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A bunch of stuff I like, no themes or cohesion here . . . header by @strawberryblondie-locks

[cafenervosa]

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[nihilisticlinguistics]

adulthood notes:

The Rodeo Rule: you only have to do it for the first time once.

The Rohan Rule: if you are at a social function full of new people and you want to be liked, find someone doing important work like setup or food prep and offer to help.

The Tutorial Mode Rule: to navigate an unfamiliar situation where you fear you will mess up an interaction, preface the interaction by mentioning that you've never done this before, and let them know if you have a specific concern or question.

The Rocket Science Rule: most new things you want to try seem very complicated but are simple when taken step by step.

The [X] Will Remember That Rule: if you need to make small talk with the same person on a regular basis, try to save one fact or current event in their life from a given conversation and bring it up next time you talk.

The Cool Binder Rule: by wearing clothes and accessories that are to your taste instead of trying to blend in, people will be more likely to compliment you and show interest in you as a person.

[thesituation]

talking abt feminism in this cultural climate is like a magnet for people to project their personal insecurities onto as if it’s my fault the patriarchy devalued and broke you down to then sell you the tools to regain confidence. i’m not your dad or your bitch mom who gave you your confidence problems don’t talk to me like i am & demand i fix it for you with unconditional validation because i wont

[imsobadatnicknames2]

what’s the real story with argentina being a nazi haven, overblown stereotype or lib fabrication? or more an annoying rhetorical distraction from the fact that the real nazi haven was germany and that denazification simply did not happen?

I mean there *were* cases of nazis being smuggled into brazil, argentina, chile, and paraguay through illegal escape routes colloquially referred to as ratlines. That is a thing that did happen.

However, the way americans in particular seem to latch onto this fact to dismiss any latin american that pisses them off, either in a "well whatever your country gave refuge to nazis" sense, or in a "I'm directly implying your family were escaped nazis" sense (another example I remember seeing once was a post about US imperialism in latin america where a yankee replied that OP had no business bitching about imperialism because she was probably "a white brazilian called Helga or something") is a bit ironic to me, considering that:

The vast majority of german immigrants to these countries in the 20th century were jewish refugees fleeing the nazis

The US took in thousands more nazis after ww2 than the entirety of Latin America combined

A lot of the nazis that *did* escape to latin america did so with the direct help of US intelligence agencies

Nazis that escaped to the US were treated as valuable anti-soviet assets, and many of them were given cushy jobs by the US government. Most of the nazis who escaped to latin america spent their entire lives hiding from the authorities under false identities, and those who were discovered were extradited or jailed

So americans in particular thinking they have any right to reduce latin american countries to "nazi havens" when talking about them is just plain xenophobic jingoism

[televisionenjoyer]

I do think some part of this disproportionate anger we're seeing directed at south american countries stems a bit from a failure to admit that a country can be exploited while still experiencing the same flaws that first world countries experience. That being exploited doesn't make you noble and incapable of evil. There's racism in exploited countries. There's a ton of fascism in exploited countries (it helps the exploitation run smoothly). We have the same societal flaws that exist in the first world, they're just obscured by the fact that the minimum wage is currently around $250 dollars. And I'm not trying to say that having racism and fascism in any country is okay, but we should maybe question why we think global south countries have a moral obligation of being socially flawless (according to first world standards of what is and isn't socially acceptable at that) to deserve some fucking dignity. Exploitation is wrong, full stop.

[televisionenjoyer]

We're also in the unique position to be able to experience the same type of rationalization that allowed for exploitation and interventionism to happen in arab countries for so long with nobody batting an eye. "But they're homophobic" "They're misogynists" "They're jihadists" are just rationalizations to justify the unjustifiable.

[bisexualmindcabin]

And I mean, I'm reticent to concede the point that those flaws are entirely our fault, considering that every time south american countries get close to socialism and progress the CIA intervenes, tortures and kills our activists, and puts on fascist leaders. Sure, some people already agreed with the last dictatorship, but they killed everyone who disagreed and was motivating change. If they're not even giving us a chance to get better I resent the implication that that means they should get to exploit us even harder

[rehinaonthelow]

Why is everyone on this website actually stupid. Yes even the most marginalised US-American benefits from the privileges afforded to them by living in the Imperial Core. Why do you think Indigenous US-Americans live, on average, in better conditions than Indigenous Americans in Latin America? Why is it that Indigenous US-Americans living on the poorest most isolated and neglected reservations have a better quality of life then the worst off Indigenous Latin American tribe? I’ll answer for you: It’s Imperialism

[umbra-life]

Indigenous and mestizos. We all in Latam are mestizos of Indigenous cultures and black and brown people and whatever other category, and every time I see "recommendations" of how to survive being empoverisher by western capitalism, its a westerner (not just a yanki) eating our food bought in cans at cheap prices. Even the marginalised westerner have access to everything that is stolen every day from us while we die hearing them whine about why one does nothing to stop imperialism with their mouths full of my ancestral vegetables, fruits and grains, sitting in a place made with the wood covered in our blood, holding a phone made with our minerals and metals and lives.

But this is a truth that they will never accept bc they really think their lives are above ours and they can't and will never stop being an imperialists. That's why every time a global southerners speaks of this ALWAYS shows up marginalised ppl from all identities from the empire or wannabe to tell us to shut up.

Ppl here have told me to buy expensive ass vegan foods and canned food bc "is cheaper" and gave me a price in dollars when I asked about nutrition under western caused famine. I felt disgust bc the food named was my native foods, yet they can buy it bc they take it from me. Canned food is not accessible to survive a fucking famine. I can't even buy fucking potatoes nor have a safe place to put them. We created the fucking potatoes and where in all the territories.

That's the privilege and ignorance of the west.

[salgoot]

third worlders complaining about global trade like us pausing our imports wouldn't send their economy into a decade long recession. say thank you for us funding your employment

[anedgeberry]

The second a third worlder is too uppity the average yankee turns into Hitler

[sentimentalslut]

man the public defender discourse pisses me off so bad. yeah. yeah I do think that every single person deserves representation. yeah that includes people who *have* committed rape and murder and abuse. when I say every single person I mean every single person. if your idea of justice excludes one person it excludes everyone. next question

[sentimentalslut]

“so you’re saying you’d represent someone who has admitted to sexual assault?” i’m saying I have.

“so you’re saying you’d represent someone who has admitted to domestic violence?” i’m saying i have.

"so you’re saying you’d represent someone who has admitted to child abuse?" i'm saying i have.

and i am saying i have given each and every one of those clients the same level of professionalism, effort, and zealous advocacy i have given my clients who are victims of the same. that is how due process works, and every person is guaranteed it.

i have nothing but respect and admiration for my colleagues in the public interest sector who represent those who have committed and/or been accused any and all crimes, no matter how "morally reprehensible" others may find them.

public defenders are among the best, brightest, and most selfless attorneys out there. they are on the front lines of combating the carceral state and protecting the rights of every day people. get it straight in your heads. thanks.

[brainscrems]

Being a public defender is one of the most essential and under-recognized jobs someone can do to help maintain our democracy. Fuck absolutely anyone and everyone who goes after them. If you’re against public defenders you are fighting for fascism. There’s nothing more to say on the matter.

[ravynfyre]

even "bad guys" deserve rights. yes, even *those* "bad guys", because when you decide that some people don't deserve rights, then you throw the door wide open to be declared one of the types of people who don't deserve rights. *our* freedoms require that we *also* protect the people we don't like.

who do you think it is that provides those rights to the "bad guys", hm?

[when-you-fail-again]

[some-lionheart]

[arctasy]

when the character is obsessive and desperate and guilty and scared and ashamed and traumatized and repressed

[mattykb]

Im rewatching Gravity Falls and thought of this so yeah

[garbagequeer]

you really do have to hand it to bridgerton sometimes

[lakemojave]

People will see an underwritten woman or black character and act like it's the character's fault

[alenkorra]

This is terrorism. They have been doing this in Patagonia for months.

Multiple IDF grenades have been found near the forests and it's getting almost no media coverage because Milei (the president) is an Israel sympathizer.

Watching this happen just days after the US bombed Venezuela makes it a really scary time to live in Latin America.

From the bottom of my heart I hope every Israeli gets what they deserve.

EDIT: turns out the grenades were not IDF but the soldiers were still responsible for the fires so all you zionists in the tags can gargle my balls

[bunniboiz]

"it's ok to show (x) in fiction as long as the bad guy gets punished!" the bad guy doesn't have to get punished. in fact the bad guy can win altogether. the bad guy can entirely get away with it. hope this helps

[bunniboiz]

and this part might make some people's head explode but: characters can be written to forgive things you personally wouldn't ever forgive. not everything is written as what you'd perceive to be the right choice. not everything is a self-insert & protagonists don't have to be relatable.

[victusinveritas]

[black-crested-jaybird]

I always think of the description I saw years ago: Self-imposed deadlines don't help me, because I know the person who set them, and they're full of shit.

[makingtrouble]

Give yourself the treat before you start. I'm serious. And ideally during the task and afterwards too.

Executive dysfunction comes from a lack of available dopamine. Common advice is wrong. You need to provide your own dopamine before you can start. Otherwise you're trying to run your car on empty.

"But what if I still don't do it" well you already weren't getting it done anyway. Now you have a little treat. Try again later.

You deserve kindness and care even when you aren't being productive.

(Also read How to Keep House While Drowning by KC Davis)

[twwings]

I give my students a LOT of techniques for starting writing when it feels overwhelming or daunting, but one of them is exactly this: dopamine load BEFOREHAND. It may sound weird to people on tumblr dot com, but a lot of people seriously struggle with executive dysfunction when it comes to writing literally anything, to the extent that it can cause such symptoms as panic, depression, and AI chatbot use.

I usually suggest this technique as a "Reverse Pomodoro." In the original Pomodoro, you work for 25 minutes and then take a break for 5 minutes (the times vary, but that's the essential ratio). People with executive dysfunction often find this insurmountable, and they get even more frustrated, and then the task seems even more difficult. So instead, flip those times.

FIRST, spend 25 minutes doing something energizing and engaging that you like to do. Not scrolling social media passively, not watching tv, not napping. Try something like colouring, doing yoga, running/walking around the block, talking about your favourite tv show with someone in real time, playing with the dog or cat, making and eating a lovely sandwich, hula hooping, something active. Having a little treat absolutely falls in this category!

(on the subject of little treats: refusing yourself food until you do work is for fucking Puritans and you can be kinder to yourself)

Then, after 25 minutes (or however long it takes to eat the sandwich or finish the yoga routine, it doesn't have to be exact), spend 5 minutes writing (or doing whatever you're struggling to start). Most people can coax themselves into doing something they find difficult for five minutes, if they have already filled up the joy/energy/engagement bucket. You can put a timer on for the 5 minutes if you want, or if you find that annoying, just work for as long as you like.

The other key is: don't push yourself to keep going when you're frustrated or tired—that will just reinforce the negative belief that you already have, which tells you that this task is painful to do, and needs to be avoided. If you've commonly had to force yourself to do this kind of task, that's likely part of why you think of it as painful and have trouble starting it now. Also, you should just, at a basic level, try not to put yourself in pain for the sake of productivity. So just do it till the good feelings run out. Then start hula hooping or colouring again for another 25 minutes. When the tank's refilled, try another 5 minutes of work, if you can. Adjust times to taste.

Not every technique works for everyone, but I've seen this one work for many students who are genuinely and seriously disabled by executive dysfunction. And many people find themselves getting more and more excited and engaged in the "difficult" task—because the good feelings from the hula hooping carry over, and because they're suddenly able to do the task without feeling pain, and feel accomplishment without feeling pain.

[ethically-sourced-pizza]

[pudulogy]