to weigh the pros and cons, but in my experience, it's better to give it space, and when time has let both of you grow enough, revisit the friendship.