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I just need to have a little rant, so I’ve come back to my old tumblr!

I’ll start by saying I fully understand not wanting to have sex, or that things do come up. Life gets in the way, mental health isn’t great, you’re ill, have to be up early, just don’t feel like it. That’s 100% fine and I’m not up for it 100% of the time either.

I have a tendency to feel like the world is against me or take things personally anyway, regardless of the situation, and usually I understand that it’s not, and it’s just my mental health.

However this is my second serious relationship and second sexual partner, and it’s hard to feel like the world isn’t against me sometimes when it comes to sex.

I swear something always comes up, whether it’s illness, period, just too tired, too late, we have to be up early, or earlier on in the day we’ve made plans to have sex later, or it’s been suggested, and yet it comes to later on and someone’s feeling ill.

It’s like I get over one hurdle and then another one appears. It’s actually starting to feel like someone is preventing me from having sex.

I’m not saying that sex must be number 1 priority, and I get that it can’t be, I really do. But when shit starts off great and is the best sex you’ve had and you’re always horny, and always want them, or they’ll even turn you on and then fuck all happens beyond that despite you anticipating it, it gets damn frustrating.

I don’t feel like I can speak about it because I know where it will lead. “I can’t help it, I’ve not been well, we’ve been so busy, mental health, I’m tired.” All valid reasons.

But that doesn’t change the fact that I am in a better mood when I’ve had an O, or that I would love to let someone else take the lead, take control, and not have to think for myself. I just want to be cared for and feel loved and wanted, really, at the end of the day I guess that’s what it comes down to. But there is always another obstacle and it never fucking happens, and I’m convinced the world is working against me and I’m just not meant to have good sex, and so far, that seems to be around the 9 month - 1 year mark, and it suddenly stops.

Twice. Two relationships one after the other it’s happened with. I adore my boyfriend, he’s my absolute soulmate, I want to spend the rest of my life with him. But sex would also be really nice. I can do it by myself, but I feel so guilty, and I feel like it’ll affect his mental health even more if I do, he’ll think I don’t want him, which is far from the truth. But idk where else to go.

Not having that release really affects my mental health too. Which I hate that just having an O makes that much of a difference, but it does.

Ughhhhhhhhh

Rant over.

guessimnevergonnalearn

I came back to this blog to have a similar ish rant, and while scrolling through my old posts, I find this. This would have been about 4 yrs ago, and let me tell you, nothing has changed lmao

emil

hello tumblr i had a dream about a cat that everyone loved named Soupy so i wanted to draw her for you

thefingerfuckingfemalefury

Reblog if you love Soupy lets make a dream come true <3

thefrenchpaws-deactivated202201

she’s trying really hard to be a good flower girl too

jovemcarioca

liquidstar

theres a hole in the wall in my brothers’ room because they were fighting (for fun not anger) in there once and one of them knocked the other into the wall so hard his head made that hole, so they put two small skeletons in there for decoration

liquidstar

they tapped up the “décor” sign up because according to them the skeleton is named décor and the one underneath him is his husband. also worth noting that they found 2 dollars in there the other day

liquidstar

FVGBH;SXDCFVGNJNFKLEOI45UT6Y

jumpingjacktrash

genuinely friendly reminder

if you’re staring down that looming heat wave and you don’t have ac, or your ac can’t keep up:

put your feet in a tub of water.

just regular tapwater. if you don’t have a bucket or washtub you can use, run a few inches in the bathtub and pull up a chair to the side of it.

this got me through a summer in a sunbaked attic apartment with no AC, in minneapolis, where highs in the 90s are pretty much guaranteed for at least a couple weeks every summer. it was at LEAST 110 in that apartment every day of that hot stretch. i cannot overstate how much soaking your feet helps.

you can also fill a plant mister from the cold tap and mist yourself.

m0nstrum

Another tip if you need just a quick, brief cooldown - run your wrists under cold water! This saved my ass working in a hot haunted house in the Midwest when summer decided to bugger off late some years. Also, plenty of popsicles!

jumpingjacktrash

oh yeah, rinsing your hands/wrists is a big help. i learned to just do that as a matter of habit while doing yardwork, even if i don’t feel too hot yet – just run the hose over my hands and forearms every so often in between tasks. turns lawnmowing from ‘guaranteed heatstroke’ to ‘pretty tolerable’.

oh, which reminds me – don’t wait until you’re Suffering to do cool-down things. drink before you’re panting from thirst. get into the shade before you feel sunburny. get ahead of it! prevention is the name of the game!

llovinghome

r0kita

what if we kissed on the broom (and we’re both cats)

haydenpanettieres

BROOKE DAVIS in every episode One Tree Hill: ↪ 2.15 "Unopened Letter to the World"

romcommunist

front facing camera be like: heres you (derogatory)

anxietyproblem

tiktoksthataregood-ish

stopaskingformykik

There’s no way you’re prepared to hear the name

mioxenoblade

Lots of trans people, if not all, have slipped up and misgendered themselves. We’ve all used the wrong phrases, pronouns, deadnamed ourselves, everything you can think of is probably just as common as the last. Accidently misgendering yourself is simply that, an accident. It doesn’t mean you’re “fake,” you’ve spent your whole life being referred to a specific way, you’re bound to mess up. It’s ok. Just forgive yourself and move on.

laffertys

NALEY SOUNDTRACK (insp.)

badarabian