defining nonverbal person’s reality n experience for them when they tell you otherwise even though you think you doing them a favor n the nonverbal person just don’t know what they experiencing n saying is… still speak over nonverbal person actually.
it still speak over & saviorism. n in some cases even gaslighting, n not using that word lightly.
have had verbal speaking people (plural!! many occasions!) so desperately think they doing me favor when they tell me “no actually you not struggling with communication 🥺you great with it” when am saying hey being nonverbal naturally mean am struggle w communication, n have many other language cognitive struggles that make communication even harder.
some they keep insist even when tell them no, assume am say it because am just… unconfident n low self esteem n falling for deficit language n also assume have never heard of well, autism advocacy for past decade (bc context of convo be abt autism).
n have had some actually argue with me about… my own experience? n when naturally as person who struggle with communication (that they conveniently deny, while said struggle actively helping them), cannot argue back as easy as they (person w communication privilege) do, try get other people help explain, they then call me… deploying other people n dogpiling them.
this still speaking over me even if they mean well, even if they seem to use advocacy language. because no matter what they claim to be saying n supporting n believing, thru their actions they been ignoring what am say, refusing listen to me, denying while same time benefiting from my struggles they denying, assuming can’t possibly know myself or historical basis / bigger concepts n they as verbal person know more, n paint my own accessibility needs for said struggle as unfair advantage harming them. that still ableism.
