[gremlintrender]

For the record, I use discourse tags on some posts so they get caught by the tag filter, not to get into arguments on this god forsaken webbed site. If you try and stir up shit in my notes I'll block you and that will be the end of it.

[iricressent]

something very lgbt just happened to me *visibly shaken, haggard and covered in blood *

[pet-shop-of-horror-fan]

“I’m a lesbian who’s attracted to women and non binary people but I’m not m-spec.”

That better come with a huge fucking asterisk you neglected to include becouse otherwise what the fuck is wrong with you? 

Actually nevermind, even if this comes with an appropriate explanation that fact that this was your go to explanation is horrid enough that I can’t trust you.

[gremlintrender]

I got they/them-ed by my piercer on wednesday and im not even out to her and I am still living off of that gender euphoria

[twotrenchcoatsinaguy]

ppl will say "demisexual and demiromantic apply to literally everyone why is it a label" and then play smash or pass, see people on the street and comment to their friends how attractive they are, meet someone at a bar and ask them on a date, start talking to someone in the hopes that it will end up sexual/romantic one day

like bro. an actual lack of attraction until a serious connection has formed is not the same thing as wanting to get to know someone before you have sex or date them.

[whimsy-flags]

Vampire Flags!

Genderpunk | Genderless | Gendernull

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[ponyboyfaceshopping]

losing it

[gremlintrender]

y'all don't get to call every wlw couple a lesbian couple and then be pissed when mspec women start calling themselves lesbians. you called us lesbians first.

[gremlintrender]

reblogging this again because I keep seeing people do exactly this. you don't get both. either confront the mspec erasure inherent in assuming 2 women in a relationship are exclusively lesbians or shut the fuck up and deal with it when mspec women identify with a label that was historically theirs until proto-terfs kicked them out. better yet do both.

[gremlintrender]

shout out to all my fellow transes going back to school/college to get deadnamed and misgendered soon ✊😔

were all cool as hell and cis people don't get to tell us a damn thing about our own gender

[fish-to-male]

one day some of you will actually go outside and go to pride and you’re going to meet old black queens who refers to themselves as femme, you’ll meet people from small towns who still use the word transsexual, you’ll see that your local activist organization set up a stall about your local LGBT history that includes leather bar’s history, you’ll see lesbians in groups refer to themselves as “guys” and “boys”, you’ll see someone with breasts and pasties and little else have “he / him” painted on his chest, and you’ll be so caught up with your terminally online attitude that instead of appreciating the wide diversity of people who exist in the LGBT community who are brave enough to share themselves you’ll just be formulating posts and tweets in your head for when get home about how “problematic” it all was and it’s honestly tragic

[saturnialsapphic]

Once, back when I worked in an LGBTQIA dungeon, I encountered a significantly older person who remarked to me that they hadn’t been to “this type of place” in decades. They struck up a conversation with me and told me how amazing it was to see an openly transexual youth such as myself. I asked them about their experiences with gender and they said “oh, well, I’m a bit male and a bit female. Men’s and women’s clothes, sometimes makeup in a suit, sometime fresh faced in a dress when I’m at home. You know, bisexual” Obv this puzzled me at first until I realized this person was using bisexual in a very, very, literal and old fashioned sense, as in, dual-sexed. Non-binary.

Y’all gotta understand there are generation gaps in the language we use and you open yourself up to a LOT of very interesting stories if you stop blocking off the past.

[ittybittytatertot]

One of the biggest problems with modern community is the idea that (white) western, post 2000s LGBT vocabulary is the only correct way to speak about sexuality and gender.

Like the freak outs under pictures of protests from the 70s-90s because signs and shirts say faggot and dyke and queer, as if these words weren’t a key part of identity and activism.

Beyond just English, I saw a couple people making fun of the term “gender x” in an anime…but why would a Japanese production adhere to English standards?

Or the way people talk about pronouns as if every language uses pronouns the same way as English.

It’s just…it indicates a mindset that these words are objective and written in stone and western youth culture is always the most correct in a way that…feels icky. Diversity in people includes diversity of language.

[gremlintrender]

y'all don't get to call every wlw couple a lesbian couple and then be pissed when mspec women start calling themselves lesbians. you called us lesbians first.

[irenthel]

Do y’all ever get tired of like, policing other people’s identities?

[irenthel]

Like, each individual is going to arrive at their own identity based on their own experiences, and apply the words that best fit and make them feel safe and at home. It won’t always look like my journey, or your journey, and it won’t always fit into a neat box, what things are “supposed” to be. Sometimes sexuality is messy and complicated, but it is above all else personal, and at some point you have to let go of insisting that you know somebody better than themselves.

[irenthel]

Not to reblog this again but it is imperative that people understand that yes this includes whatever identify is the scapegoat of the year, and if you’re gonna reblog this with some “I don’t agree with ___ but we shouldn’t be yelling about it,” you missed the entire point of this post and also I will block you.

[gremlintrender]

just saw someone say that bi women can't call themselves lesbians because bi men can't call themselves gay?????? I don't think ive ever met a bi man who hasnt called himself gay??? practically everyone who isnt straight calls themselves gay????? wtf are you people on???

some of you people have very obviously never talked to other queer people like. ever.

[gremlintrender]

ive been struggling to put this into words for a while but i honestly think transmed rhetoric is harmful to dyphoric trans people too.

when I first figured out im enby i didn't realize I have dysphoria. I just saw the word and what it meant and was flooded with relief because oh there's a word for this, I'm not alone in this, we exist. but if it been with a "must have dysphoria" label I wouldve gone oh, so this isn't for me. and I would've felt wrong in my body for so much longer, maybe even forever

maybe its just me being alexithymic but I always pinned the discomfort my dysphoria caused on insecurity and it took years for me to eventually go "oh wait. no actually I don't like my chest because it makes people think I'm a girl. this is dysphoria not insecurity" but I never would've done that had I not felt comfortable in enby spaces where discussions like that were going on

tldr: transmed rhetoric can make it hard for dysphoric trans people to feel comfortable in identifying as trans if they don't recognize they have dysphoria

[gremlintrender]

>>>>>>>:) I got my gender removal cream!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! gender removal time!!!!!!!!!!

[gremlintrender]

y'all remember when exclusies got angry because aces said the moon was ace but we didn't know that lesbians said the moon was a lesbian because we, as people who were not necessarily lesbians, were not a part of lesbian spaces? or was that a fever dream of mine

-this is not a discourse invitation. this post is only tagged with discourse tags so it gets caught by tag filters. if you try and start shit on this post or in my inbox I'll laugh and block you-

[gremlintrender]

nothing will ever be funnier to me than the way enbies describe our genders without labelling them, example: currently my gender is an empty party size bag of cool ranch doritos

[gremlintrender]

update: current gender is the ache my left knees got going on from being in a weird position when I drive