Hey, I'm 15 and transsexual ftm. I really want to tell my parents about my transsexuality, but I'm afraid of their reaction. They don't accept anything what's "different" so it's difficult to tell them about it... Should I try to do it anyway?
Hi! Fellow trans guy here. I am not an expert on coming out, but I will share what I’ve learned and my own experiences.
If you think your parents would kick you out or become physically violent/etc, I would advise against coming out, for your own safety. Even if you think they wouldn’t, making sure you have some friends/family to stay with may be necessary in an emergency. Please, just try your best to look after your own physical well-being.
That being said, lot of people come out via letter – that way you have all your thoughts organized and your explanations aren’t flustered from emotional reactions. Some trans people include their future plans (therapy, HRT, name change, surgeries, etc) and explanations of what these things mean. Overall, you will have to do a lot of explaining – your parents most likely are not at all familiar with anything having to do with transgenderism/transsexualism (except, maybe, stereotypes and jokes in media). You’ll probably have to explain what gender identity means, the difference between gender and sexuality, general trans terms, etc. You might request gender therapy.
This could be a physical letter or something like an email or document.
Since you’ve said that they don’t accept what’s “different” – still, with all these explanations, you will have to be prepared for them to react negatively and still hang on to their fashioned stereotypes and misconceptions.
Different parents react differently – naturally. I think it’s worth being said that parents of trans people tend to go through a grieving process. They grieve the child they thought they had. They have to deal with this loss, because for fifteen years they’ve had this concept of you in their heads.
Some (rare) parents have little/no problem accepting their child. Some parents deal with this ‘loss’ in their own way, and eventually become accepting (to varying degrees, some extremely and some minimally). Some parents, however, never accept their trans children. Neither of us can predict the future (even if they don’t seem like they’ll be accepting), so just know that you can’t control how they feel. From personal experience, I know it will hurt if they don’t accept you, but you have to do what you need to do. Don’t let anyone guilt you into apologizing for being who you are.
Coming out can be as difficult as it is liberating. It might be emotionally exhausting. If you have anyone to ‘lean on’ or vent to (a friend, family member, etc – we’re here, too!) it will help.
Overall, just remember that you deserve to be happy. This is a difficult time. Whether you come out or not, you might feel ‘stuck’ with your parents, but realize that you won’t live with them forever. Some day you will be on your own and transitioning the way you want to. Please look after yourself, no matter what you decide. We’re here for support regardless of what happens.
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As a transsexual male, this post makes me uncomfortable.
a) “Not every trans man has the same dose; some choose to start at a higher dose in hopes of experiencing changes faster, while other trans men start at lower doses to experience a gradual change.”
That is not at all true. You do not choose your dosage. We are not doctors. That’s idiotic. Our doctor chooses the dosage. How fast the changes occur varies form person to person. You can give yourself tons of T, but it won’t accelerate anything.
And guess what? Writers don’t need to know this to write a trans man. They do not need to know this at all.
b) “Many trans men choose not to get any bottom/genital surgeries due to lack of satisfaction with the procedures (many trans men believe the procedure/results need to be improved vastly before they would consider surgery)”
This part ignores a huge issue among trans men. There are some trans men (and trans women and cis people) who constantly bash these surgeries without actually knowing a lot about them. This is a touchy subject that cis writers should not touch.
And all those details about the surgeries…WRITERS DO NOT NEED TO KNOW THIS. It makes me extremely uncomfortable when non medical personnel who are cis are just freely given all these details.
c) “While they cannot feel via toys, many trans men (and people in general) find using them very satisfying/erotic.”
It can also be very dysphoric for trans men to think about using toys, or to even think about sex at all. You cannot ignore sex dysphoria when making a “writing guide” for trans men.
d) “ In fact, many trans men are so unimpressed by the current bottom surgery options available”
AGAIN. FALSE. Talk to dysphoric trans men. Some are really fucking amazed at what can be done. And when you keep repeating stuff like this, you remind trans men who have had bottom surgery or who are looking into it that their genitals are unimpressive or bad.
e) You did not mention sex dysphoria.
Sex dysphoria? Do you know what that is? It’s the sole reason I’m transsexual. It’s a disconnect between the “body map” in the brain and a person’s physical reality. It’s the reason people do HRT. It’s the reason the suicide rate is so high. It’s the reason we transition.
If you talk about trans people, you have to talk about dysphoria.
Hi! I’m the writer of this guide, and a trans man myself. I am sorry about the misunderstandings.
a) That is not at all true. You do not choose your dosage. We are not doctors. That’s idiotic. Our doctor chooses the dosage. How fast the changes occur varies form person to person. You can give yourself tons of T, but it won’t accelerate anything.
I apologize for the wording -- I did not mean that trans men give themselves T, I meant that trans men get T through their doctors and may talk about varying doses for varying reasons. I was trying to communicate that some trans men take a lower dose of T for various reason (a friend of mine takes a lower dose of T because he is a singer and wants his voice to change gradually, for example).
And guess what? Writers don’t need to know this to write a trans man. They do not need to know this at all.
In my opinion, knowing about the daily lives of trans men (and all trans people) leads to a better overall understanding, especially if a person is writing a trans character.
This part ignores a huge issue among trans men. There are some trans men (and trans women and cis people) who constantly bash these surgeries without actually knowing a lot about them. This is a touchy subject that cis writers should not touch.
And all those details about the surgeries…WRITERS DO NOT NEED TO KNOW THIS. It makes me extremely uncomfortable when non medical personnel who are cis are just freely given all these details.
I understand that there are many trans men who get these surgeries; I included this in my post. However, bottom surgery is still something that a lot of trans men do not get/do not want (for various reasons, including the general functionality/results) and I included this in my post. I respectfully disagree that we should keep these details to ourselves (there are resources like Hudson's FTM Resource Guide that are freely available), but I do respect your opinion.
It can also be very dysphoric for trans men to think about using toys, or to even think about sex at all. You cannot ignore sex dysphoria when making a “writing guide” for trans men.
You’re right -- I apologize. I will include this in the guide.
AGAIN. FALSE. Talk to dysphoric trans men. Some are really fucking amazed at what can be done. And when you keep repeating stuff like this, you remind trans men who have had bottom surgery or who are looking into it that their genitals are unimpressive or bad.
I will change my wording in the guide.
Sex dysphoria? Do you know what that is? It’s the sole reason I’m transsexual. It’s a disconnect between the “body map” in the brain and a person’s physical reality. It’s the reason people do HRT. It’s the reason the suicide rate is so high. It’s the reason we transition.
If you talk about trans people, you have to talk about dysphoria.
Again, you’re right, and I apologize. I will add this in the guide. The topic of sexual dysphoria should’ve been a big one, and I apologize for not including it.
↠ MORGAN BISHOP is 26 YEARS OLD and belongs to the WARLOCK species. When they goes into battle, they carry a [WEAPON UP TO PLAYER]. They closely resemble AZMARIE LIVINGSTON and is currently OPEN.
“My mother loved me. My father hated me. Now I’m caught in the middle of a war that could wipe out the Earth. Just another day on the job, I suppose.”
[ b i o g r a p h y ]
Morgan’s history started out as any other warlock’s would. Their mother was a mere mundane who had no knowledge of the Shadow world and their father was a demon who succeeded in seducing their mother. Upon Morgan’s birth, their mother had no intent of keeping them. She didn’t want to be reminded of the night she had a one-nightstand with a stranger and, being a carefree and happy-go-lucky woman, she didn’t want any excess load like a baby. She gave her child to her sister instead, who was infertile and unable to bear children. Morgan’s adoptive mother was caring and treated them like they were her own. Their adoptive father however wasn’t so welcoming. He was hesitant to raise someone who wasn’t his own flesh and blood. He had no choice though, since his wife was extremely adamant to adopt Morgan.
Growing up, Morgan was treated with love and care by their mother, though their father kept his distance. They didn’t mind though since they were satisfied by the amount of affection their mother had for them. Morgan was never one who was bound by the constrains of their gender identity and all those around them respected that. Despite this, they never felt like they belonged. Not because of their gender but because of the fact that they could occasionally perform things that were not normal; something supernatural. Since they were a child, they didn’t understand why they had bat wings on their back. Their mother simply said that some children were born with marks that made them different and the bat wings were what made them special. They believed that lie until their magic became stronger as they grew up. Their mother tried her best to conceal Morgan’s warlock mark but it became harder and harder to hide as the wings grew larger in his growing up years. When their foster father nearly discovered the bat wings, their mother finally told Morgan the truth of how they were adopted and that their real father was someone who was ‘more than human.’ Determined to find out who their real father was and also to control and develop the powers that they possessed, Morgan left the premises of their home in search for answers.
Like any other wanderer who was connected to the supernatural, Morgan ended up in the city of New York where they heard about the new Law. Although they have to fight in a war after all the training, they still consider the new Law as the perfect opportunity to hopefully develop their powers, as well as find out who their real father is. Based on all the things they’ve discovered, they’re still a little terrified of what they might find out about their history.
[ p e r s o n a l i t y ]
Morgan wants nothing more than to discover who their true father is and they will stop at nothing to find the truth. Albeit a little afraid of what they might find out, Morgan is extremely determined to discover the truth. Morgan knew that they were special, especially with the things they could do with their magic; this led to their preference of solitude from other people. To some extent, Morgan is lonely and seeks a little companionship every now and then.
[ c o n n e c t i o n s ]
↠ Morgan is new to New York or the Shadow World and has yet to form any connections
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PREFACE: Although trans men have different obstacles in life than cis men, they are still men and should be thought of as ‘men’ before anything else.
VOCABULARY
Trans man: a person who was assigned a female sex at birth, but identifies as a man
FtM: Female-to-Male (transition)
Binding: compressing one’s chest to appear smaller or flatter, using compression shirts underneath their clothes or other methods
Packing: the process of creating a male-looking and/or male-feeling bulge in one's crotch; this can be accomplished through a home-made or store-bought pants stuffer, or through a realistic-looking prosthetic device; packing devices may be referred to as a "packer"; see example here (NSFW)
STP: Stand to Pee; device designed to aid the user in standing to pee at a urinal or toilet; some packers are also STP devices (NSFW); see example here (NSFW)
HRT / T: Hormone Replacement Therapy / Testosterone; trans men who are transitioning medically are prescribed testosterone, which allows them to look more masculine
Top Surgery: a procedure that removes breast issue and creates a flat chest; this is the most common surgery sought by trans men
Dysphoria: unease, uncomfortablity, dissatisfaction, and/or disassociation with one’s body/certain body parts/etc
YOUR CHARACTER’S TRANSITION TIMELINE
This may be different for different trans men, but here is an example ‘transition timeline’:
character realizes they are transgender
character starts going by a chosen name and dressing masculine and binding (some trans men prefer being feminine, however)
character comes out to friends/family
character begins therapy, preferably seeing a therapist experienced in gender therapy
character goes to doctor/endocrinologist to start HRT (note: many doctors/endocrinologists require a letter from a gender therapist)
character starts T and starts their medical transition
character legally changes their name
character may (or may not) have surgery
note: Many medical procedures and even HRT are not covered by insurance. Your character might have to pay for all of this out of pocket, which may be an obstacle for your character.
YOUR CHARACTER’S DAILY LIFE
Binding: If a trans man has not had top surgery, they may bind their chests every day. Compression shirts, worn underneath ‘regular’ shirts or even under multiple layers, are often used and widely accepted as the safest method. Other methods, such as using tape and/or ace bandages, can be dangerous. Binding every day, no matter what method, may cause back/torso pain and breathing issues. (Note: Some trans men don't bind at all due to personal preference, comfort issues, or because they may have small chests.)
Testosterone or ‘T’: Many trans men begin their medical transition by starting hormone replacement therapy (HRT), wherein they are prescribed testosterone by a trans-friendly doctor/endocrinologist. The most common method to administer testosterone is via injection. Many trans men are able to give themselves these injections at home after the doctor performs the first injection. Injectable T is typically administered between once a week to once every three weeks. Not every trans man has the same dose; some choose to start (edit/update: they must work with their doctor) at a higher dose in hopes of experiencing changes faster, while other trans men start at lower doses to experience a gradual change. Many doctors also require blood tests once every few months, in case their dose needs to be adjusted.
Affects of T:
Thickening of the vocal chords and deepening of the voice
Facial hair growth (mustache and/or beard growth)
Increased body hair growth (notably on arms, legs, chest, belly, and back)
Increased body musculature
Enlargement of the clitoris
Cessation of menses (monthly periods)
Potential hair loss at the temples and crown of the head, resulting in a more masculine hairline; possibly male-pattern baldness
Migration of body fat to a more masculine pattern (i.e., fat deposits shifting from hips, thighs and buttocks to the abdomen area)
Increased activity of the skin’s oil glands (i.e., skin becomes more oily, which may result in acne)
Increase in red blood cells (RBC)
Change in cholesterol levels may occur-- the "good" cholesterol (HDL) may go down and the "bad" cholesterol (LDL) may go up.
Scent of body odors and urine may change
Skin may become rougher in feeling and/or appearance
Increase in sex drive
Being Pre-T or Non-T: A lot of trans men start T later in life (or not at all!), due to a variety of circumstances. Although they may or may not be masculine in appearance, they are still men, and should be referred to by their preferred pronouns.
Going off/Staying on T: Some trans men begin HRT and stop after a certain period (example: 2 years) because they are satisfied with the results. Many affects of testosterone therapy are long-lasting, like a deepened voice, enlarged clitoris, and hair growth. Some trans men stay on T for their entire lives.
Passing: Passing (or ‘passing’ in public as your gender identity) can be difficult even for trans men who have started HRT. Sometimes your character may be referred to as the wrong pronouns and mistaken as the wrong gender, and this may be an obstacle in their lives. It is also worth mentioning that many trans men pass very well -- in fact, you have probably met quite a few trans people in your life without ever knowing it.
Coming Out: Coming out is a very dramatic and rough time for many trans people. Because of the stigmas, myths, and general attitude that many people have about transgender people, your character may lose friends and their familial relationships may be damaged. Often times, parents go through a ‘grieving process’, where they ‘grieve’ the child they thought they had (in this case, a daughter) and may (or may not) eventually accept the child they have (in this case, a son). In extreme cases, trans people are kicked out of their homes and/or may lose their jobs.
SURGERIES
Some trans men never have surgery. Your character does not need to have surgery to be a trans man.
Top surgeries (most common)
Double Incision/Bilateral Mastectomy: The double incision technique is effective for individuals with a medium to large amount of breast tissue (cup size C and above, often also recommended for cup size B). This method often results in noticeable scars on either side of one’s chest, although they may fade with time. see example (left)
Keyhole/Peri-areolar: The keyhole and peri-areolar techniques are effective for individuals with small amounts of breast tissue (cup size A or smaller is ideal; sometimes recommended by certain surgeons for cup size B). While this method has minimal scarring, nipple placement may not be ideal and one’s chest may not appear completely flat. see example (right)
Bottom surgeries (uncommon)
Many trans men choose not to get any bottom/genital surgeries due to lack of satisfaction with the procedures (many trans men believe the procedure/results need to be improved vastly before they would consider surgery), lack of money, satisfaction with their genitals, or other personal reasons. EDIT/UPDATE: There are still many trans men who get these surgeries and are very happy with the results. I do not mean to diminish the success of some of these surgeries or shame those who get them -- I merely meant to communicate that there are many trans men who do not get these surgeries for the above reasons.
Metoidioplasty: takes advantage of the fact that ongoing testosterone treatment in a trans man typically causes his clitoris to grow longer (it is not uncommon to see an increase in size to about the length of one's thumb). By cutting the ligament that holds the clitoris in place under the pubic bone, as well as cutting away some of the surrounding tissue, the surgeon is able to create a small phallus from the elongated clitoris; results in a natural looking (albeit too small for penetration), erotically sensate penis; one may also opt for urethral extension (allowing one to urinate via their penis) and testicular implants
Phalloplasty: Phalloplasty involves the construction of a penis using donor skin from other areas of the body. Depending on the type of phalloplasty procedure, skin is typically taken from the abdomen, groin/leg, forearm, and/or side of the upper torso and grafted onto the pubic area. Phalloplasty usually involves a urethral lengthening procedure so that the patient can urinate through the penis. Erections are usually achieved with either a malleable rod implanted permanently or inserted temporarily in the penis, or with an implanted pump device. Although this will result in the ability to penetrate during sex, erotic sensation may be changed or diminished.
Other surgeries
Hysterectomy and oophorectomy (removal of the uterus and ovaries, respectively)
WRITING SEX WITH A TRANS MAN
Genital terms: Some trans men refer to their clitoris as their cock/dick/etc, while some are comfortable with calling it a clit/clitoris.
Penetration/toys: Because pre-op or non-op trans men are unable to penetrate their partners naturally, toys like strap-ons may be used. While they cannot feel via toys, many trans men (and people in general) find using them very satisfying/erotic.
Different strokes for different folks!: Some trans men like being penetrated vaginally and some trans men hate having their vagina touched whatsoever. Some trans men also enjoy anal penetration, while others do not.
Dysphoria: Some pre-top trans men might want to keep their binder/some of their clothes on during sex due to being uncomfortable with their bodies. Some love being naked! (Again, different strokes for different folks.)
REMINDER: Sex with a trans guy is like sex with anyone else. Fingers, hands, rubbing/grinding, oral sex, toys, etc can all be used to achieve orgasm, if all partners are consenting! Although some trans men may feel a need to penetrate, some might not. There are lots of ways to have sex!
EDIT/UPDATE: IMPORANT: SEXUAL DYSPHORIA: I did not include this in my original guide and I apologize. Some trans men may not at all be comfortable with sex (or have certain limits, like the binder/clothes one mentioned above) due to dysphoria.
While there are some trans guys who are comfortable enough to engage in sex often, there are also some trans guys who are not comfortable with any kind of sexual activity (not because they are asexual, but because they have dysphoria).
Dysphoria can range from mild to severe, and may depend on certain factors (for example, a character may experience more dysphoria one day than they do the next) or social situations.
HAVING A FAMILY/MARRIAGE WITH A TRANS MAN
Pregnancy: Some trans men are comfortable becoming pregnant and having their own children, and some are not. (While pregnant/breast-feeding, a trans man would usually stop HRT. The affects of HRT are often long-lasting, so their voice would not rebound back to its original pitch, for example.) While HRT may affect fertility, many trans men have little difficulty becoming pregnant.
Adoption: Due to the prejudices in society, it may be difficult for a trans man to adopt. However, it is not impossible. A trans man may have an easier time adopting if they are married.
Coming Out to In-Laws: Because details of one’s body are personal and irrelevant to anyone except a person and their partners, trans people have no obligation to come out to their partner(s)’s family.
MYTHS
“Trans men can have surgeries resulting in a perfectly-functioning penis.” This is false. Too often, we have seen (the few) trans man characters in RPs have a ‘magic surgery’ to make their genitals perfect replicas of cis men. While you do have your freedom of fiction (which we respect), it is a reality that trans men do not have a ‘perfect’ surgery to transform their genitals. In fact, many trans men are so unimpressed by the current bottom surgery options available to them that they opt to not have bottom surgery at all. (see Surgeries > Bottom surgeries above for more details) EDIT/UPDATE: There are still many trans men who get these surgeries and are very happy with the results. I do not mean to diminish the success of some of these surgeries or shame those who get them -- I merely meant to communicate that there are many trans men who do not get these surgeries for the above reasons.
“All transgender people have gender identity issues from a very young age.” This is false, and a very common myth. More often than not, we see gender identity issues, especially among trans men, flourish during teenage years as opposed to childhood. Someone who realizes they are transgender at the age of twenty is no less transgender than a person who realizes they are transgender at the age of two.
“Most trans men once identified as lesbian, and they are attracted to women.” This is false. Many people tend to believe that all transgender people must be attracted to the opposite sex (of their gender identity). Trans men can be gay, pansexual, bisexual, etc. Sexuality is completely different from gender identity.
IN SUMMARY
Trans men can make great characters! Their transgenderism can have very little to do with their character, or a lot. We hope this guide provided you with enough information to consider representing trans men in your RPs. If you have any questions, please message us at gsmrpcommunity.
Hi! We are personally not familiar with this term, so this information has been taken directly from Wikipedia.
Otherkin are those who identify as partially or entirely non-human. Some say that they are, in spirit if not in body, not human. This is explained by some members of the otherkin community as possible through reincarnation, having a nonhuman soul, ancestry, or symbolic metaphor. Scholars categorize this identity claim as “religious”, because it is largely based on supernatural beliefs.
Otherkin largely identify as mythical creatures, with others identifying as creatures from fantasy or popular culture. Examples include: angels, demons, dragons, elves, fairies, sprites, aliens, and cartoon characters. Many otherkin believe in the existence of a multitude of parallel/alternative universes, which would explain the existence and the possibility to relate to fantastical beings and fictional characters.With regards to their online communities, otherkin largely function without formal authority structures, and mostly focus on support and information gathering, often dividing into more specific groups based on kintype. There are occasional offline gatherings, but the otherkin network is an almost entirely online phenomenon.Some otherkin (such as elvenkin) claim they are allergic to iron (and products of modern technology), whilst other otherkin (such as dragonkin) claim that having no allergies is a sign of being an otherkin. Some otherkin also claim to be especially empathic and attuned to nature. Some claim to be able to shapeshift mentally or astrally—meaning that they experience the sense of being in their particular form while not actually changing physically.
If you are interested in learning more about this, here is a link to the Wikipedia article. You may also check out the #otherkin tag or blogs such as thatotherkinfeel, kinfessions, or therianhelpdesk.
If you have any other questions, we will do our best to answer them. We hope this helped!
First off, thank for you making this blog. I saw your faceclaim masterlist and if you're open to some suggestions there are Ines Rau, Michelle Hendley, Gigi Gorgeous, Alex Bertie, Jay Kelly, Ian Harvie, Hari Nef, Juliana Huxtable, Alexis Arquette, Candis Cayne and Lea T.
Thank you very much for your suggestions! We’ve updated our /faces list.
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Common Identities & Common Gender-Centric Terms
Gender Identity: a person's internal self-awareness of being either male or female, masculine or feminine, or something between or separate; a person’s gender identity may or may not match their biological sex
Gender Dysphoria: feelings of unease or being uncomfortable with one’s sex, body, or social gender contructs
HRT: Hormone Replacement Therapy; for trans people who are medically transitioning from one sex to another
Cis/Cisgender: a description for a person whose gender identity, gender expression, and biological sex all align (example: a person who has female biological sex and identifies as female is ‘cis’)
Trans/Transgender: a blanket term used to describe all people who are not cisgender
Transsexual: a person whose gender identity is the binary opposite of their biological sex, who may undergo medical treatments to change their biological sex
Trans man: a person who was assigned a female sex at birth, but identifies as a man
Trans woman: a person who was assigned a male sex at birth, but identifies as a woman
FtM: ‘female to male’ -- someone who is transitioning from their biological sex of female, to male; may be referred to as a trans man or transmasculine
MtF: ‘male to female’ -- someone who is transitioning from their biological sex of male, to female; may be referred to as a trans woman or transfeminine
Androgynous: partly male and partly female in appearance; of indeterminate sex
Intersex: when a person is born with sexual anatomy, reproductive organs, and/or chromosome patterns that do not fit the typical definition of male or female; like all other people, intersex people have various gender identities -- most identify as either a woman or man, while some may identify as neither exclusively a woman nor exclusively a man; some intersex individuals may be raised as a woman or man but then identify with another gender identity later in life
Drag King: a person who consciously performs "masculinity," usually in a show or theatre setting, presenting an exaggerated form of masculine expression, often times done by a woman -- note: cross-dressing or performing drag does not make one transgender; one may be cisgender and also cross-dress or perform drag
Drag Queen: a person who consciously performs "femininity," usually in a show or theatre setting, presenting an exaggerated form of feminine expression, often times done by a man -- note: cross-dressing or performing drag does not make one transgender; one may be cisgender and also cross-dress or perform drag
Genderqueer: a catch-all category for gender identities that are not exclusively masculine or feminine; identities which are thus outside of the gender binary and cisnormativity
Bigender: a person who identifies as both binary genders, male and female
Genderfluid: a person whose gender identity may change or switch, or having no set lines between their gender identity, making it ‘fluid’
Agender: identifying with no gender
Third Gender: a person who does not identify with the traditional genders of “man” or “woman,” but identifies with another gender
Two-Spirit: a term traditionally used by Native American people to recognize individuals who possess qualities or fulfill roles of both genders
ORCUS TAHLANFELOTH ORLEUNDLIN TEASON’VALSA || Face Claim: Andreja Pejic
Age: Sixteen Trillion
Date of Birth: March 2nd
Member Group: Elf
Sexual Orientation: Up To Player
Occupation: Counselor to The Elves
Distinguishing Marks: None
GENERAL APPEARANCE
Ocrus is a delicate beauty with a storm raging under her skin. A regal flower in the City of Fern, she is hailed as a prized member of their community, known by all to be gracious and forthcoming. Her occupancy in the elven city is regarded as sacred, for the ancient creature is, before all else, a truly divine spirit.
The counselor adorns her body in silks of midnight, with golds and fine celestial metals jeweled over her spindly limbs. Her attire rarely matches the earthen demeanor others of her kind drape themselves in; those nature-inspired tones being too mortal for her to ever chance wearing. Instead, Ocrus bathes in the colors of the atmosphere, covering herself only in dark hues of black, and the porcelain sheen of the stars.
She is taller than most of the elves who have found their way to Fern, with rumors that her tree-like stature is what makes her so close to the goddesses. And while her height is a spectacle, it is not what makes those around Ocrus both fear her, and bow to her.
PERSONALITY
One never knows who they will meet when encountering the counselor, for the goddesses themselves speak through the elven vessel, and use her skin to travel between their realm and Earth’s. Since birth, the beautiful child has been able to open her mouth and speak fluently in ancient elvish tongues thought to have whispered, once upon a time, by the goddesses themselves as they bent the universe of The Seven Islands into creation. Because of this, Ocrus herself has spent much of her life learning to establish who she is distinctly from the divine that use her voice as their own. She has worked tirelessly to define her own wants, desires, and interests, in order for her to keep hold of who she is as a person.
But this, of course, has proven to be quite the task. In earlier years, Ocrus had trouble with blacking out whenever a goddess would possess her figure, and it would always leave her physically drained. But with time and diligence she has since been able to utilize the energy that fills her with each possession to fuel the storm below her skin, and wield it to make her an omnipotent figure among her kind.
Ocrus herself is unyielding, poised, and utterly determined. Both cursed and blessed with being the median between two worlds, she has grown passionate about the well-being of her people, and what she considers their displacement in Athoria. She is articulate, ethereal, and a powerful member of Fern who has no qualms about telling even the Attos of their tucked away civilization how to meet the standards of their titles. But Ocrus is also one who looks down her nose at those she deems unworthy of their position, which can sometimes be everyone.
She is not like the others. With what feels like the weight of two realms on her shoulders, there is a darkness to the illuminating creature that she wears on her sleeve like a badge of honor. Darkness that has sprung from knowing too much, and having lens of the world through the gaze of higher beings. Though, the speculation about the midnight clad elf are true; she dabbles in dark arts, and has been known to use her powers for wickedness before. Some have even dared to call her a forked-tongue witch.
Gifted with unruly magick, speaker for the Goddesses, and counselor to the entire Elven race, Ocrus is a frightening power that, if not on your side, will cause the world around you to crumble.
HISTORY
For millions of years, Ocrus had known she was different from the other elves. The child of an Attos, she grew up learning to love the Goddesses, and invest herself wholly into worshiping them; to call upon them whenever she needed strength and grounding. She was still a child when the first one introduced themselves to her in their physical form, atop the mountain that overlooked her mother’s kingdom. The Goddess of Death had touched the young elf’s forehead, and told her that from then on, it would be she who would become the voice her kind needed. As swiftly as the figure had appeared, it faded. Back then, Ocrus wasn’t sure what the Goddess had meant. It wasn’t until the war that she learned for sure.
But before devastation consumed her family’s land, her gifts had showed themselves. She spoke dead languages thought to have been used by the Goddesses themselves during the creation of The Seven Islands. She had told her Attos mother what they whispered in her ear during rituals and prayer ceremonies. She had told her childish peers what the Goddesses’ had in store for them, and how their own divine heaven differed from the elvish landscape. It was never something any of them could ignore. The elf’s gifts were too rare, too precise, for them to have shrugged her off as simply imaginative.
Word of her gift spread far and wide, and over the years, she became her people’s counselor. Listening to their problems, and guiding them steadily onto the right path. By the time the great war came between Fae and Elf, they had gone from whispers in her ear, to full fledged possessions; the spirits using her frame as a weapon to do their bidding, and spread important messages. It is because of Ocrus’ gift that so many were able to flee to Earth, following closely behind their counselor.
Now, Ocrus has visions of a world made of fire and ruin that will one day befall all of Earth. She only hopes that her home-realm will be resurrected from its dead state before they, too, are dragged down with the blue planet.
Last Updated: April 22 2015
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Sexual & Romantic Identities
-sexual: sexually attracted to ______; many also use -sexual terms to describe their romantic attraction as well as their sexual attraction
-romantic: romantically attracted to ______; this may differ from one’s sexual attraction
examples: 1. Finn is heterosexual; he is both sexually and romantically attracted to women. 2. Billy is bisexual and homoromantic; while he is sexually attracted to both men and women, he is romantically attracted to men. (see more examples below)
-sexual & -romantic
Heterosexual/Heteroromantic: sexually and/or romantically attracted to people of the opposite sex
Homosexual/Homoromantic: sexually and/or romantically attracted to people of the same sex
Bisexual/Biromantic: sexually and/or romantically attracted to both the same sex and the opposite sex
Pansexual/Panromantic: sexually and/or romantically attracted to people of any sex or gender identity
Asexual/Aromantic: a person who is not interested in or does not desire sexual (in the case of ‘asexual’) or romantic (in the case of ‘aromantic’) activity
Demisexual: sexually attracted to a person only after a strong emotional bond is formed
Polysexual/Polyromantic: sexually and/or romantically attracted to multiple genders/sexes
Androsexual/Androromantic: sexually and/or romantically attracted to males, men, and/or masculinity
Gynesexual/Gyneromantic: sexually and/or romantically attracted to females, women, and/or femininity
Skoliosexual/Skolioromantic: sexually and/or romantically attracted to non-binary, genderqueer and transsexual/transgender people and expressions (people who aren’t identified as cisgender)
examples
These are examples of dynamic character sexual/romantic identities. You may choose any combination of sexual/romantic identities for your characters -- or none at all. Sexuality and romantic attraction is sometimes not easily labeled.
Panromantic & Demisexual: Andrea is panromantic and demisexual. She may find people of any sex/gender/gender identity romantically attractive (panromantic), but only experiences sexual attraction when a strong bond is formed with a person (demisexual).
Heteroromantic & Asexual: Sarah is heteroromantic and asexual. She is romantically attracted to people of the opposite sex (heteroromantic), but may not experience sexual attraction or may not desire sexual activity (asexual).
Pansexual & Aromantic: Taylor is pansexual and aromantic. They may find people of any sex/gender/gender identity sexually attractive (pansexual), but may not experience romantic attraction or may not desire romantic activity (aromantic).
