Re: that post I reblogged about how being avoidant in relationships will ruin those relationships
Having dissociation and other issues that make it very difficult for me to understand things has made it so abundantly clear to me when someone doesn't respect me or our relationship to each other enough to be upfront and its always so sad
The amount of times I say "I am unwell, I experience these specific symptoms and in order for us to be close friends I am going to be VERY open about this so that we can communicate in a way that works. I often misunderstand things and forget things and I can only have close relationships with people who can accommodate me asking direct questions and being very open and honest in our communication"
And then someone will go behind my back instead of communicating with me up front, or they will internalize something that was said between us rather than asking for clarification, or literally just assume I forgot something on purpose
Its fucking astounding. Its not only ableist as hell but then those people will often BLAME ME for trying to have that open communication. And it just keeps happening no matter what attempts are taken on my part to say 'please just talk to me like a person'
