sometimes i read or skim arguments/talking points with the sense that like…..you’re thinking way too hard about this. like not in a dismissive way, not “you just wasted your time lol what a loser go outside”, it’s more like “why are people being made to think SO DEEPLY about shit that doesn’t matter”.
something that seriously pisses me off is people who say stuff along the lines of “if you do/like/think X then think really hard about why you do” like 1) don’t tell me what to do 2) maybe i have thought really hard about it and this is how i feel afterwards 3) ITS NOT THAT DEEP
this is in all sorts of discourse and honestly it reeks of the guys i met in high school who tried to convince me i wasn’t really attracted to women cause they always told me to think about why i like women instead of men (i ID’d as a genderqueer lesbian back then) and if i said i had they’d tell me to think harder. they didn’t care about me. they just wanted me to not be gay. they just wanted me to be available to them.
people who tell you to think hard about some random aspect about you are not being ingenious. they are not encouraging self discovery. they just want you to admit that they are right and you are wrong because eventually you’ll run out of arguments and statements you’ve rehashed a thousand times and just get mad and then they’ll use your anger against you.
y'all. IT AINT THAT DEEP. queer discourse? it’s faster and easier than saying “nonbinary genderfluid and bi” and encompasses my identities and beyond. for me, that’s it. i’ve typed out paragraphs on why i use the word but it all boils down to that.
shipping discourse? sometimes we just fucking like things and it doesn’t mean shit in our brains because brains are funky things we still don’t understand. i’m not going to dive deep into the inner mechanisms of my psyche because i like a ship with dubcon elements. it’s not that fucking serious. you’re not going to catch me engaging with a lot of “reasons why shipping x is okay” because i’ve grown up with weird ships and characters ever since i was 10 and hey, look at me, i’m queer and mentally ill but i’ve never fucking killed anyone like i apparently would have done if fiction really was at a 1:1 ratio with reality. the irony is that so many shipping arguments are bunk if you use your goddamn brain for ten seconds and engage in some nuance and critical thinking for once.
ace discourse?? “think really hard about why you ID as ace”?? because they don’t experience sexual attraction you utter walnut. and whether that’s due to trauma or internalized xphobia or what, it’s nobody’s fucking business aside from that person.
all these people are doing are trying to worm their gross ideologies into your head and make you doubt who you are. when i was younger i fell into these traps and came out like “okay i thought about it and i still like this so what now,” and they don’t have answers beyond that. because it’s a subtle guilt trip to get you to admit that you’re a liar, that you’re actually cis/straight/not mentally ill/<insert other identity aspect here> because how dare you exist as one of those people.
ugh. that’s my semi-legible rant of the day, the point being that nobody is allowed to dictate or determine my identity aside from me and sometimes therapists, and people who try to guilt people into hating themselves over dumb arbitrary shit can fuck off forever.
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