just tryna get my head in the game

sophie | 20 | theoretical physics | tracking #haphazardstudy

[haphazardstudy]

I’ve never worked this much in one day in my life! Can you tell I have an exam tomorrow for a module I’d never revised for before this week?

[haphazardstudy]

it’s a mad concept to me that people are having classes online while my uni just gave up on teaching and put our exams online hahah

[bitchassgone-deactivated2021011]

do people on tumblr like. realize that friendships arent therapy

[bitchassgone-deactivated2021011]

this is how yall end up going around calling every ex-friend your abuser. its nice for your friends to be able to drop everything for you when youre having a bad time, but its literally NOT mandatory. your friends should not have to ignore their own problems to fix yours. get some therapy.

[bitchassgone-deactivated2021011]

as a friend, you are allowed to say “i would really love to help you right now, but i cant push back my own issues to help you. im going through my own problems right now, and thats what i need to focus on”. it is NOT selfish. you arent going to be of any help to the people you care about if youre in bad shape and not taking care of yourself. its only going to make you worse for wear.

[haphazardstudy]

hey sis !! I was wondering what generation of iPad you use for good notes ?? I absolutely adore how well your notes look !! take care during these time :)

heya! thank you so much 💛 I’m pretty sure mine is the 6th gen ipad! I really love it, the ipad pro does look incredible (some of my friends have it lol) but I rly can’t afford to splash that much cash & honestly the cheaper ipads are still absolutely incredible! hope this helps, and I hope you’re keeping well too, you’re so sweet! x

[muddystudy]

the corner near my window is the coziest place to read✨

[haphazardstudy]

08.04.20 || I haven’t been active on this blog in so long that I honestly forgot it existed until very recently, oops… my last post was just after I finished my exams & 1st year of uni, and now here I am revising for my 2nd year exams! just trying to do my best, that’s all that can be done

[just-another-martian]

5.01.20, april went by a little too fast

in which she makes yet another attempt at being productive ("this time is the one" she tells herself for the hundredth time in 7 weeks) and is soon overwhelmed by academic responsibilities, emails, and masters applications.

[haphazardstudy]

29.04.19 || Had my first online exam yesterday (see ya later quantum physics!) & so far today I’ve done the grocery shop and made banana bread with my mum! Hope everyone’s having a good day 💛

[atmos-studies]

struggling to focus today. trying to bash out some quantum mechanics - let’s see how that goes!

[haphazardstudy]

you've gotta be the first person I've seen studying quantum physics on my dash! that's what I spend all my time doing these days so it's cool to see someone else uhhhh not-suffering too hahah

[atmos-studies]

“not-suffering” is definitely an untrue statement 😂 it’s interesting but god it’s hard!

[haphazardstudy]

you’ve got that right hahah 😅

[byologee]

4.21.2020 I want to keep studying cranial nerves…. also wow look at me coming out with original content lmaoooo 

[haphazardstudy]

for the smart kid syndrome thing-I still struggle with it a lot, especially with new academic projects and skills I need to learn. i've discovered the best way out is through, unfortunately. Start small on something that you're scared of starting. Make a bullet point list. Read an article/start a chapter in a textbook. Make the first step so small that it feels insignificant, but it'll be a foot in the door. I hope this helps a little bit!!

thank you, I think you're right, I've just gotta tackle what I'm avoiding in some small way! x

[haphazardstudy]

really tho, if anyone has advice for overcoming the "smart kid syndrome" / fear of failure and therefore also of studying, please message me or send me an ask or something because I'm starting to really come to terms with the fact that this is something I struggle with and don't know what to do

[haphazardstudy]

top 5 scents

love this!!! I’ve gotta say lemon, vanilla, clean cotton/laundry, coffee & fresh baking yummmm - I am just realising now that these are nearly all food-related hahah I guess I just love food

[haphazardstudy]

Top 5 books about physics ✨

oohhh completely exposing myself here but I really haven’t read any books about physics! sure I’ve read bits of textbooks and all but that wasn’t exactly for enjoyment hahah I should definitely try to fix that

[breastforce]

“Particularly prone to serious procrastination problems are children who grew up with unusually high expectations placed on them…or else they exhibited exceptional talents early on, and thereafter “average” performances were met with concern and suspicion from parents and teachers.”

Holy SHIT

[t-ycho]

WELL THEN

[appropriately-inappropriate]

Yep.

They actually tested me for a learning disability in high school because I was consistently failing math.

They discovered that I actually scored in the 80th percentile in that sort of learning.

Problem was, in every other subject, I was in the 99.8th percentile.

I had never learned how to study because I never needed to—and then, when something proved to be even the slightest bit challenging, my brain went

“LOL nope this is impossible abort”

Meanwhile, this entire time I’m scraping by in subjects like English. The assignments I did turn in, I’d score top marks—but I’d avoid turning in projects I didn’t think were “good” enough.

Essentially, my brain had two settings: “100%” or “0%”.

This sort of Baby Genius shit makes kids and adolescents neurotic and self-destructive.

[cassiebones]

We learned about this in Child Development. And we learned to reward hard work and not good job. Like don’t say to a child, “oh you are so smart.” Say “Oh did worked so hard.” Be proud of the child, not the achievement.

[beyondthetemples-ooc]

Be proud of the child, not the achievement.

[thalassarche]

Decades of research have been done on this by Dr. Carol Dweck. When the emphasis is placed on effort (a factor people can control) rather than talent (an innate skill), it’s a lot easier to see mistakes as a learning opportunity rather than something you just won’t ever be good at. And kids who were encouraged by effort were also more willing to take on more challenging work and considered it a lot more fun, while the kids who were praised for their intelligence were reluctant to put themselves in a situation where they might lose that identifier as a “smart kid” by making mistakes, so they preferred to do work they were confident they could master. Also, the kids praised for effort wanted to compare their results to kids who got higher scores, to see where they made their mistakes, while those praised for intelligence wanted to compare their results to kids who scored lower, to reassure themselves.

Not only does this set up “smart” students for a lot of trouble when they enter college and start being regularly challenged, the effects last long beyond that. It can be very hard for the “you’re so smart!” kids to unlearn as they become adults and struggle with even common adult things, and are afraid to ask for help because of that lesson they learned from misguided praise that they are supposed to be smart and supposed to know the answers. 

[kyanve]

…Honestly +1 here.  It’s very well researched and documented and yeah.  Making the emphasis on “You succeed and we are proud of you b/c you are SMART as an intrinsic quality!” makes failure/setbacks/difficulty -TERRIFYING- b/c if you’re “smart” it doesn’t happen and if you fail that means you’re not smart and that’s what everyone’s drilled into you as your main point of worth.

And the rates of anxiety disorders among “gifted student” kids are kinda horrifying.    

[swampgallows]

This is why “you’re so smart” means absolutely nothing to me any more. It’s used as punishment as often as it’s used as praise. 

[deactivating-this-account-deact]

me: god I suck at math I need help

adults: don’t say that!! you’re smart!!!!!

me: no, I– just let me be stupid please I am begging you it is so frustrating having everyone think I’m a genius because I memorized a few equations please please please understand that I have terrible work habits and I need you guys to acknowledge that and help me–

adults: uh ok ur smart tho lol bye

[tis-i-bat-anon]

I, this explains so much. Like. When I got to eighth grade, I just, stopped turning things in if they weren’t done or if I didn’t think I did good enough

[haphazardstudy]

I just saw this post on pinterest and nearly started crying because “Essentially, my brain had two settings: “100%” or “0%”” - ouch, yep, same.

the thing is, does anyone know how to overcome this? we’ve identified the problem but does anyone know what to do about it when you’re mindset has already been ruined and you have disastrous work habits and can’t seem to overcome them?

[mjwatson]

put “top 5” anything in my ask and i will answer ok go

[thedarkestcoffeestains-deactiva]

to everyone who has already sent something to my inbox… and to everyone who wants to send me something: i’ll be answering a ton of questions tonight and maybe even tomorrow, so please send me questions, i’m bored!

[museeofmoon]

day 20/100~

I didn't find d much today, just get some daily stuff done with some reading and made some rough notes, I realised that the notes I make isn't very effective so I'm trying some of my other ways to see what works best for me,I also made some changes in my schedule so :) also goblin is such a beautiful drama, the aesthetics are so pleasing for me.

I'm happy for whatever I have and I just wanna say thank you to all the people who care for me💜

have a good day/night ✨