A. Grimm

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insta 𓆩♡𓆪 art shop

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I would love to see you do your own version of Julie Fox's PTSD photo book, I think that would be the coolest nyc goth coffee table book//work of art

that is very sweet. i fear it would read more like a cat marnell book sans the glamorous career lol. but i've been chronicling my every thought for several years now, hopefully i'll be able to put it into book form some day.

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I'm taking my mother to Iceland next year! Do you have any tips for spending time there? Food advice, things to do (or avoid), or anything else? I would really appreciate it!

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Hope youre doing well x

jelly, iceland is incredible.

to be honest i'm not the best guide, i am sure there are many people that will have better tips than me. but i'd say plan to be on many road trips, visiting the typical tourist spots really isn't so bad but there are many less traveled areas you should look into also. you basically can't go wrong. even on days where we drove kind of aimlessly it was stunning and wonderful.

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How to deal with people who make you feel small and or dirty?

do you value their opinion? would you trade places with them?

chances are they are making you feel small because they feel small. that's not a person to admire. and in the same right, not a person whose opinions you should consider.

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How do you get over a friend breakup? I was friends for someone for 15 years and we decided to stop being friends. I think we ended up being different people.

friend breakups are really really rough. it's okay to mourn them. in general with this kind of thing i don't think there's an antidote other than time. but depending on the circumstances, it could be helpful to:

if you catch yourself feeling overly nostalgic and smoothing over the rough bits of your relationship, remind yourself of why you no longer really work in each other's lives

put extra effort into your other relationships so that you can better fill that space

be open to meeting new people

15 years is a really long time. this person will have a place in your past no matter what. it's painful right now but make it a goal to accept your past together neutrally. i promise you will have new fulfilling strong friendships, even if you can't see them right now.

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fairy glen, scotland

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Le Vourdalak (2023)

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Will you ever post on TikTok Tok again? We miss you there <3

i did it for you

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how do u keep all your treasures dust free! do u use a duster or wipe them all down daily? o:

i dust so, so much (˚˃̣̣̥⌓˂̣̣̥ )

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i feel the same as you about tiktok - what helped me was posting my videos and just .. not scrolling at all. rn i post on youtube - feels way less crowded there, and i'm totally free to do whatever style of videos i want

that's a good point. it's usually scrolling that is the death of us. i'm glad you found a comfy spot. i hope to adapt a similar mindset and post again soon <3

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aviv, i'm 25 and feeling extremely behind in everything, but i've recently decided to buy an apartment but it's a small one (29m²) 1bedroom, and i still can't feel proud of myself for that because it's so small and i'm not where i think i should be in life. any advice? </3

well for one, if you're buying an apartment you're already ahead of 90 % of the people i know (of all ages). you ought to be very proud for creating a home for yourself! it's maybe the most impactful part of our daily lives.

but i think more importantly - it is psychologically damaging to compare your trajectory or place in this world to others. it will simply never, ever help. i'm saying this as someone who also does this often. it's a natural impulse and it has its uses (motivation etc), but in large it harms you more than anything.

the best way i've found around this is to switch your subject of comparison, turn inward. are you doing better than you were a year ago? a month ago? sometimes this doesn't mean materially. jobs and finances and possessions fluctuate. but have you learned more? grown emotionally? made new or stronger connections? accomplished a project you never thought you would? If you have a tendency for comparison, this i think is the best way.

if you can get there, though, i think eliminating this entirely from your daily conscience is ideal. in my lower points, where not even internal comparison is helping, i try to view life from the perspective of vonnegut's commentary on envelopes. essentially - life is about minuscule pleasures, interactions with the world, and little else. did you make it through another day doing something that you enjoyed, even a little? good.